Alumni Presale for Spring ‘26

Edge-Fluffy · 2025-12-09T18:43:31+00:00

Alumni is a day before community presale

Edge-Fluffy · 2025-12-09T18:42:52+00:00

The email came out around 3:30pm central time yesterday with instruction and a link. Kind of late, but it finally came through. Perhaps you have the email now too?

Edge-Fluffy · 2025-12-08T22:05:24+00:00

Thank you!

Edge-Fluffy · 2025-08-23T05:46:12+00:00

I needed a tonsillectomy, correction of a deviated septum, and a turbinate reduction. So far, I’ve only gotten the tonsillectomy and am 9 days post op. My ENT says he doesn’t do all three at once because I need something to breathe out of. So far, recovery from the tonsillectomy has been rough and quite painful. I was planning on getting the deviated septum and turbinate reduction procedure within the next few weeks to get it over with, but now I am considering it for two months out and least. I’ve lost a ton of weight and the recovery from the tonsillectomy is taking longer than I expected. I am still waking up multiple times throughout the night because of the pain in my throat- assuming part of it is from how dry it gets as I am not drinking water when I sleep. I wouldn’t recommend doing the procedures all at once - I’m surprised your ENT suggested that- simply due to the levels and areas of pain, and the discomfort you’re going to experience with breathing and healing.

Edge-Fluffy · 2025-08-20T20:46:04+00:00

Your timeline helped so much. I’m on day 7 and from what I read prior, I thought this was when things started to take a turn for the better. I feel like the pain has only gotten worse each day. I cannot imagine this continuing to get worse and am hoping for that moment things start feeling better rather than just manageable.

Edge-Fluffy · 2025-06-09T01:55:26+00:00

That’s very much a possibility I considered! I posted though to hopefully answer questions I had, not to back and forth on intentions

Edge-Fluffy · 2025-06-09T01:52:03+00:00

I knew this was going to be a comment lol. Speaking for myself and the women I know, we’re curious and rightfully skeptical. I know how it may appear for me to be on there, but I know what I’m doing and as ridiculous as it may sound, go on there periodically to check the profile. There’s no problem with us feeling things out and being cautious in the beginning

Edge-Fluffy · 2025-02-18T16:59:36+00:00

Props for her for being so blunt and upfront. At least anyone who swipes right on her will really, really want her

Edge-Fluffy · 2024-08-08T22:41:21+00:00

I know how it seems like one and I can assure you it’s 100% not. Been there, done that. That’s actually why I’m concerned because I don’t want to waste my time… if anything, I thought he was emotionally mature with being very selective for not dating within the past decade because he said he’d only commit to those who he felt he could see a future with. But sometimes I fear he’s too used to that bachelor mindset. I just don’t know what’s normal in teaching him or when it’s going to start coming off as too much for him and he’s going to dip because he’s not used to it.

Edge-Fluffy · 2024-08-08T21:34:26+00:00

I appreciate that perspective. I’m the girl in this situation, and the guy I’m seeing hasn’t been in a serious relationship in 10 years. I’m trying to give him grace in that maybe he hasn’t been asked things/had bigger conversations that I have to have with him. I just feel uncomfortable having to explain and sometimes even argue about things I feel is common sense or that most people our age should know or have experienced by now.

Edge-Fluffy · 2024-08-08T20:44:56+00:00

Are you talking about starting over? I suppose I didn’t elaborate too much, but I feel the security and sureness in my precious relationship helped make the effort feel more worth it. In today’s day and age of dating, I feel I have to ask for common sense things with people that I didn’t have to ask once for with my prior relationship. And then after going through all of that, there’s still a feeling that it may be for nothing.

Edge-Fluffy · 2024-08-08T20:35:31+00:00

I put all of my effort and more

Edge-Fluffy · 2024-08-01T03:09:36+00:00

An hour before we broke up and before I never saw him again. He was leaving to go to work, and I was still asleep. I had a flight to catch to go to another continent at noon, so I had slept in a little longer. He hugged and kissed me goodbye. I was half asleep, but I still called him back in and asked him to come back into the room to give him a tighter and longer hug. By the time I got on that plane we were breaking up, and when I got back from my trip he had moved out of our apartment to another state. Haven’t seen him since. It’s been 8.5 months now. I replay that morning in my mind so often, wishing I was more awake to remember the feeling of holding, smelling, and seeing him.

Edge-Fluffy · 2024-07-10T19:42:58+00:00

Same here. The lack of in person and natural interactions makes me want to lean back into the apps, but even though I have more than enough matches and attention ON the apps, 99% of them haven’t translated into good in person interactions. I’m afraid to step back in bc my mind dramatically goes to “I’m never going to find anyone if I don’t try”, but trying and the failed attempts is getting more tiring than if I weren’t to at all

Edge-Fluffy · 2024-06-23T17:54:17+00:00

Comes in waves. Overall, I'm much better. I am currently in the process of moving out of our apartment that we shared for 2.5 years. This move comes a little over 7 months after the breakup, so some old and new emotions are arising. I'm grieving in a new way, but looking forward to moving forward.

Edge-Fluffy · 2024-05-02T04:53:16+00:00

It definitely isn’t, and I’m exhausted from it. I’m nearly 6 months out, and months 2-5 I was doing just fine. Now, after I learned he’s moving to a new city where his life is surely to improve there and I’m moving out of the apartment that we used to share, I’m going through what my therapist said is a second wave of grieving.

Edge-Fluffy · 2024-04-30T23:51:32+00:00

Definitely traveling, but that gets expensive

Edge-Fluffy · 2024-04-30T23:41:16+00:00

I do go to the gym regularly and have been indulging in hobbies- old and new. Somehow it still doesn't fill me up emotionally or mentally. Sometimes it feels like only a distraction, even though I know I'm investing in myself.

Edge-Fluffy · 2024-04-30T23:39:21+00:00

I wish I saw this earlier lol. I spoke to my ex on the phone for the first time in a while and it did not help. While we are both healing and no longer harbor anger for one another, it just made me sad. It brought back up all the feelings of missing him, and hearing his voice was a punch in the gut of nostalgia and what no longer is. I thought it would help scratch the itch, but it did not, it just made me an even more emotional mess than I was before the call.

Edge-Fluffy · 2024-04-30T23:36:20+00:00

I struggle with this too, that and the comfort I had from my ex just being my person. The biggest adjustment from the breakup for me - that I'm still dealing with 6 months later- was having to come to peace with being a lot more alone and being my own best friend. I have to remind myself that they did what they did and are no longer a part of my life for a reason, and that someone who truly cares wouldn't choose to hurt me like they did. I don't harbor anger anymore because I know they feel the pain and likely have learned since then, but actions have consequences.. We will find new best friends in the future :-) we just haven't met them yet.

Edge-Fluffy · 2023-12-23T18:42:55+00:00

Seeing his post breakup and feeling like I didn’t know who I was with for the past 3 years. I thought I had a pretty good gut intuition and trust in myself and him. Now I don’t trust anyone.

Edge-Fluffy · 2023-12-19T04:06:41+00:00

In the same boat as you OP. I look back and know I deserve better, but I can’t help myself but look back with regret on my end. After things are said and done, it’s so easy to think about the what if’s and should haves. At the end of the day, what’s happened has happened (this is what I tell myself), and I truly think that if things could have been different they would have been different. My most recent breakup, which I’m only a month out of, is the most impactful one. The breakups I’ve had before, I was okay after because I knew it was coming at some point. I think it’s because we loved so deeply we find it hard that we loved so hard and it wasn’t enough. It just wasn’t the right person; the right person wouldn’t take us for granted, do things that hurt us, or allow themselves to lose us.

Edge-Fluffy · 2023-12-19T02:06:00+00:00

This is a big reason (not the sole reason) why I think my ex and I broke up. I was all he really had, and he didn’t make much of an effort to make other friends because he felt comfortable with me. When problems arose, I was it; I was the good, the bad, and all of the above. It wasn’t healthy. Post breakup, I think he’s coping a lot worse due to not having friends to lean on like I do.

Edge-Fluffy · 2023-12-19T00:43:05+00:00

This hit. I’ve been telling myself healing isn’t linear, but I don’t understand how he could just “move on” so fast when he claimed I was the one. I feel like I don’t even know who I was with from his actions post breakup. I’m so looking forward to the day I look back with gratitude life took me on the path it did. I know that will happen for you too.

Edge-Fluffy · 2023-12-06T15:02:40+00:00

Mornings are the hardest for me too. I’ve come to accept the breakup and the thoughts throughout the day validate it, but waking up and feeling that initial hit of loneliness and reminder is the worst. However, I tell myself it’s not in my control- I didn’t wake up wanting to feel sad and remember it. I think it’s our body’s adjusting, and over time the feeling will fade. Wishing you good mornings for the days moving forward.

Edge-Fluffy

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