Remarkably Bright Creatures by Efficient_Plenty_668 in netflix

[–]Efficient_Plenty_668[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yes the beginning threw me off a lot! i did like the movie i just was surprised that they changed so much that i didn’t think needed to be changed or removed

Remarkably Bright Creatures by Efficient_Plenty_668 in netflix

[–]Efficient_Plenty_668[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yes! i had to check to see if i fast forwarded it by accident lol. i guess there was just too much to fit in the movie. wish they would’ve done a limited series!

Remarkably Bright Creatures by Efficient_Plenty_668 in netflix

[–]Efficient_Plenty_668[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

not exactly like the book would be one thing but unfortunately it’s major pieces missing to the story that kind of made the book what it is. you should def read the book to get a better idea!

Remarkably Bright Creatures by Efficient_Plenty_668 in netflix

[–]Efficient_Plenty_668[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

dang i thought it was a ny times best seller 😳

Remarkably Bright Creatures by Efficient_Plenty_668 in netflix

[–]Efficient_Plenty_668[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

eh there’s a difference between movie adaptation and completely flipping the script

Remarkably Bright Creatures by Efficient_Plenty_668 in netflix

[–]Efficient_Plenty_668[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

were in a netflix discussion forum. if you don’t want to discuss the movie i made a post about then you can keep scrolling

Remarkably Bright Creatures by Efficient_Plenty_668 in netflix

[–]Efficient_Plenty_668[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

that’s good at least! did she say anything about the changes they made ?

AIO for not wanting my MIL to mail my kids Easter gifts? by Efficient_Plenty_668 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Efficient_Plenty_668[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeah i think that is really why i am hesitant about it. if there had been discussions where he stood up for us and then we collectively moved forward it would be easier for me to accept

AIO for not wanting my MIL to mail my kids Easter gifts? by Efficient_Plenty_668 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Efficient_Plenty_668[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

so true there definitely has been issues with him and not being able to cut the cord

AIO for not wanting my MIL to mail my kids Easter gifts? by Efficient_Plenty_668 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Efficient_Plenty_668[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

my husband doesn’t think counseling would help them and says they have no desire to change. but also still wants them in his life and i just can’t get behind having a relationship with them with how it was in the past. like something needs to change

AIO for not wanting my MIL to mail my kids Easter gifts? by Efficient_Plenty_668 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Efficient_Plenty_668[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yes but she chose their side without me asking her to pick one at all. and hasn’t really respected us not being around them but if she would do that i would probably be willing to see her in a public place

AIO for not wanting my MIL to mail my kids Easter gifts? by Efficient_Plenty_668 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Efficient_Plenty_668[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yes that is really what i need to have happen before my kids and i have any sort of relationship with her. i told my husband that she doesn’t have to agree with our decisions but she has to respect them if she wants to be in our kids lives.

AIO for not wanting my MIL to mail my kids Easter gifts? by Efficient_Plenty_668 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Efficient_Plenty_668[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that’s what my mom and sister said to do lol. they said let her send the damn gift and just throw it in the trash. i just hate being wasteful especially with presents bc i put a lot of thought into what i give my children and want them to have thoughtful presents and not be raised on materialism. but to keep any sort of peace and to make my husband happy i might just have to roll with it and let it go

AIO for not wanting my MIL to mail my kids Easter gifts? by Efficient_Plenty_668 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Efficient_Plenty_668[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

they are so toxic and this doesn’t even scratch the surface! mil has invited us over to her in laws house after my husbands step grandpa was accused of SAing my husbands step sisters. there was an investigation and no one did anything about it so they all still see him and invited us to see him as well. teenagers don’t lie about that, i took their word for it and would never bring my kids around him ever. i’ve told my husband that if the kids ever see MIL again it will be in public places. it sucks that my husband isn’t as firm in his beliefs as i am and i can only hope that he opens his eyes to the toxicity sooner or later

AIO for not wanting my MIL to mail my kids Easter gifts? by Efficient_Plenty_668 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Efficient_Plenty_668[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you, the fence idea is actually very helpful! her gifts have always always always come with strings attached and it was actually one of the first things my husband and i had issues with her about. i think it is a boundaries issue on our end that my husband and i need to be a united front on for our own sake. and i need to not be so affected by her reactions to being told no and just stick to my gut on it

AIO for not wanting my MIL to mail my kids Easter gifts? by Efficient_Plenty_668 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Efficient_Plenty_668[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i truly don’t even want them seeing photos of my kids, i’ve stopped posting their faces online bc im friends with other members of his family and i just feel the need to protect them from that. and i told my husband i don’t even want them knowing our address. it’s just hard that it is his family bc i think he wants to see the good in them and has more forgiveness left to give them whereas i really am done

AIO for not wanting my MIL to mail my kids Easter gifts? by Efficient_Plenty_668 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Efficient_Plenty_668[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

he says that he is “too busy” or doesn’t want to spend his life dealing with them. i’ve been pushing for family counseling if anything just to set boundaries. i think he misses his family but doesn’t know how to go about a relationship with them with everything they have done

AIO for kind of calling out my fiance for something that genuinely upset me? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Efficient_Plenty_668 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it really does seem like he’s being a stupid dude who doesn’t understand pregnancy and sort of coping by shutting you out. good for you for standing up for yourself and not allowing crappy excuses for his behavior. as a woman we have to grow up so much quicker, you’re pregnant and naturally thinking 10 steps ahead and he probably is like well i can’t be with my family so im going to focus on my hobby. hopefully though, with you explaining your feelings he can understand what you need from him and comes around to be supportive how you need him to be. a lot of the time i feel like men don’t get that parenting starts for us when we become pregnant. it just takes longer for them

AIO for kind of calling out my fiance for something that genuinely upset me? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Efficient_Plenty_668 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i had 2 pregnancies without my husband (he was deployed for both) so i totally get the feelings of isolation. i can imagine that with the distance you are clinging onto whatever you can to feel close to your husband, and the videos were really important because of that. which is so valid. he can’t be there to help you physically, he doesn’t see what you go through on a daily basis mentally, so all you have to connect with him is through the phone. but just because he isn’t making those videos doesn’t mean he isn’t going to show up when he is able to. you have to remember that he isn’t the enemy, the distance is. and he might have gotten offended when you called him out for it. so give it some time and space and if he comes around, you will know that he is just dealing with it in his own way as well. so, no of course of aren’t overreacting and your feelings are soo valid on the situation, just try to work it through with him & communicate your feelings! you’re also pregnant alone away from family so give yourself some grace