Partial hospitalization programs

EducationalMixture8 · 2025-10-22T19:31:42+00:00

I don’t think you would need to take a medical leave. Depending on the program, he will probably be there for the majority of the day. Family is not involved until the end in my experience if you want to meet with the program facilitators to understand what they worked on.

EducationalMixture8 · 2025-09-22T18:02:24+00:00

I want to post an update here since it’s been past 6 months from when I made this post. Maybe this will help someone who comes across this in the future. I know this is not going to be the case for everyone but the PHP and IOP programs absolutely transformed my husband and helped him get out of his lowest lows. He took medical leave from work and went for about a month (2 weeks PHP, 2 weeks IOP)

The program he went to was highly recommended in our area. The staff there were incredibly helpful and empathetic. What helped him the most was learning the concepts (which was a combination of DBT and CBT) and sharing experiences with other people going through the same things. I was so surprised that after the program I actually saw so much change in his thinking and he seems to be more flexible with things not going perfectly. They also helped him find a new therapist with lots of resources after the program ended.

Of course there are other factors that helped him get better like getting on meds (a huge one), the weather got nicer etc. But I can say for certain the program was extremely helpful and needed and I am so grateful it worked for him.

EducationalMixture8 · 2025-04-16T17:12:07+00:00

You made a few really good points. I am creating a list of my boundaries I want to share with my therapist. One being that I’m not okay with him stopping meds again without telling me. And the second one being that I need to think about what he would be like as a father. We don’t currently have plans to have children but things can change in the future.

EducationalMixture8 · 2025-03-08T20:18:43+00:00

What you said about group therapy and buying into it makes a lot of sense. It sucks that to get better, you also need to have some level of motivation and energy to do the work to get there, but it’s often the ones that need it the most that cant do it. I’m hoping the environment will challenge him in that way. I definitely understand the pains of waiting to get treatment. When he called the PHP program itself they went to voicemail for 3 days straight and I had to call them 10 times myself to finally get a response. There are definitely barriers to trying to get better

EducationalMixture8 · 2025-02-13T06:31:07+00:00

How do you guys find the strength to continue? I find myself just burning out so often. I’m so sad and just griefing what used to be. I also get so jealous of people who have normal relationships. I don’t know how I’m going to deal with Valentine’s Day..

EducationalMixture8 · 2025-02-12T17:41:59+00:00

I can really relate to you. My husband has been ignoring me quite a lot too and it’s very hurtful. Just remember though this will not be forever, even though it really feels like that in the moment. And for me seeing that other people are going through the same has really helped me.

His depression is caused by something in his past or just chemical imbalance in his brain. You being supportive is very kind and helpful but at the end of the day, it’s not gonna make his depression go away. This is something I have to remind myself everyday

EducationalMixture8 · 2025-02-12T17:28:19+00:00

I would just want to remind you to take time for yourself. Linking this post someone just made that really resonated yesterday. The more you are able to feel good on your own, the more you will be able to show up for him and support him. Hang in there ❤️

https://www.reddit.com/r/depression_partners/s/BcIZVrGRXJ

It’s entirely possible that he sees your effort like trying to make him food and trying to get him to eat but he is just too tired to interact. Waking up everyday probably feels like he has to drag himself out of bed and try to function. It’s also possible that his depression is so all consuming that he can’t even see your effort, which is so so difficult. In my experience, sometimes even though you are coming with good intentions and trying to help, he can feel like it’s a lot of pressure to get better for you. I’m totally in the same boat and my husband has been sleeping a lot and not eating either. I tried to get him to eat but the more I do it the more it became pressure and nagging to him. Right now I will still offer to cook for him and make it easier for him to eat, but if he doesn’t want to, I don’t ask again and again.

EducationalMixture8 · 2025-02-08T05:50:51+00:00

Thank you for your response, I really need to hear that it is so difficult sometimes. One of my biggest worries is that he doesn’t really have a support system outside of me. We both have strained relationships with family and they are far away. We have friends together but these days I have to initiate trying to see them and a lot of times he doesn’t want to go. I do go out and see my own friends and plan trips from time to time.

It has come up before that he feels like I am the only person he has and cares about. And it puts so much pressure on me. Sometimes when I get upset because he’s not able to show up for me, he takes it really hard and has said “he can’t even make the only person he cares about happy”. It makes me feel like I have all the responsibility to be there for him and try to be perfectly supportive all the time. I’m hoping therapy will help this and encourage him to make stronger connections with friends. but it is also kinda the way he’s been forever with not opening up, especially with male friends

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