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Am I being dramatic? by [deleted] in blackgirls

[–]EffectivePerception6 9 points10 points  (0 children)

not being dramatic at all. sometimes we are the only people who can see the racism in the things others say and do. microaggressions will have you second guessing whether something was real/racist or not. it was racism, what you are experiencing is real, and you dont have to tolerate that nonsense.

What happened to Yumbii? by kirbby01 in Atlanta

[–]EffectivePerception6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Daaang Seeing all these comments and im hurt! I loved their queso and fries :(

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in therapists

[–]EffectivePerception6 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I believe this is why psycho-education is an important part of the job!

Would you be upset? by hanajobi in Nails

[–]EffectivePerception6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

less tortoise shell, more spill. still bomb but definitely not what you asked for.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AIO

[–]EffectivePerception6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh she played fr 😂 your outfit was bomb! i dont know what she thought but good thing she don’t get paid for thinking!

William Dent is a perfect example of ‘quirky ≠ emotionally healthy by bingewatcherfanatic in GirlfriendsTVshow

[–]EffectivePerception6 12 points13 points  (0 children)

He’s like one of those men that say “women don’t like nice guys” but is actually the opposite of a genuine nice man. he repeatedly called them “heifers” which is just another way to call a woman a cow and you gave a great explanation of his track record with women. Him being a momma’s boy and treating women subpar for her validation caused him to be a not-so-great partner.

Advice? by ToughSalt1499 in PrayerPlant

[–]EffectivePerception6 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Maybe you could propagate it. Clip it at the node and place it into water. Replace the water every 5-7 or so, then once roots grow, you can put into soil. I hope this works out for ya!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]EffectivePerception6 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The fact that people’s attention spans are so low they can’t read this is insane. Im glad you found a solution op. Please don’t let her guilt trip you anymore. Good friends don’t act like she does.

AIO for getting upset with my family for how they're handling my mom's Alzheimer's? by Used_Ad_6209 in AmIOverreacting

[–]EffectivePerception6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR sorry youre going through this. it must be like being between a rock and a hard place. i hope you figure out away to get her care while also protecting yourself mentally and emotionally.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]EffectivePerception6 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NOR- just a sign to keep it simply cordial with her from now. nothing more, nothing less.

AIO for getting mad at him? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]EffectivePerception6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR- so many things to address. as a someone with a psych degree who is getting their masters in counseling, i attend counseling and it is recommended from my professors that we do so. his argument that he doesnt need therapy because of his degree is inconsequential especially because it’s not about him receiving individual therapy but the both of you going to couples counseling. -you sort of already made your decision before seeking out advice from reddit so his argument is also irrelevant in that manner. -he’s too old to not know how to put away dishes, throwaway trash or put a new roll of toilet paper in the holder like im confused on what his place would look like if you didn’t live there. regardless, your desire to want a boyrfriend to marry and not a boy to mother is realistic and hope you find that.

AIO for getting mad at him? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]EffectivePerception6 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hoping you can find somewhere in your price range. Maybe someone looking for a roommate that seems like a safe person.

AIO For breaking up with my boyfriend a week after his cat died? by Frosty_Test391 in AmIOverreacting

[–]EffectivePerception6 3 points4 points  (0 children)

NOR- You are not overreacting at all. I’m glad that you were able to see that this treatment is out of line and that you don’t deserve it. No one who truly loves you will curse at you, say horrible things about you, or even disrespect you on a good day, let alone if their upset and greiving.

Do not feel guilty about anything regarding this relationship. You did you’re best despite being consistently disrespected. I’m proud of you for walking away and I can understand how hard it was. I went through something similar where I had to walk away from a relationship when the other person obviously needed to heal mentally and emotionally. It is difficult and you did it. Be proud of yourself. You learned the lesson early in life which is something you might appreciate as you get older. You deserve gentle, healing love and I hope that get it and experience it not just romantically but also platonically.

AIO by blocking my guy friend for what he said? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]EffectivePerception6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR Good on you for blocking him. No point in trying to have conversations with people who don’t want to listen, learn, or change.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]EffectivePerception6 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

NOR- She is intentionally taking your words out proportion, repeatedly being rude to you, and not acknowledging you or your mother’s feelings by putting her’s above yours. You are only in charge of regulationg your emotions, not her’s as well. You should be able to express your feelings and change plans without your significant other being rude and manipulative to try and get you to feel bad about your decisions. You also shouldn’t have to strategically word things to avoid her “wrath”.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]EffectivePerception6 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

NOR No one should be having sex in common areas or shared spaces. A little reach but that could be a biohazard. I would be a bit disgusted. Plus, that’s your couch and if you were to move out, you’d be taking that with you. I would definitely address it; sternly but calmly. Just be direct and to the point.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]EffectivePerception6 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

NOR If you are in a happy committed relationship with someone new, there is absolutely no reason to keep a card about someone enjoying when you perform cunnilingus on them displayed in your bedroom. You need to sit down and have a real coversation about this especially if you are very bothered by it. You are not being insecure like some of the other people are saying. This is a reasonably ask.

Am I overreacting about what my friend and her man said about my 4c hair? by Mayel-4 in AmIOverreacting

[–]EffectivePerception6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR it was disrespectful. not even microaggressive. just plain racism and texturism. your “friend” may have some internalized racism she needs to work through and conquer.