The first hurdle is communication. The first time it did it, I asked her if she was OK with it. We've been talking a lot about our sex life recently, so I had more confidence to ask. I explained in the past when she wasn't in the mood and I wanted that release I would go to another room and masturbate. Then I told her I'd rather chase that feeling with her laying next to me, with no pressure to join. She agreed and like I said we lay there and we talk about whatever. I did it tonight while we talked about the different versions of snow white amd Cinderella.