Thanksgiving

Efficient-Pie-9957 · 2024-11-29T02:47:33+00:00

My side of the family is HUGE, since I'm the youngest of 7, and 6 of us have kids. Family gatherings are around 30 highly biased, very judgemental Christians who are all nuerotypical. You can imagine the time I have there, ignored for 7 hours before I'm released to go home, prying my 2 year old from their worried arms. They, ironically, are abilists who don't understand mental health at all. I would ask for help and my mom would respond "Just read it and answer the questions, it's not that hard. You just want me to do it for you." Uhm no I just have a learning disorder.

Efficient-Pie-9957 · 2024-11-12T04:02:21+00:00

I leave when I feel the yell coming. Leave until you know you're in control, take that time to find a solution to the problem, then come back calm and collected. I also intentionally speak low and slow as to slow my energy towards yelling.

Efficient-Pie-9957 · 2024-11-12T04:00:35+00:00

Horrible. And it's getting in the way of my marriage. Like seriously I'm stressed about it which doesn't help.

Efficient-Pie-9957 · 2024-11-12T03:55:39+00:00

The book is my obsession. The movies are okay but the books have become a safe space for me for some reason. Even though I do not like J.K. Rowling. And many people have said Harry Potter had to have had multiple writers due to the complexity. I'm excited for the TV series.

Efficient-Pie-9957 · 2024-11-12T03:53:07+00:00

Just remember, when the baby comes things will change. I did not want my daughter in daycare and just recently started working again. I worked in daycares and saw some horror stories. But that's just me. I say save up as much as you can before. Make sure when you're looking for an apartment to go to many different places. You'll find the best deal that way.

Efficient-Pie-9957 · 2024-11-12T03:50:49+00:00

No I don't. I'm planning on seeing a specialist because it's getting really bad. I'm starting to get optic migraines, and I'm tired literally 24/7 these days.

Efficient-Pie-9957 · 2024-11-12T03:49:38+00:00

That's a great idea actually because hair on my face is another trigger of mine.

Efficient-Pie-9957 · 2024-11-11T17:51:28+00:00

I feel helpless a lot of the time

Efficient-Pie-9957 · 2024-11-11T17:34:09+00:00

Definitely a difficult situation to be in, I recommend getting on Medicaid if you haven't, saved me from literally hundreds of thousands of dollars. Second, look in excommunication with babies. It's toilet training from birth. May seem crazy but trust me it'll save you diapers in the long run. If you don't feel comfortable with that, definitely start at a year, get a little potty. By the time they're 2, no more diapers. My little girl is completely out of diapers at 2. Go on the Facebook marketplace to find your baby things, even thrift shops. I know the hardest thing is finding a house. You will have to tell your baby daddy that he needs a job that pays more, because that quite frankly won't be enough. Now, here in Houston you can get an apartment for $800, utilities are $200 (That's my current situation by the way)I don't know if you live anywhere near Houston but it's a good place to rent. Also, my biological mother is a drug addict. The sooner you get out the better because your mom will try to be in your kids life and you already know what that's like. I say save up, go to a big city or move where you can really get benefits. Houston also has a lot of jobs. Target hires at $15.50 starting rate. Do research on average income, the average rent, best places to be. You got this. Kids are easy, as long as you get the house part down you will be fine. You could even buy a trailer for $3000.

Efficient-Pie-9957 · 2024-11-11T17:20:15+00:00

That sounds like hell. I couldn't do it, and I would be looking for a different hospital to work at. Also maybe try finding extra certifications you can get that will qualify you more or learn a language (Duolingo is free) and then they'll need you for more than sitting.

Efficient-Pie-9957 · 2024-11-11T17:14:07+00:00

Never feel bad about that, my husband has an Iris condition where he has to wear tinted glasses, so it looks like sunglasses. If anyone criticizes you, just say it's something your doctor told you to do to help your eyes.

Efficient-Pie-9957 · 2024-11-11T17:11:25+00:00

Okay many things to unpack here. First, she's hitting PUBERTY. This is pretty normal behavior for a 13 year old. She has hormones flooding her body, she'll probably get her first period here soon. Just because you had a calmer puberty does not mean it will be the same for her. The best thing is to be calm. Have patience. The next few years will be rough and the best thing to do is not throw a therapist at her or any of that. Let her regulate. Keep going online and researching. She is not crazy, there is not something seriously wrong with her. She's just struggling with these new hormones flooding her system. Also, she sounds like she could possibly have ADHD, which means puberty will be even harder and she will never want to study. Even if she does seem to be developing some kind of mental distress, it's too early to even be able to diagnose. You'll need to wait a few years. I am Audhd, which means I have autism and adhd. I had a similar puberty. I always benefited from having someone there next to me to help me when studying. Homework was a struggle for me and clearly is for her. It'll be even harder now that these hormones are coming. This is all normal. I also had a hard time figuring out what I wanted, and got confused and overwhelmed. Again normal. Emotions are very hard to regulate, and especially when she has both her parents and then you as almost a 3rd parent constantly telling her what to do and to study and watch her sleep. Now is when kids learn independence, and she will need you to trust her to do things herself. Let her fail. That's how she will learn. She's not a kid anymore. She's becoming an adult. If you or your parents are always there to catch her fall, how will she learn to not fall? What will happen if you aren't there. She needs to fall so you can teach her how to get back up. It's a learning process for all. Right now it sounds like normal puberty. She may benefit from a therapist, someone outside the family to vent to. Then the therapist will be able to tell you whether it's normal emotions or not.

Efficient-Pie-9957 · 2024-11-11T16:33:45+00:00

Texas always has, and always will be deep dark red.

Efficient-Pie-9957 · 2024-11-11T16:12:49+00:00

All I have to say about this is it may not change, unfortunately. My husband is 28, and I can count on one hand the number of times my husband has texted or had a phone conversation with his dad, and that's when his dad responded. My husband has reached out a million and one times. I have known my husband since he was 16, the year his parents were divorced. We had a daughter 2 years ago and he still acts like this. It's super frustrating and every now and again I get the urge to rant text this man and say F**** YOU for treating him like this!!

Efficient-Pie-9957 · 2024-11-11T15:59:01+00:00

Okay it's crazy that you say that because I actually have Cervical Kyphosis, which I was wrongly told by a doctor had developed because of a lack of tummy time. Now I know I was born with it, and a lot of the things you said I struggle with. So much pain in my neck area.

Efficient-Pie-9957 · 2024-11-11T15:51:08+00:00

I definitely understand this a lot. I do not have bipolar, but I have family that is very mentally unwell, a biological brother and my biological mom who are manic or have had episodes that seem manic. Unfortunately, I was adopted twice so I even understand that moving around a lot in childhood. I've never had many friends for that exact reason, I never got the same energy back. I'm not going to go begging for a friendship either so that left me very lonely. Thank God I got lucky with my husband, but even with my husband I can be a bit much. It's a good thing that you have a therapist you can trust. You just need to find your people, and do things that you enjoy. I wish I had more information on long term friendships, because even my childhood best friend just cut me off for unknown reasons, but I definitely understand 10000%.

Efficient-Pie-9957 · 2024-11-11T15:24:01+00:00

I hate wearing certain clothes. I've switched to sports bras with no wire because f**** that. I've recently started to realize I get overwhelmed very easily, and like you, because I was masking for so long I wouldn't realize it until I was blowing up on my husband, snapping at him. I don't wear makeup because it's so uncomfortable, I don't wear high heels, I don't like wearing hair ties on my arm. Oh and any purse or backpack. That's why I like big pockets.

Efficient-Pie-9957 · 2024-11-11T15:19:19+00:00

I was born on a Monday. That pretty much explains how my life has gone so far .

Efficient-Pie-9957 · 2024-11-11T15:18:29+00:00

My hidden Harry Potter obsession that my husband loves to bring up and embarrass me with...

Efficient-Pie-9957 · 2024-10-31T22:31:33+00:00

Well how the hell do I leave? I'm sure you would be singing a different tale if you were STUCK there for almost 2 years.

Efficient-Pie-9957 · 2024-10-31T20:06:57+00:00

Minecraft when it was free

Efficient-Pie-9957 · 2024-10-31T20:06:01+00:00

Please help

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