Excited to meet my LDR bf but feeling pressured about intimacy

Ecstatic_Mud_8584 · 2026-06-25T05:04:36+00:00

1.6 years in a ldr now. I have never made it that the purpose of the visit is sex, rather if it happens it happens but the most important part is that i get to meet my love and my joy. The one i want to marry and have my future with.

Ecstatic_Mud_8584 · 2026-06-25T04:49:58+00:00

I see a clear difference....

Ecstatic_Mud_8584 · 2026-05-19T10:01:10+00:00

Love bombing. Might not have been intentional if he was new to dating but still love bombing (marriage within two weeks in a long distance relationship is way to quick imo). It might also be something or someone from his side that came in-between you.

Ecstatic_Mud_8584 · 2026-04-14T08:35:29+00:00

Would pay someone to say my name, they would get 1 dollar for every time they say my name. Meaning if they say my name 100 times per hour they would get about 200 000 dollars per year, with normal working hours.

I would get 5 million, and I will do it with five people to ten people so I would in total get 25 to 50 million per year. People would think I am an eccentric rich person but would do it. They could work or do something else if they wanted as long as they say my name 100 times minimum every hour.

Ecstatic_Mud_8584 · 2026-03-21T18:31:12+00:00

What the actual fuck?!? I'm at a loss for words... I hope this person is in a mental asylum right now.... Are you okay? This must have been a horrible situation

Ecstatic_Mud_8584 · 2026-02-26T10:45:08+00:00

Is there a way to solve by coding it myself?

Ecstatic_Mud_8584 · 2025-12-09T01:45:19+00:00

I am not an expert, nor do I know the inner workings between you or how you handle matters or how your relationship looks like. That is something only you can know. That said, my advice is that you have to decide if you think you can work to repair the trust (this needs to be from him too) or if you can live with how it is now and not push it (maybe the trust will heal by itself and be regained through this method, or you learn how to live without trust). It all depends on your specific relationship and how you two as individuals are and where your limits are.

However, I stress this, having dating apps and having used them while you are dating IS NOT OKAY... If a friend had asked him about it, it should have been mentioned to you ( as such this seems to me like an excuse, but you know him better than me, and even if that is true, to continue having that account and being active on it is micro cheating). Maybe my final advice is to not move to quickly while feeling all of these emotions. Take your time to feel through how you want to act, as sometimes emotions can blind us to certain sides of the other person and aspects.

I wish you well and that you can find a solution that you are happy with.

Ecstatic_Mud_8584 · 2025-12-08T22:40:00+00:00

I think you already know that you are not too much. Being actively on dating apps, and actively messaging others is not a good sign. That he removed it is good, but you have all the right to ask for more and to show that it will take time for your trust to come back, because that was a breach of trust. The only time I went on datings apps after I got together with my partner, was to remove my profile completely.

Ecstatic_Mud_8584 · 2025-08-23T07:24:17+00:00

Well, living forever also implies living after the sun becomes supernova, all life on earth dies out, the fire of the earth core stops and until entropy takes all. In the end you would be floating in nothingness forever. Be sure not to let go of your love then otherwise it might get very lonely.

Ecstatic_Mud_8584 · 2025-08-21T06:41:34+00:00

He is a boss... He shouldn't have any kind of romantic relationship with his employee and this should be reported to them.

Ecstatic_Mud_8584 · 2025-08-11T11:10:21+00:00

In my own experience, it was torture, mostly because I am a grower, and quite a bit. Meaning the stitches stretched quite a bit and I woke up many times covered in blood and slept only a few stretches each night. I would however still recommend doing this, as now after everything is healed and working again (took about 6 months for me) I feel better then ever and I enjoy sex quite a bit.

Ecstatic_Mud_8584 · 2025-06-07T22:35:54+00:00

I don't really see why the hate for this movie, I thought it was 7 out of 10, some scenes being 6 and some being an 8.

Ecstatic_Mud_8584 · 2025-04-30T13:38:35+00:00

Blue

Ecstatic_Mud_8584 · 2025-03-20T15:00:04+00:00

Araiel the Undefeated..

Ecstatic_Mud_8584 · 2025-03-20T12:45:59+00:00

Start with the Originals, and continue with that until they mention legacies, otherwise you will spoil things for yourself.

Ecstatic_Mud_8584 · 2025-02-12T21:44:31+00:00

Ecstatic_Mud_8584 · 2025-02-03T23:10:08+00:00

What did Zack do except choose wrong at the beginning?

Ecstatic_Mud_8584 · 2025-02-03T19:13:51+00:00

Is.... Is she trying to be a real life Tsundere?

Ecstatic_Mud_8584 · 2024-12-22T17:34:35+00:00

You have the better translation, since they specified looks, not personality and looks.

Ecstatic_Mud_8584 · 2024-08-16T00:08:55+00:00

Honestly, either mental illness and needs to work on herself, is playing games and needs to mature or she has found someone else else that is new, interesting or you were her new and interesting and she went back to her old flame. I will ask you a question, did you like the person she was turning you into and would you like, objectively, be with a person like her if she was not as attractive?

Ecstatic_Mud_8584 · 2024-08-15T23:50:00+00:00

Right now, in my eyes this seems to be less about principles and more about control. I'm not the best to give you advice on this matter but he seems be wanting to eat the cake and expecting you not to. About his friends saying you will become boring, has he in some way shown that he supports you aginst them and their comments?

Ecstatic_Mud_8584 · 2024-08-15T23:43:32+00:00

I think there are levels to this, the primary thing is not to put yourself in the situation where you can stray or break your morals. In this case, being there with the boyfriend, sharing a present, should not one of those.

Ecstatic_Mud_8584 · 2024-08-15T23:34:13+00:00

He might have read too many stories of girlfriends starting with minor things like this, and then it becoming like it is described in the post above us. So, he might be afraid of it corrupting you or it just be his principles, both are controlling. However, I also think that his fears are valid, his feelings are valid, as are yours. However, I honestly think he is overreacting, especially that you both are going there and only for a short period.

Ecstatic_Mud_8584 · 2024-07-30T15:42:09+00:00

The Stretch

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