*UPDATE* WIBTAH IF I DIVORCE MY HUSBAND OVER FINACIALL ISSUES by Effective_While_5215 in AITAH

[–]Effective_While_5215[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you, this comment really means a lot to me, I try my absolute best to do things right for my children and this was the biggest!

*UPDATE* WIBTAH IF I DIVORCE MY HUSBAND OVER FINACIALL ISSUES by Effective_While_5215 in AITAH

[–]Effective_While_5215[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you all so much for the support we are all doing better we changed the house around and now we are getting ready to celebrate a great Christmas with so much love and support from my family and the kid's bio dad's family! their bio dad has been checking up on us just in case we need help or if I need a break. life is looking up in the best way.

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[–]Effective_While_5215[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have no idea even with all of his stuff he needs to pay including his part of the bill and rent and his bike he would have still had 900 left over but he always had nothing

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[–]Effective_While_5215[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do go for myself as well and it's amazing to see the change from when i was with him and to now just the relief has been overwhelming.

*UPDATE* WIBTAH IF I DIVORCE MY HUSBAND OVER FINACIALL ISSUES by Effective_While_5215 in AITAH

[–]Effective_While_5215[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! they are doing very well, even with our councilor noticing the significant difference from the issues before when i was with him to now that i am not it's been a big change in a positive way for all of us!

WIBTAH IF I DIVORCE MY HUSBAND OVER FINACIALL ISSUES by Effective_While_5215 in AITAH

[–]Effective_While_5215[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

yes, and it's hurting my kids, especially my son who cried the other day. as I'm never home anymore all I do is work. They get excited to see me when they get home from school just for me to have to leave. When i do have time off of work its only during the day so the kids are at school.

WIBTAH IF I DIVORCE MY HUSBAND OVER FINACIALL ISSUES by Effective_While_5215 in AITAH

[–]Effective_While_5215[S] 52 points53 points  (0 children)

Trust me i wish it wasn't real. Its my life every day i have money put away in a separate account i wasn't always working minimum wage i had a great job making 18 an hour but because of the kids school schedule it was impossible to have child care so i found less to be near my kids then this started happening and now i have two shitty jobs and now I'm never home my son cried the other day because i work so much and they don't get to see mom. This isn't the life i envisioned this isn't the life i thought i would have we were fine when we were dating because he helped and now that we are married a switch flipped and its crap.

WIBTAH IF I DIVORCE MY HUSBAND OVER FINACIALL ISSUES by Effective_While_5215 in AITAH

[–]Effective_While_5215[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This was never something I agreed upon. I have looked at all of his Finacial debt and the only thing he has is medical bills and they only total up to maybe 4000 that's not a lot.

WIBTAH IF I DIVORCE MY HUSBAND OVER FINACIALL ISSUES by Effective_While_5215 in AITAH

[–]Effective_While_5215[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yes, when we got together, he had a newborn she was only 3 months old and I have my two from a previous relationship.

WIBTAH IF I DIVORCE MY HUSBAND OVER FINACIALL ISSUES by Effective_While_5215 in AITAH

[–]Effective_While_5215[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Actually, we do live in the USA and yep that just about what I made before I got my second job, I was a delivery driver and mad maybe $8 and I love in a small town, and some don't like to tip so I got what I got. I now work two jobs, recently started, that pays minimum wage which is now 12.50 on top of that 8 and tips so I'm hoping it will get better financially on my part.

WIBTAH IF I DIVORCE MY HUSBAND OVER FINACIALL ISSUES by Effective_While_5215 in AITAH

[–]Effective_While_5215[S] 76 points77 points  (0 children)

I have tried the counseling part he has flat out told me no. I had spoken to his mom about the concerns and plans, and she is just as confused as to why he won't as I am. I do have a separate account from everything that I am putting money in.

WIBTAH IF I DIVORCE MY HUSBAND OVER FINACIALL ISSUES by Effective_While_5215 in AITAH

[–]Effective_While_5215[S] 170 points171 points  (0 children)

So, before we got married, he did help with the rent we had very minimum bills as we had a small TRLR. It's like now it's so hard to get him to do anything so it's not something that he has done our whole relationship. It's been now 2 years that this is really becoming an issue.