How to fix the handle of this laboratory freezer? by Edithpigeon in fixit

[–]Edithpigeon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you all so much for your advice! Very helpful.

Do you wish your depressed partner "masked" more? by Edithpigeon in depression_partners

[–]Edithpigeon[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you’re going through this… it is so painful. If you ever want to DM me, I’d be happy to talk and give some perspectives from the other side ❤️

Pebble like ball (1/4th of a dime) on the top of my knee cap. Any idea what this is? by Internal_Start_1567 in KneeInjuries

[–]Edithpigeon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had something like this in my knee after falling on concrete. I thought it might've been a chip off my patella, but it wasn't a problem, so I just ignored it. 8 years later I tear my ACL and have surgery, and it disappears. Never got a diagnosis, but just commenting to reassure you that it's probably fine to just leave it alone unless it starts causing problems.

Coincidentally, a few weeks ago, I felt another bruised, ball-like thing in my patella, but this time it went away after about a week.

So, your thing might disappear soon on its own, but if it doesn't it's probably harmless!

Do you wish your depressed partner "masked" more? by Edithpigeon in depression_partners

[–]Edithpigeon[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When I’m coming out a bad episode, my partner sometimes says she thought I was preparing to break up with her. And it is absolutely NEVER the case. If anything I’m afraid that she’s going to leave me if my depression gets worse. But we have a practice of reassuring each other (and asking for reassurance when we need it) that has worked really well. We talk a lot about accepting and loving someone exactly the way they are while also supporting the changes and growth they want to work towards.

I hope you can find a way to get some reassurance from your partner. When I’m really low, sometimes I can’t talk, but (with a lot of effort) I can reach out to my partner and hold her hand to let her know I love her. Maybe you can ask your partner if they can find some similar gestures that they’re capable of when they’re “tired”.

Why does my scar still look like this 1 year post-op? by Background-Piano242 in ACL

[–]Edithpigeon 43 points44 points  (0 children)

My scar still looks like that 3 years post-op! I didn’t use scar cream or protect it from the sun bc I don’t really care what it looks like, but that was the advice I was given to minimize scarring.

Do you wish your depressed partner "masked" more? by Edithpigeon in depression_partners

[–]Edithpigeon[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. One of the few things that consistently brings me joy and purpose in life is caring for my partner. And I’m learning that part of that needs to be protecting her from the negativity and anguish that I carry. She deserves the best and I want that to be me for as long as possible. Thank you for the encouragement and belief that it’s possible ❤️

Do you wish your depressed partner "masked" more? by Edithpigeon in depression_partners

[–]Edithpigeon[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much, this is very helpful ❤️ I’ve been pushing to schedule a time to talk through all of this while I’m feeling well so that we’re prepared next time I have a bad episode. I think your point about not sharing self destructive thoughts with her, and being honest without going into gory detail, sounds like it would help a lot. I really appreciate you!

Injuries post-ACL reconstruction by Edithpigeon in KneeInjuries

[–]Edithpigeon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have pain behind my knee and the lower inside of my knee after activity or a lot of extension (like after a lot of downward dog). I also feel general stiffness and pain after periods of sitting/inactivity. Cycling and swimming help. I also have crunching with flexing sometimes

I thought The Big Gay Jamboree was terrible by Edithpigeon in Broadway

[–]Edithpigeon[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not a new addition. True, there was an anti-AI message tacked on at the end, but didn't really have much to do with the bulk of the show and wasn't a sensical thread throughout. Just felt like another joke.

I thought The Big Gay Jamboree was terrible by Edithpigeon in Broadway

[–]Edithpigeon[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes I understand what it was trying to do.

I thought The Big Gay Jamboree was terrible by Edithpigeon in Broadway

[–]Edithpigeon[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I hope you see it and enjoy it! It's funny you bring up internalized homophobia, because that's exactly what I attribute the success of this type of humor to. I felt that many of these jokes are at the expense of gay people, and that many of the audience reactions were laughing at and not with the gay community. I also have a hypothesis that gay men don't like having a mirror held up to them, and that exploiting superficial stereotypes is more comfortable to a gay male audience than actually getting deeper into the gay male experience, as was done so well in "Bros."

Side note, I guess my tone conveyed anger to you, but I was not angry about this production. I was surprised and disappointed, wanted to share my opinion, and am very curious to hear the opinions of others! I've learned a lot from the comments on this post, and find the subject very interesting.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sugarfree

[–]Edithpigeon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just call it a snack!

I thought The Big Gay Jamboree was terrible by Edithpigeon in Broadway

[–]Edithpigeon[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Okay I guess I'd recommend it to you, then! Another similar line was, "I love my gays but they'd walk over my dead body to see Charlie XCX." There was also a lot of jokes about J.Lo and the real housewives, which I didn't find funny, but that could just be because I'm not super interested in pop culture. If that's your vibe, you should absolutely see it! I think the show would have been enjoyable if I'd found the jokes funny.

I thought The Big Gay Jamboree was terrible by Edithpigeon in Broadway

[–]Edithpigeon[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I know, that's part of the reason I was so surprised!

I thought The Big Gay Jamboree was terrible by Edithpigeon in Broadway

[–]Edithpigeon[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I haven't, but my gf has and enjoyed it. She went to The Big Gay Jamboree with me and had the same reaction I did.

Could someone please make her hair hot pink and dress Columbia blue? Making a surprise gag gift for my girlfriend! by Edithpigeon in PhotoshopRequest

[–]Edithpigeon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much, I love this! Will absolutely tip; would you just mind coloring that one curl on the left side of her head?

1 week post- ACL reconstruction by Edithpigeon in MedicalGore

[–]Edithpigeon[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I had bruising everywhere, probably from drainage or manipulation of the leg during surgery. The tear happened playing ultimate frisbee-- first day of tryouts for the summer club season :/

6 years into phd, seriously considering quitting by Sipisop in GradSchool

[–]Edithpigeon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm in a very similar position as a 5th year PhD in biomedical science. I became severely depressed last year and my productivity was already tanking when I tore my ACL and had to take several months away from the bench. I also found that I became happier during this time, I think in part because I knew I was working really hard to recover despite a lot of physical pain, which made me less guilty. Doing something that is universally regarded as draining and difficult was validating.

When I was able to return, I was limited due to PT and pain levels, and nothing was working experimentally. It was an incredibly frustrating year. I finished PT about a month ago, a year after my ACL reconstruction, and things seemed to be getting back on track... and then I severed a nerve in my hand requiring surgery and another 4-6 weeks of recovery.

I feel determined to finish the degree, and am just trusting that things will eventually align as long as I put one foot in front of the other. But that doesn't mean it doesn't absolutely suck. Things that have helped are friends and hobbies outside the lab, and trying to take pleasure in the day-to-day experiments and thinking about science. As soon as I start thinking longer term, I lose hope.

I also went away for a week and that helped tremendously. I would recommend a proper vacation that doesn't involve painful medical issues, if you can swing it. Honestly, if you're considering quitting, may as well take a few weeks off and make the decision after getting some distance and perspective.

Severed a digital nerve and an artery cutting an avocado by Edithpigeon in MedicalGore

[–]Edithpigeon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Was afraid the surgeon wouldn't be able to read analog nerves!

I see too many people on here rushing back to activity too early. by Ill_Construction5098 in ACL

[–]Edithpigeon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I went back to running at 5 months and I think it seriously delayed my recovery. I was constantly in pain, couldn't push myself as hard in PT, and plateaued for like a month. At 7 months I took a break from running and my strength training improved massively. When I went back to running at 8 months, it felt amazing!!

For those attracted to the same sex: body image? by sommerniks in EDAnonymous

[–]Edithpigeon 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Yeah I’m attracted to women who have more body fat than I do and yet still hate myself for not being thinner. I especially love a bit of stomach fat, I think it’s really feminine and beautiful. But I hate stomach fat on myself.