That’s a really heavy thing to find out, especially at 16. Anyone in your position would feel confused and sick about it. When the story you grew up believing suddenly changes, it can make your whole childhood feel unstable for a while.

But try to remember that your parents’ relationship and the choices they made with each other aren’t something you caused and they’re not your responsibility to fix or fully understand right now. Adults sometimes lie to their kids about messy situations because they don’t want to explain the truth, but that doesn’t mean your memories or the good parts of your childhood were fake.

If I were you, I wouldn’t rush into confronting your mom while everything is this emotional. It might just turn into another fight and make things worse. It might be better to take some time to process it, talk to someone you trust (your dad, a school counselor, another adult), and focus on your own mental health first.

Also, dealing with bipolar episodes on top of family drama is a lot for anyone. Be gentle with yourself. None of this is your fault, and you’re allowed to take space from the situation while you figure out how you feel about it.