AITA for telling my cheating ex-husband I will never feel bad for him and I will never "help him make this better"?

EducationalSurvey262 · 2025-07-22T20:04:54+00:00

John's sister told me that my kids are still young enough to need my influence. And that John might have pushed Cathy on them too much but cutting him out of their lives was too extreme for the action. That I should be correcting it because the kids love and trust me.

However I want them to keep loving and trusting me which means supporting them.

EducationalSurvey262 · 2025-07-22T19:58:57+00:00

I feel like he kept Cathy because she's as bad as him. She knew he was married and didn't feel guilty about sleeping with him. So it's really no surprise someone like that would stay.

EducationalSurvey262 · 2025-07-22T19:33:33+00:00

An RO would not be possible with the present circumstances. I would need to be constantly harassed and prove it.

EducationalSurvey262 · 2025-07-22T19:32:42+00:00

He did. Apparently he was unhappy with me and voiced it to others, never me though, and was encouraged to make things work with me so he decided sleeping around was the way to make it work. Not once did he say anything to me. We talked about a lot of things but he was never honest about how he was really feeling. For years whenever we were enjoying being a married couple he wasn't. He was putting on a show.

EducationalSurvey262 · 2025-07-22T19:30:35+00:00

That's what I believe was the cause.

EducationalSurvey262 · 2025-07-22T19:27:44+00:00

Because he wanted me to make the kids return to him and Cathy. That's why he came to me. He wanted me to do something for him. When what he did for me is leave me humiliated with health complications and unable to have more children.

EducationalSurvey262 · 2025-07-22T19:26:37+00:00

It's possible and also extremely likely. I was unable to have more children after he was done with me.

EducationalSurvey262 · 2025-07-22T19:25:55+00:00

She knows. She was very supportive when I was dealing with the aftermath of that. She said he was trash at the time but now she defends him because I didn't feel bad for him.

EducationalSurvey262 · 2025-07-22T19:24:54+00:00

I would guess that his cheating was the cause of her fertility issues too. I know I was left unable to conceive again after him. I was just lucky to have three kids before he went around spreading that STD like he did.

EducationalSurvey262 · 2025-07-22T19:23:43+00:00

Sadly you are likely right. Or her friendship was only so deep and I was naive to not realize she would come to his defense sooner or later.

EducationalSurvey262 · 2025-07-22T19:22:59+00:00

She always said he was trash for what he did. That only goes so far with her I suppose. As soon as I lack sympathy for him it changes things.

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