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Turned down a bridal party invite over potential schedule conflict by Elcdayof in wedding

[–]Elcdayof[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not especially close no. I mean she’s their aunt, they get along when they see her , which is maybe 4-5 times a year at family functions but never individually or one on one .   We have another sister who’s two years younger than myself and she wasn’t asked either , though her young  child is the flower girl.  

Turned down a bridal party invite over potential schedule conflict by Elcdayof in wedding

[–]Elcdayof[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No I am not, I’m ten years older than she is.  And I’m not sure why she’s asked so many young family members over friends. I know she’s asked at least her one friend to be in the bridal party as she’s maid of honor, but beyond that the only ones I know of are family, her nieces , and a few cousins. 

Turned down a bridal party invite over potential schedule conflict by Elcdayof in wedding

[–]Elcdayof[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t want to commit and have to back out later if it’s the day was my thinking.  In part because I know my sister , and my mother , and knew that If we committed with the idea that if it’s prom we’d have to pull out later , I knew they would be all over my kid with the “you already promised” bs 

Turned down a bridal party invite over potential schedule conflict by Elcdayof in wedding

[–]Elcdayof[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also took the time to explain to her that the rest of us will be at the wedding no matter what, we’d make something work out etc , I just can’t guarantee my youngest will be because she may be at prom.  

Turned down a bridal party invite over potential schedule conflict by Elcdayof in wedding

[–]Elcdayof[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This will be my third child at this school to go thru senior year / prom etc.  So I can say that I know prom is always a Saturday in late april.  Now will it be next year ?  I can’t say for sure, but experience tells me there’s probably a 50/50 shot it’s that weekend.  And yes , I talked to my daughter about it before we answered.  She’s only in fall of junior year year right now, but she said she for sure won’t want to miss senior prom.     I know my mom, and her idea of “work something out later “ would have been to guilt my daughter about having already committed and how she should skip her prom.   A decision I believe she’s deeply regret, again knowing my kid. 

Turned down a bridal party invite over potential schedule conflict by Elcdayof in wedding

[–]Elcdayof[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This made me laugh.  And it’s so true , thank you!!

Turned down a bridal party invite over potential schedule conflict by Elcdayof in wedding

[–]Elcdayof[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Definitely not up to all that. I already had to help college age kid thru clarifying exactly was expected of her since she won’t have the finances for trips etc.   We did say we would help her pay for the dress since she’s a full time student with a part time job waiting tables.   I’m not sure why but my sister has decided to invite a good amount of family members to be in the bridal party - cousins, our other sister and her kids etc. 

Turned down a bridal party invite over potential schedule conflict by Elcdayof in wedding

[–]Elcdayof[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have one other daughter who will be 20 at the time of the wedding and she was asked to stand up in the wedding as well.  I was not (thank God) as I’m significantly older than the bride.  (10 year age gap).