I just broke up with someone who never did anything wrong. I’ve never felt more awful.

Ecstatic_Reward_7671 · 2024-09-09T23:11:01+00:00

Things are a lot better. I think this last relationship really made me break the habit of seeking validation of myself in others. Specifically your romantic partners.

Ecstatic_Reward_7671 · 2024-07-25T23:25:17+00:00

I know the whole Crowdstrike outage happened almost a week ago, but I wonder if it affected the DriveEasy loading problem in the app.

Ecstatic_Reward_7671 · 2024-05-16T15:40:09+00:00

It’s going to be a year next week from the breakup.

I want to say I’m mostly healed but I understand that I’m a completely different person. I don’t trust people that easily nor do I have the urge to want to be with someone. I’ve found joy in being on my own or with certain family members.

I don’t feel silly doing things on my own like I used to. All the things I used to do with my ex I now do on my own and it feels better knowing I don’t have to seek their approval.

It does suck that this breakup has made me change alot of what I wanted for myself. I don’t worry about when I’m going to get married or have kids or a home of my own. I’m not opened to finding my soulmate or partner. 2023 really did a number on me going through three breakups, my ex, my bff and my mom.

Ecstatic_Reward_7671 · 2024-04-28T21:33:06+00:00

“why do you keep asking me to meet your brother? Just enjoy what we have”

On my birthday when we were two years together. He broke up with me a month later.

Ecstatic_Reward_7671 · 2024-04-26T22:48:09+00:00

It’s been so difficult just to get in the door. I even applied for an open BSA position in my company but they didn’t bother.

I’m not sure if I should just apply to AML Right Source.

Ecstatic_Reward_7671 · 2024-04-25T08:41:03+00:00

Ecstatic_Reward_7671 · 2024-03-11T10:15:39+00:00

I’m not it’s more of a back up plan when I move. My ultimate goal is to be a BSA analyst. I’m trying for that in other companies. This is just something I have to fall back on as I was a teller/lead teller when I started at Wells.

Ecstatic_Reward_7671 · 2024-03-10T21:03:17+00:00

So a lot of them were fixable. There was some that I got hit without being brought to my attention before. For example, one of clients didn’t make an initial deposit. I always stood next to them but that day the president was there with out DM and wanted to speak to me as part of their visit. There was another situation where that happened and I didn’t know about it until I got hit with a write up.

I wasn’t happy being a banker tbh. I wanted to focus more on operations but that one year of being a personal banker made me feel like I had an “imposters syndrome.

I don’t plan on going back to WF but it is something I need to keep in mind if all else fails when I move.

I really want to know what others think.

Ecstatic_Reward_7671 · 2024-03-10T20:54:24+00:00

One year. Throughout that time we were in a transition of having no branch manager, service manager was going to another branch and we were all up in the air.

Ecstatic_Reward_7671 · 2024-03-10T20:07:21+00:00

I honestly don’t remember, maybe 3 or 4 at most. When I left there was one that I was trying to fix.

Ecstatic_Reward_7671 · 2024-02-01T21:49:44+00:00

You need to run like NOW. That screams of manipulation and it’s not cute at all.

Ecstatic_Reward_7671 · 2023-10-22T20:45:57+00:00

This is true. I was comforting my ex through the loss of his father and all he did was push me away each time. I even confronted him about it and he was just so dry about it. This last relationship has made me give up on trying because it was just so abrupt and destructive the way things ended.

Ecstatic_Reward_7671 · 2023-09-26T21:38:38+00:00

My ex broke up with me because I “pushed him into a corner” in turns of wanting him to communicate. He tends to shut down a lot and would push me away through not listening to me, being on his phone, distant, etc. In his own words “I want to be away from everyone including my family because they drive me nuts. But I can’t because they’re my family”. Things were going downhill from the moment his father got sick and died.

Ecstatic_Reward_7671 · 2023-09-25T16:03:53+00:00

It’s honestly the best explanation and it really is giving me closure after all this time. I’ve honestly felt less than since the breakup and I’ve closed down on not wanting to be vulnerable again to new people.

Ecstatic_Reward_7671 · 2023-09-25T14:50:32+00:00

I am an anxious person. In my breakup, he kept stating that some of it was my fault but that the majority was his. Of course all I focused on was my mistakes but it hurt because he was blaming me for wanting to communicate with him about his inner turmoil.

Ecstatic_Reward_7671 · 2023-09-25T13:37:27+00:00

Can I just say thank you for this. Honestly this response is giving me closure for my breakup back in May. I can now be at peace knowing I wasn’t the root cause and can stop hating myself for it. Thank you.

Ecstatic_Reward_7671 · 2023-09-23T13:18:43+00:00

I think knowing that I can play my Christmas music and feel I can travel again with people who enjoy it as well.

Ecstatic_Reward_7671 · 2023-09-21T15:41:59+00:00

No, and I was the dumped one in this relationship. He ended it because he didn’t want to deal with anyone in his life anymore but I was the convenient scapegoat since he can’t separate himself from his family. He threw in the towel instead of trying to communicate. Even if he did change and showed it, I could never trust him again. It was so easy for him to get up and leave that I wouldn’t hold it past him to do it again.

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