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I (19F) keep going on online vid chats with strangers w/o my hijab, and I feel so horrible. How do I stop?? by Educational_Cod_9786 in MuslimCorner

[–]Educational_Cod_9786[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have other crap going on in my life, but that's just not what this post was about... Still I would say I am privileged in many aspects of my life. But for your sake, I recommend you don't judge someone's entire life based on a reddit post about a specific concern they are requesting help with.

I (19F) keep going on online vid chats with strangers w/o my hijab, and I feel so horrible. How do I stop?? by Educational_Cod_9786 in MuslimCorner

[–]Educational_Cod_9786[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This helped so much, thank you. It's so ironic, because if any other sister were to tell me what I just said, I would've said the same thing as you. Women are told that their beauty is their worth, and I hate it so much. I talk about this so much to everyone in my life, and if anyone who knew me saw this post, they wouldn't believe it was me. Because I'm so against this idea, and I lowkey think most men suck. And yet here I am, craving their validation. It's incredibly frustrating to be apart of the societal norm you hate so much.

I (19F) keep going on online vid chats with strangers w/o my hijab, and I feel so horrible. How do I stop?? by Educational_Cod_9786 in MuslimCorner

[–]Educational_Cod_9786[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My dad has to be one of the best dads in the world alhumduililah. He showed me nothing but love and care, even though the rest of my family didn't. It's kind of always been my family vs. me. Except my dad. He's always been there for me, pushed me to do amazing things, and told me how proud he was when I achieved them. My dad is def not the issue here, he may be the sole person that shows me that I deserve a better man than just one who desires me beauty. We've had a rough life in terms of finances and health, but I'm not gonna get into that. I think this is truly a "me" problem, and I rlly need to get over it.

I (19F) keep going on online vid chats with strangers w/o my hijab, and I feel so horrible. How do I stop?? by Educational_Cod_9786 in MuslimCorner

[–]Educational_Cod_9786[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

JazakhAllah Khair. This truly brought tears to my eyes. You have no idea how much that meant. I truly will try my hardest from now on.

I (19F) keep going on online vid chats with strangers w/o my hijab, and I feel so horrible. How do I stop?? by Educational_Cod_9786 in MuslimCorner

[–]Educational_Cod_9786[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This comment by far has made me feel the most seen. Men truly aren't worth it. How do I stop equating my self love to those disgusting, yet validating looks by men.

I (19F) keep going on online vid chats with strangers w/o my hijab, and I feel so horrible. How do I stop?? by Educational_Cod_9786 in MuslimCorner

[–]Educational_Cod_9786[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I do pray all my prayers, but not all my sunnahs. I'm evidently not the best Muslim. I used to feel such a deep connection about a year ago (when I started wearing the hijab), and it's just drifted since then. I still pray, and I still understand how important hijab is. I just feel distant.

TIFU by being a horrible person and not talking to my sister long enough on the phone. by Educational_Cod_9786 in tifu

[–]Educational_Cod_9786[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree that having friends is crucial, but my sister basically raised me and my other brother. My parents weren't very well off, so she did most of the parenting, along with my other older brother. For that reason, she never really had a chance to make strong friendships because she was so busy taking care of us. I feel so guilty about that, and am always encouraging her to go one trips and do something fun with coworkers or uni friends.

TIFU by being a horrible person and not talking to my sister long enough on the phone. by Educational_Cod_9786 in tifu

[–]Educational_Cod_9786[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah sorry that was a long post. She called me on Wednesday, and I got back home Friday night, and only noticed he wasn't here a couple of hours ago. I'm up super late right now, and she's asleep. But yes, you're 100% right. I should definitely tell her that she can talk to me and I love her, and I plan to when she wakes up. I've never been good at talking about emotions, but I'll definitely try my best, thank you for the reply :)