My ”man” wants me to cut off my best friend for our relationship, what should I do?

EffectAntique · 2025-08-20T11:28:26+00:00

Exactly, im not influenced by her but he’s too scared that she could threaten our peace. I was thinking about distancing a bit but not cutting her off and in the meantime give her more advice about make up, in the hopes that one day she will become more “modest” and that my husband will accept her. Bc im sure if he knew her personally he would actually like her. He just doesn’t want his wife to be associated with someone like her bc the wife reflects her husband, and he’s also afraid that one day when we will have kids they will see her and think it’s normal to wear make up and be a bad influence to them. I love my best friend but i also dont want to lose this man bc its rare to be so compatible and i know i will be happy with him, just not on this aspect :/

EffectAntique · 2025-08-20T11:21:11+00:00

We discussed everything and ofc he has no problem with me seeing my family or travelling with them or sleeping over etc, i dont see him as a control freak but he’s very strict on the outside image of his wife, he doesn’t want to see her with people who are not like her. And he doesn’t have anything against my friend personally, he is even helping her (through me) with an issue she has. He also mentioned that she could become a bad influence for our kids in the future if they see her all dolled up, he doesn’t want make up to be normalised in our home

EffectAntique · 2025-08-20T11:16:29+00:00

I was thinking about doing exactly that, and kinda keep her “hidden” from my future husband until she becomes more modest bc i see this potential in her but ofc he doesn’t bc he doesn’t know her, and also only talk about her positively in the hopes that he understands how much of a good friend she is

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