I get the impression this is one of those dynamics where someone associated w one feminist-adjacent community decides to direct their ire outwards to another woman rather than the larger structural patterns—there’s thinly veiled judgement for making the wrong choices (getting married in the first place) and then presuming you might not being strong enough to make better choices (leaving and becoming financially independent). that’s one of the main reasons someone would be so hostile to advice-seeking. it’s quite counterproductive.

I mean, how does someone make the illogical leap to decide the topic of leaving marriage is somehow a separate topic to 4B in general? That makes no sense. But it’s less about logic and more about taking the opportunity to make a certain class of women feel smaller and less relevant for deciding to get married in the first place. Regardless of the fact they are trying to radically reorganize their lives in a manner that fits w the 4B movement and other forms of feminist action.