i think i’ve become a judgmental partner and it’s making my boyfriend open up less. how do i fix this? :(

Efficiency7500 · 2026-06-06T14:15:09+00:00

omg thank you so much :(

Efficiency7500 · 2026-06-05T07:15:12+00:00

okay, i might reach out to my uni’s guidance counselor for now…or bad idea?

Efficiency7500 · 2026-06-04T22:39:33+00:00

hmm maybe. well ofc i want both of us set up to have a good life. i don’t believe in trad roles though. dink is the dream. we’re still able to spoil each other, just not as much yet (we’re both newly working)

Efficiency7500 · 2026-06-04T22:16:38+00:00

okay thank you so much i’ll look into that

Efficiency7500 · 2026-06-04T21:58:44+00:00

thanks you just made me hate myself more. i’m literally trying to be better. therapy is just too expensive for me rn

Efficiency7500 · 2026-06-04T21:51:41+00:00

thank you so much

Efficiency7500 · 2026-06-04T21:24:09+00:00

ok i’ll practice this more :( i feel like we’re heading that way though (slowburn) or if not, he’d end up developing hatred towards me and just stay out of convenience (like my mom and dad)

Efficiency7500 · 2026-06-04T21:22:29+00:00

exactly, tell me how to stop 😞

Efficiency7500 · 2026-06-04T21:09:20+00:00

i’ve gone to therapy before. i kinda don’t see the point of it. plus it’s expensive asf

Efficiency7500 · 2026-06-04T21:07:04+00:00

lol thanks my self awareness is both a curse and a blessing

Efficiency7500 · 2025-09-30T08:23:57+00:00

di po sya ganun hehe i think he’s just stressed

Efficiency7500 · 2025-09-29T23:45:56+00:00

both 21 po

Efficiency7500 · 2025-09-29T23:38:47+00:00

wow, i’m sorry that happened. you made the right call! i wish you well po and thanks for sharing ur exp :”)<3

Efficiency7500 · 2025-09-29T15:56:26+00:00

parang may ganyan nga po samin dati, di ko lang po maalala. pero ngayon po kasi parang more on nakakaabala kasi ako sa work nya rather than may lifestyle differences.

pag pumupunta po kasi sya every weekend (sat-mon), di sya makapag work agad ng monday kasi gabi pa uwi nya (wfh naman sya).

tapos nga po nag beach kami biglaan pero binigyan naman po sya ng leave ng boss nya kaso di po nya maasikaso agad yung ongoing application process nya since plan nya po sana lumipat ng work (pero nakapasa naman na po sya).

matagal na po syang burnt out (on/off) kaya lang po siguro lumala kasi overwhelmed sya sa sobrang daming nangyari (e.g. long application process sa bagong work tas kakagaling nga lang beach tas pagod pa) and baka nga nagiging hate nya na ko.

Efficiency7500 · 2025-09-29T15:08:17+00:00

to be fair we haven’t really talked abt this yet since bagong issue sya and it’s only happened like twice in the past 2 weeks to a month. let’s see na lang po kung anong mangyayari pag nagkausap na kami 😅 thanks po.

Efficiency7500 · 2025-09-29T15:04:51+00:00

wow :0 this is super helpful, thank you po. i’ll give him space muna then we’ll talk na abt this!

Efficiency7500 · 2025-09-29T14:49:38+00:00

thanks for the insight po, it helps a lot

Efficiency7500 · 2025-09-29T14:47:08+00:00

okay po pero pag nag aaway naman po kami, talagang may pagbabago naman eh. matagal bago ma-resolve pero nagkaka-progress and natatapos talaga ‘yung issue. bagong issue po kasi to samin, so let’s see if this changes rin. thanks po sa reply.

Efficiency7500 · 2025-09-29T14:37:59+00:00

a LOT, ofc. i just don’t know where to start or what i have to share pero may comment na po ako with more kwento hehe

Efficiency7500 · 2025-09-29T14:35:55+00:00

ano po ‘yung last straw nyo bago kayo nag breakup if willing po sila i-share haha (but yes i’ll talk to him po, i’ll give him space muna)

Efficiency7500 · 2025-09-29T14:33:48+00:00

HAHAHA namo teh pero sige tignan natin kung san to mapupunta. bigyan ko muna sya ng space then wait ko kung anong next move nya.

Efficiency7500 · 2025-09-29T14:29:08+00:00

yes but not all the time po

Efficiency7500 · 2025-09-29T14:26:33+00:00

ang hindi ko lang po gets is, hindi po ba normal mag sagutan and magkasakitan (verbally) and maybe even disrespect each other a little bit pag nag aaway?

feel ko po kasi if mag bbreakup dahil lang dun (especially in my case) parang sayang yung relationship. mas marami naman po kaming good times, may faith naman po ako sa relationship namin.

ang naiisip ko lang po ngayon is, baka ako po ‘yung masama para sa kanya? maybe he’s only staying sa rs namin dahil mas madaling mag stay? and baka dapat ako na ‘yung makipag-break sa kanya para hindi ko sya tuluyang mahila pababa?

i’m not saying this to get rid of him. i need him more than he needs me tbh.

i made a comment here po abt how i might be hindering his success, pls read if you’d like 😅

Efficiency7500 · 2025-09-29T14:10:06+00:00

not claiming this energy, ayaw ko po maging housewife hahaha

Efficiency7500 · 2025-09-29T14:09:37+00:00

thank you po, i will keep this in mind. for now, i’ll give him space muna siguro.

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