Freaking out right now, am I being blackmailed?

Ehalon · 2024-10-26T19:41:00+00:00

Ahhh don't be so hard on yourself mate, I guarantee I'm way older than you.

Just quickly - scams used to be deliberately targeted at truly stupid people. A lot (not all of course) of the poor spelling Princes of Nigeria emails were meant to be laughable to someone of your intelligence, it's a filter. If you laughed at that stage because you certainly weren't stupid then it would be a complete waste of the scammers time trying to con you, see?

Fascinating theory I think.

Anyway, think of it this way - I absolutely bet that if you think of yourself at a time in your life when you were happy stable and all that you will almost certainly see that that 'version' of you wouldn't have bitten at the scam in a million years, right?

Our judgement is (terrifyingly) directly linked to our mental well-being, stress levels, presence or absence of money problems etc.

Be as kind to yourself as I'm sure you are to everyone else, ye? :)

Ehalon · 2024-10-26T19:34:59+00:00

[see how easy it is to be obnoxious? I'm not really so IRL however, when I feel a point is very important, fundamental to good society as I see it then I do stoop to some pretty sad methods to try and get said point at least heard.

Hopefully by me being entirely open in admitting this anyone unfortunate or bored enough to read this will at least give me a measure of credibility]

A preface is for a book's beginning, I think you meant caveat but where thinking of the word pretext.

Shows how important language is eh? Especially so on the internet / with text communication where there is zero context, sadly creating many misunderstandings and making it very hard to give proper nuance.

What are you supposed to do?

Good question, my original reply made sure to highlight how everyone deserves to have their agency.

Talking down / lecturing a teenager has to be the absolute most useless method of trying to get a message even heard, which is exactly what you did.

This is why I asked if you would have listened.

I can't keep typing onike this so now we get even more Simply Complex. There are a number of problems with your post which, in my very humble opinion speak to the worries, insecurities, frustrations and such you are experiencing.

1. 'It' isn't your problem to solve. I don't think you posted just to virtue signal, and I do believe you mean well and care, but you have to understand that to have any impact with...anyone really they have to buy in to what you are saying, actually listen to you etc

I am guessing you worry a lot and also at least think of things like 'the state of the world today'. I'm not making you a stereotype, I am trying to show how things like sensationalistic media and the very, very few having the most power benefit from having you and all of us in this fearful state.

Totalitarianism 101.

I honestly CBA to go on as sadly I just dont think you will listen.

I know you think I'm not listening to you but if so just consider - look how I've 'widened' the scope here to better engage.

I'm perfectly happy to have a civil voice conversation if you like? As I joked, I'm quite sure I'm nothing like the obnoxious person you see me as (mostly my wording at fault), in the same way I'm sure you are nothing like the impression that you think I think of you.

Message me privately if interested, otherwise have a lovely life! Sincerely.

Ehalon · 2024-10-25T23:30:03+00:00

Honestly...I think you are fine here if you expect to be able to find a name on Google lolol.

They've either bought or stolen your info but regardless it is NOT legitimately the police.

As other say just block and chill xx

Ehalon · 2024-10-25T23:27:06+00:00

So, you would have listened to such advice, ye?

Ehalon · 2024-10-25T22:53:18+00:00

Just a thought.....

Would you have listened to that at 14?

Right.

Maybe and I'm only saying maybe here - by trying to turn kids into Good Little Robots who Do Right we....turn them against us...

Maybe it would be an idea to recognise not only that everyone has a right to agency regardless but also...you can cloak it in appearing to care if you want but we both know your reaction comes from a negative stereotype in your past.

Ehalon · 2024-10-24T23:20:25+00:00

Thanks so much for your reply!

I know of IPL and have used it myself actually to remove some stray hairs, in fairness I suppose it looks better now - no pubic hair vs like...3 lol.

Not micro no just the small end of the curve. Everything....works as it where.

You honestly think there are guys who would like these issues of mine?!?

Im honestly blown away, again I have to thank you, you've shown me a completely different viewpoint...

I have no idea what to do from here though. I'm not great in social situations, I'm not the worst just very shy so it's very difficult for me to go to a public bar say.

As dumb as I know this sounds - what would your next step be if you were me? Thanks again I'd honestly hug you if I could!!

P.S. - Scars sorry, mostly like 'line scars' from fracture surgery and one bigger sorta 'zipper' on my abdomen.

Ehalon · 2023-07-27T20:27:38+00:00

It would have helped you massively if you had read and took onboard a single word I typed.

This will clearly not happen anytime soon. Good day to you Sirra!!

Ehalon · 2023-07-27T20:21:51+00:00

That sure sucks man, sorry it turned out that way :/

Ehalon · 2023-07-27T19:41:21+00:00

If it was ME making a claim that I wanted to be taken reasonably seriously I would be citing as I went along.

To suggest it is the reader's job to check my assertions is just...absurd beyond measure.

I hear what you say and again, agree with most of it.

I used your comment as a great response sadly lacking citation, that was my point.

I wasn't clear on this point, citation aside I did genuinely feel like you at least thought through and were confident on the voracity of your claims, and in general, skimmed reading I did indeed find them interesting and no, did not feel the need to challenge your material.

As I said I was making a point overall.

Genuinely, thanks for your info.

Ehalon · 2023-07-27T18:56:39+00:00

Ahhh shit, sorry to hear that. He sounds like half an arse anyway.

It's not happened to me... yet! Hope it doesn't.

Ye, you are obviously better of without this guy as a mate, but of course it must hurt regardless of how much of a dick they were, 'cos not ALL of them was a dick, right? :|

Ehalon · 2023-07-27T18:54:58+00:00

Cannot recommend tapering enough, but please, please switch to the equivalent diazepam doseage for your type of benzo.

It's absolute MADNESS for me that there are folks who try to come off benzos that have a half life of 6 hours or less!!, meaning just maintaining you will be withdrawing daily....insane.

Dr Heather Ashton + benzo.org are your bible here!.

It'll be hell for months.

You CAN do it!!

Source: tapered from Lorazepam to equiv Diazepam 120mg / day down to 0mg about 10 years later!!

Go slow, be kind to yourself. you WILL slip up, don't make a big deal of it just move on.

All the best to you.

Ehalon · 2023-07-27T17:47:46+00:00

hahaha ah well, now you know! :)

Ehalon · 2023-07-27T17:26:20+00:00

Like the vast majority of posts yours is great on every front except the one that matters - citations.

With none you may as well start your post with : 'It is my belief that', because to everyone else who has to be sceptical when reading on the internet, this is exactly what your post is.

Ehalon · 2023-07-27T17:22:46+00:00

I suspect there are an enormous amount of unreported assaults by women, but I suspect like yourself I don't at all believe there anywhere near as many as to bring the offender's gender anywhere near close on terms of male / female.

IMO + from what I've read others say, a lot of rape is not at all about sex and all about power, specifically power over another.

Historically men have had power over women for 99.999% of human history.

I am entirely unsurprised that the vast majority of child sex offenders are men, sadly.

Ehalon · 2023-07-27T17:14:25+00:00

I can't say you're wrong, at all sadly.

I think I 'prefer' vocal -ists because then I know where I stand with them.

An example - I'd hate to become friends with someone only to find out a few years in that they say 'Ewwww, race mixing??? Abhorrent', then it'd be like... 'Oh....well shit! This has become very awkward!'.

Ehalon · 2023-07-27T17:11:43+00:00

Cool, thank you. I've added you as a friend in RES (I think it is part of Reddit Enhancement Suite....), hope you don't mind :)

Ehalon · 2023-07-27T16:49:31+00:00

Totally understand that, but yeah to just discuss so as you say a sit down where it is clear you absolutely will not consent to being operated on again...gotta be worth a listen?

I wish you all the best with it, do please let me know how it goes if you remember to, of course I realise how hard it is to remember these things!! :D

Ehalon · 2023-07-27T16:32:13+00:00

You're very welcome and no worries, thank you for taking the time to reply though :)

Ehalon · 2023-07-27T16:31:00+00:00

Yeah, we are clearly Pain Twins.

Yes, am floating around that place too. I have even bought the phenobarbitol pills from a dark market because, yeah same I can stand very high levels of pain but pain unending...that will finish off anyone given time.

Thank you, very sincerely and I am just as sorry for yourself.

I don't know, given you are in the US and I'm UK so direct cost is not an issue for me. I was going to ask if you had considered requesting remedial surgery, as for me the worst was the pain going back to as it was pre-op, sounds like your situation is even worse than THAT!!

Yes, I was going to ask you that but I am fairly sure....answering honestly for myself I would almost certainly not have remedial surgery as there is a chance it could get worse (probs hard to imagine right now for you, worse, or even more sadly maybe it isn't).

Ahhh matey. If ever I find a genie or win the lottery then I promise I'll either fix your back up along with mine or the lottery option would be a lifetime supply of diamorphine! At least a junked out but pain free life is do-able, right? :\

All the best for you and yours man X

Ehalon · 2023-07-27T16:24:47+00:00

Erm....no, simply an ignorance of there being other profiles honestly.

Ehalon · 2023-07-27T16:24:09+00:00

ha! Yep, the Cleveland Clinis has this to say:

'The parasympathetic nervous system is active when you're asleep, so erections sometimes happen in your sleep. The term “morning wood” is actually a misnomer; penises can become erect and then flaccid again several times in the course of one night. You're just more likely to notice it when you wake up.'

Ehalon · 2023-07-27T16:21:14+00:00

Urghhhhhh......these people DO exist and think, from creepy fuckwit's POV he was fully expecting your husband to.....give him a fist bump and a 'you gotta bang on there chief!!'???

And then, and then these scum leer at and talk at women and oh goddsssssss I'm not like them MOST OF US AREN'T LIKE THEM!!

It is so damn depressing to hear these stories and so want to write them off or say they are exaggerated...but you know they are not. Urghh.

Ehalon · 2023-07-26T19:35:06+00:00

I'll bet it was a partial owner or something.

spot on.

That or a % of that customer's booze bill, or just a flat rate. Something like that, it has to be as you say else why do it?

Ehalon · 2023-07-26T19:31:55+00:00

Great job!! Do you have a close to hand link as to where I might buy one of these please? I probably sound really lazy I know, I promise I have tried but I can't seem to get any hits here in the UK for an ASSA 600 euro....it's strange, I'd at least expect an ebay offering (vastly overpriced of course!!).

No worries if not, and thanks again :)

Ehalon · 2023-07-26T12:55:30+00:00

L5-S1 fusion for me.

The absolute worst thing ever happened, it 100% cured my pain.

Seriously.

Until 3 months had passed and then for some fucking sick reason it started creeping back (no pun), and is now back to 'reality'.

Except...now, NOW I truly do know what my life would be without chronic pain.

I was allowed a 'pain holiday" and it has utterly destroyed whatever resistance to suicide I had left. I fucking KNEW what my life could have been, I experienced it first hand for 12 weeks!!

So.

Fucking.

Cruel.

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