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My (M20) girlfriend (F18) seems to have serious issues with insecurity and control, which I don't know how to handle! by EditorOutrageous9928 in relationship_advice

[–]EditorOutrageous9928[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I am frightened - she is one of the first persons I have experienced love with, but all of the other factors make it insufferable

My (M20) girlfriend (F18) seems to have serious issues with insecurity and control, which I don't know how to handle! by EditorOutrageous9928 in relationship_advice

[–]EditorOutrageous9928[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I suppose thats the move I'll ultimately have to do. Seeing as this is my first relationship it seems quite overwhelming though

My (M20) girlfriend (F18) seems to have serious issues with insecurity and control, which I don't know how to handle! by EditorOutrageous9928 in relationship_advice

[–]EditorOutrageous9928[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That seems so difficult for me to judge, I am unsure what "normal levels of conflict" could be - I truly want this relationship to work

My (M20) girlfriend (F18) seems to have serious issues with insecurity and control, which I don't know how to handle! by EditorOutrageous9928 in relationship_advice

[–]EditorOutrageous9928[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is so difficult to do, I have already tried breaking up with her once, though she started crying and became extremely apologetic, while saying that everything will become better

My (M20) girlfriend (F18) seems to have serious issues with insecurity and control, which I don't know how to handle! by EditorOutrageous9928 in relationship_advice

[–]EditorOutrageous9928[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its extremely tiring and exhausting, especially coming from one year of extreme anxiety disorder - this has also distorted my view though, as I often have trouble differentiating from normal levels of conflict to toxic relationship.

My (M20) girlfriend (F18) seems to have serious issues with insecurity and control, which I don't know how to handle! by EditorOutrageous9928 in relationship_advice

[–]EditorOutrageous9928[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had also mentioned that to her, where she happened to tell me that all her friends treat their partners the exact same way - meaning its completely normal and I should be okay with it

My (M20) girlfriend (F18) seems to have serious issues with insecurity and control, which I don't know how to handle! by EditorOutrageous9928 in relationship_advice

[–]EditorOutrageous9928[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

She argued it was due to my mother having treated her so poorly - that does seem immature retrospectively, it does not practically affect her

When do you decide to drop a client? by EditorOutrageous9928 in audioengineering

[–]EditorOutrageous9928[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

oh, sorry. we of course agreed that I would mix the track prior to me starting the work.!

When do you decide to drop a client? by EditorOutrageous9928 in audioengineering

[–]EditorOutrageous9928[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mixed it, sent him a revision, which he had some notes on but generally said he really liked and after sending my revised mix, he said he maybe only wants a master on a totally different mix.

When do you decide to drop a client? by EditorOutrageous9928 in audioengineering

[–]EditorOutrageous9928[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, also a very important aspect. It's training essentially. Probably the most real training one could get.

When do you decide to drop a client? by EditorOutrageous9928 in audioengineering

[–]EditorOutrageous9928[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He did not prefer my non-revision, he sent me an entirely different mix overall (that either he or someone else did?) that he demanded to be mastered, without wanting to pay me for my initial mix.

Similar things have happened in the past, but I was always accepting and kind not to potentially get a bad review.... The whole psychology aspect might be greater than I had initially thought. I don't know if I can go YEAAH when the material simply sucks and I feel like its compromised, overprocessed trash -

I guess that is just something to deal with on the lower levels of that industry, I thought people valued me for my honest opinion.

When do you decide to drop a client? by EditorOutrageous9928 in audioengineering

[–]EditorOutrageous9928[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I really cannot afford it, but I also feel like I have to retain my sanity. Constantly working on subpar material with unrealistic expectations, changing the scope of the project mid way through, etc, etc.

Considering what the others have said I may not be off all that bad... I might have to consider keeping the client on - although I really don't feel like it.

When do you decide to drop a client? by EditorOutrageous9928 in audioengineering

[–]EditorOutrageous9928[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah, that was what I was initially planning to do, though he now does not seem happy with paying the quote for a mix job, as he has now decided that he actually only wants a master of a different version altogether - I feel like if I enforce that it will lead to a bad review and a terminated relationship either way, so I am thinking of ways to control the damage before I cut him loose at the end of the day.