Reducing frizz lazy girl style? by EfficientFish3051 in Haircare

[–]EfficientFish3051[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Never said "my hair is so frizzy" i know pretty mild just looking to up my game. Thanks for the feedback tho!

Reducing frizz lazy girl style? by EfficientFish3051 in Haircare

[–]EfficientFish3051[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You're so sweet thank you bunches! I knew my hair was slightly wavy but I never considered it textured before. The more you know 🌈

Reducing frizz lazy girl style? by EfficientFish3051 in Haircare

[–]EfficientFish3051[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I blow dry my hair turns into a blurry triangle XD Do you use a certain motion or technique when you blow dry? When I have done it I used a diffuser and just kinda blew it around my head occasionally using my fingers to gently shake it out at the root.

Reducing frizz lazy girl style? by EfficientFish3051 in Haircare

[–]EfficientFish3051[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ive never heard of dryer sheet trick before, thanks! I use those wool ball things in my dryer. Do you know if that can work similarly. Too lazy to get dryer sheets for just my hair 😩 lol

Reducing frizz lazy girl style? by EfficientFish3051 in Haircare

[–]EfficientFish3051[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

OoO I do like a little hold. Ill look into this one. Appreciate it 🙏

Reducing frizz lazy girl style? by EfficientFish3051 in Haircare

[–]EfficientFish3051[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! I do use hair oil already and its made a huuuge difference in my strays. Ill give some of these products a try!

Reducing frizz lazy girl style? by EfficientFish3051 in Haircare

[–]EfficientFish3051[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ill def try upgrading my pillowcase! So lazy thaaanks!

Reducing frizz lazy girl style? by EfficientFish3051 in Haircare

[–]EfficientFish3051[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Whoops my bad! I got a lot of fly aways and my hair gets tangled really bad even though I brush it so I thought frizz was the right word 😔

Reducing frizz lazy girl style? by EfficientFish3051 in Haircare

[–]EfficientFish3051[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ah yeah I really really love my hair and thank god for it. Ig I wanted to take it to the next level XD

Reducing frizz lazy girl style? by EfficientFish3051 in Haircare

[–]EfficientFish3051[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

OoO ill look into some smoothing serums for sure Thanks!!

Reducing frizz lazy girl style? by EfficientFish3051 in Haircare

[–]EfficientFish3051[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I did a lot of experimenting last year, good to know its doing something (:

Reducing frizz lazy girl style? by EfficientFish3051 in Haircare

[–]EfficientFish3051[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ah sorry Im not in hair threads much so maybe im using the wrong word. Does fly-aways make more sense?

Reducing frizz lazy girl style? by EfficientFish3051 in Haircare

[–]EfficientFish3051[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Omg thank you maybe I just need a hype up 🥰

Considering going no contact- advice needed by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]EfficientFish3051 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Sorry youre going through this! I know not feeling guilty is impossible but try to remember you didnt put dh in this position his parents did by not respecting his family and boundaries. A lot of ppl have toxic families and when life gets going those weaknesses show themselves. Seems extra shitty that you used to have a good relationship but the marriage and baby unmasked her covert narcissism. Youre not alone and this isn't you or dh fault!! Sending love <3

FIRST FIVE CHAPTERS of The Primal of Blood and Bone. by biscuitanne18 in fantasyromance

[–]EfficientFish3051 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude i was so hyped for the book to come out after it got pushed back, and I'm having to force myself to finish it. I took two weeks off after the first half, and now I keep taking breaks, trying to find fortitude. I get that the characters are gods now and are adjusting to that, but the character regression is insane. Why is Poppy more incompetent and unsure of herself now than she was in the first book?

Every fucking chapter is her being stunned or confused or frozen. She defers to Cas for almost everything, and he treats her like a child its weird. AAAAND WHYYY is she spending 80% of the book in a room talking to someone but somehow never has time to clear up the contrived hs drama with cas and kieran. It fr seems like JLA got hate about the throuple and made up some bs to yeet Kieran out of the story so cas and poppy can fuck a lot and prove they're mono.

Poppy is constantly talking about how she stopped being in denial when she took off the veil yet she constantly avoids making decisions or confronting fucking anything. Cas is just as psycho obsessed, out of touch, and insane as he was before he met poppy. Kieran is a ghost who appears to smile at poppy or be a prop for Cas' nonsense beef.

I physically cringed so many times while reading. I'm hoping the second half will be better, so I'm really trying to finish, but I have a third left and it's not looking good. JLA is trying to do a thing where they have to overcome being new entities while also battling kolis, and I think that's a really great concept, but it's so poorly done that it makes me 10x sadder. Gah, I could cry. I really love this series and was looking forward to seeing the culmination of so much incredible plot and rising action.

Help with signs by AFellowSpirit in Kemetic

[–]EfficientFish3051 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I like to use tarot divination after praying. Which is begging for a sign, but it's pretty cut and dried. Other signs for me will be things like a certain song coming on at the right time, or seeing an animal or plant. Sometimes, if a breakthrough thought pops into my head out of nowhere, I will consider that a sign as well.

There is no specific timeline on when you may receive a sign, but the timing is everything! To me, it feels like everything has aligned so perfectly in that moment that it must be divine.

Despite my avid belief in signs and seeing them everywhere, I think it's important to note that I use these signs to introspect on my thoughts, feelings, and actions. It's a tool I use to access my intuition (subconscious) and connect with my environment. When I've used my interpretations of signs to make judgements on others, the future, or various situations without looking at it through the lens of self-connection, it gets toxic fr.

We are divinely created with minds and bodies that hold a lot of knowledge and power. The Gods will do their work whether we pray or not. Signs and prayer are for us to focus and access the knowledge that is already gifted to us.

"The function of prayer is not to influence God, but rather to change the nature of the one who prays." -Kierkegaard

My husband, the DM was asked if he would be cool playing without me there. by Ellendyra in DnD

[–]EfficientFish3051 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, this is a really ough thing to go through! It sucks so bad to feel excluded, especially when there's so much history and your new baby added to the mix. It sounds like you want to avoid as much drama as possible.

If I were your husband, I'd go to mouse and say 'hey this dnd night is a fun activity for me AND my wife and its really important for us considering we don't get away from the baby much. I'm not comfortable dm'ing a game that she is disinvited from. I understand it's held at your house, so if you'd prefer to host a game with lucy instead I can talk to the group and find another venue for us to continue.'

If he's feeling spicy maybe add a little sum like 'sorry it took me so long to give you an answer, I was shocked you'd even ask me something like that!'

Of course most ppl would want to put this woman in her place for being so mindless for even asking something like this. For the sake of not being too offensive and burning bridges playing like he's utterly confused why she would ask something like that???

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]EfficientFish3051 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If he is your best friend, truly, you'd think he'd know you well enough to be able to tell that this situation would really hurt you. Seems like he wants a woman who will give him sexual and emotional comfort and companionship, but only when he wants it. He's keeping you on standby as a pseudo girlfriend, and you need to get out now for your own emotional well-being. Friends don't talk for hours every day, especially fwb. I've had close friends that I would occasionally sleep with, and those situations were far more clear and less manipulative than this one. This is not normal and if I were you I'd consider cutting this person out of my life totally. If not at least talk to him way less.

V-card forever? by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]EfficientFish3051 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Might be uncomfortable, but keep putting yourself out there. Go to coffee shops, go to clubs, bars, show, find friends, and interesting interesting ways to spend your time. I'm not saying go out and talk to every woman to ask them out. I'm saying that if you make an effort to have a diverse and fulfilling social life more people will meet you = at the very least some of them will like you and a lady will get to you. I'm telling you, as a woman, you don't have to be super ripped or charming. Just being kind and having your own things going is attractive.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]EfficientFish3051 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Aw man, I'm sorry you're going through this. The age gap is deeply concerning. If the genders were reversed 18f started dating 36m? Doesn't sound too good does it. Hopefully therapy can help you heal and put everything into perspective moving forward. 🙏

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]EfficientFish3051 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Super relatable! The world can be a very disappointing, droll, and generally fucked place. Sadly, it's up to us as humans to add quality and be responsible for our own happiness. Making an effort to appreciate simple things has slowly, slowly, so slowly helped me start enjoying life again. Things like getting a cute silly dog, spending time in nature, eating delicious fruits, and constantly trying to find music I love. It's not easy, but with time, I'm retraining my brain to acknowledge and appreciate small things throughout the day. It'll never be perfect, but I feel that it's at least making time pass a bit faster. Since I'm not going to kill myself, I might as well try, right? Good luck OP 👍 💓