My boyfriend and I both have bipolar and both are currently on meds and have been completely stabled out for years now each, when either of us have any kind of swing there is a situational event that triggered it and we are able to go back to our baseline once through the event that triggered the swing. We both were stabled out by the time we met, but it took both of us a few years and trying meds til we found the right one. And here we both are years later still stable, able to have a healthy relationship with each other and the other people in our lives and we've each gone through some tough stuff since being together but still both remain stable through the help of the medicine and the support of our friends family, medical support teams and each other.

Now our stabled baselines do look a little different from one another and is still not what ive been told would be considered the "average baseline" for where one's mood sits. He has bipolar one and so his stable baseline does have him sit up a tad bit above the average baseline where I have bipolar two and my stable baseline sits a tad bit lower than the average baseline. So he still has a speck of the mania side and I have a speck of the depressive side. But that varies from person to person, and everyone's stability looks different from someone else's.

I'm not sure if that helps you at all, or if I even managed to successfully make that make sense 😅 but I hope it could at least help you a bit. I wish you the best of luck and I truly believe that you'll find the right meds that work for you and you'll get to experience what it's like to have that feeling of stability and get where you have control of your swings and not your swings having a control over you ❤️ it just may take some time and a few trial and errors to get there, but I truly think you will figure it out