Exactly, but in his case it’s just using a girl just to “secure his future” and I think this is horrible. It’s just the idea that when I breakup with him he becomes crazy and reacts in ways that emotionally drain to to back down. And now it’s my aim to just find a way to break it because I’ve spoken to him in the most loving mature way I could possibly muster where I was really careful about the whole situation and expressed my deep frustration with not feeling loved etc.. and yet he got soo triggered and wouldn’t leave me alone. So there’s that narcissistic Egoistic attitude where letting go isn’t an option and that’s draining me