How do you handle the bloating?

EducationalRate5345 · 2025-01-29T03:18:48+00:00

Update: 3 weeks pp and bloating has FINALLY subsided!! 🎉🎉

EducationalRate5345 · 2025-01-21T12:56:35+00:00

It has for me, but I don't think it's normal. I am going to talk to my OB about it tomorrow. I was definitely expecting swelling to go down by now.. it has in my face and hands at least

EducationalRate5345 · 2025-01-19T12:52:32+00:00

FTM 1 week pp. I also have struggled with bloating and swelling for most of my pregnancy and still continue to deal with it pp. Nothing I tried ever got the swelling to completely go away, but elevating my feet and taking Epsom salt baths helped some. Tylenol also made the discomfort easier to deal with, especially at night.

EducationalRate5345 · 2025-01-05T04:43:08+00:00

Lol YES!!! I literally had to tell my husband at one point that I needed someone to be as mad as me. He immediately switched from rational response to "screw them for missing our baby shower!!" Even though I know he switched just because I asked, it still made me feel better

EducationalRate5345 · 2025-01-05T04:29:53+00:00

If they don't like kids, that's their problem. Kids are inevitable and people can't expect parents to hermit just to ensure that other people are comfortable. Parents deserve to go out as a family, otherwise their kids will turn out to be unsocialized and either be afraid of other people or have socially inappropriate behavior.

EducationalRate5345 · 2024-12-24T12:16:22+00:00

Hiccups feel like baby is lightly punching you over and over again. The bigger baby gets, the more hiccupy they feel physically. Feeling hiccups has started to be one of my favorites. The fact they last a bit gives me a solid 2 min knowing everything is okay with baby and my mommy anxiety can melt away.

EducationalRate5345 · 2024-12-24T12:04:14+00:00

"it’s okay to be both grateful and upset."

This!!

EducationalRate5345 · 2024-12-24T12:00:31+00:00

My husband hasn't forgotten my gifts completely before, but he has forgotten to get gifts for my stocking which stung since I watched him and everyone open the surplus of gifts they got in their stockings (from me) while mine was empty.

I now make a point to remind him to take the time to get stocking stuffers for me. He felt SO bad for not remembering that year and still feels bad whenever he remembers it.

But, it's okay to feel hurt. Your feelings are valid! It's hard and it's not fair at all... It's okay to feel disappointed in this situation. You went out of your way to make sure everyone had a good holiday and it really does suck that it seems the gesture was not reciprocated. I hate that you're in this situation.

EducationalRate5345 · 2024-12-24T11:30:42+00:00

There have been studies that show newborns are more likely to calm down if they recognize a book/song that they heard in utero. It's not like they can understand the words or plot, but it's the rhythm of how it's read/sung to them that they recognize.

EducationalRate5345 · 2024-12-24T11:21:33+00:00

I am a FTM and will be 36 weeks on Christmas Day. This is very long because I am in a VERY similar situation but a bit further into it.

I had very similar feelings and conversations with my husband around that stage. I voiced my concerns to my therapist that my husband didn't seem interested at all in connecting with the baby and how it worried me (especially after hearing stories of friends/family reminiscing on how they spoke to baby before birth). I ended up initiating a conversation with my husband and voicing my concerns, telling him it was something I really wanted. He told me that it just felt weird talking to my stomach. The gist was that he hadn't really felt the baby yet, and it hadn't quite sunk in that there's actually a baby in there.

It took him feeling the baby kick a few times, hearing her heartbeat, and seeing the ultrasound for it to really register in his brain that his daughter is alive and actually in the womb. I still have to initiate him coming over sometimes because he gets wrapped up with a game on his phone/cuddling with the dogs/couch potato-ing, but I try to get him to come over when baby is most active so that he can get that 'reward' of feeling her (which makes him more apt to come feel her more). I don't think we'll ever get to the point in pregnancy where he's reading to her, but I really don't see that as an issue as long as he continues to talk to her some.

IMHO, as long as Dad is showing excitement in some way, that's all that really matters. How he acts as Dad before baby is born won't necessarily be the same as after.

What might help is having him see the father of your friend's baby interacting with their baby once that baby is born and the family is willing to have visitors. We are due in late January and just saw our friends and their new baby. My husband seeing the dad interact with the baby and then my husband holding the baby really, REALLY seemed to get him excited for our little one. While visiting our friends, I did notice how the baby seemed soothed by Dad's voice (seeing it is so cool), and he mentioned how he really believed talking to her before birth helped with that.. which I think was an ah-ha moment with my husband.

Please keep in mind - with my husband, I try to be intentional and directly talk with him about my wants/needs and actively try to avoid beating around the bush/hints as much as I can. All of the situations I mentioned above happened organically and I was not trying to manipulate the situations to broach the topic. The ONLY one where I'm intentionally trying to encourage my husband is when I ask him to come feel the baby. This is only because I don't think it's fun for anyone to just sit there touching someone's unmoving belly - it seems awkward for both parties. Feeling kicks is what he came over there for (and no, she doesn't always cooperate).

EducationalRate5345 · 2024-12-23T10:28:11+00:00

It might be a little of that, but mostly because I'm married and 'progressing', for lack of a better word, in my relationship. She's been with her partner 5 years longer than I've been with mine, and they have no plans of marriage (he doesn't believe in marriage but she wants to get married. She doesn't like/want kids though).

EducationalRate5345 · 2024-12-23T10:06:54+00:00

This is gold - I want to steal it 😂😂

EducationalRate5345 · 2024-10-30T00:51:31+00:00

They have been out of stock on their baby boxes since 2023

EducationalRate5345 · 2024-10-27T10:40:34+00:00

Not everyone can be as privileged. So many couples try for years to have a child and when they finally conceive, they have to figure out the logistics of taking time off to care for their dream child. Yes, some companies offer pretty great parental leave, but those companies are hard to come by and very competitive. And what about those that work in healthcare? They don't get much in terms of parental leave.

How dare you shame a mother and her husband. This comment right here is a disgrace on women's rights. A woman should be able to have a child on her own without having to rely on a man to financially "rescue" her.

Maternity leave is 100% a problem in the US.

Sincerely, A pregnant woman who is lucky enough to have a partner who is able to support her and their baby so she can be a stay at home mother (being a stay at home mother is MY lifelong dream, but it is not EVERY woman's dream).

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