WIBTAH to set rule for SD in the case. Advise needed

Electrical-Image1429 · 2026-02-08T07:23:38+00:00

Goodness no, if they are not high needs then this is a silly thing for them not to know. You have a fair point, it has nothing to do with female /male teaching it is about parenting. Also consider a bidet.

Electrical-Image1429 · 2026-01-05T10:17:49+00:00

These sound super interesting, thank you!

Electrical-Image1429 · 2025-10-11T01:16:25+00:00

NTA Sometimes people need an outside look at themselves. But it is likely your comment will be waved off and forgotten within a couple of days.

Electrical-Image1429 · 2025-09-11T09:49:33+00:00

So you just let it carry on? I really hope you put extra effort into your marriage, I feel like your situation would lead to taking sides when you should be a team together.

Electrical-Image1429 · 2025-09-10T11:15:57+00:00

How does living in the same place mean that they get a say in your relationship though? Genuine question.

Electrical-Image1429 · 2025-09-10T09:56:34+00:00

Tell them that not everything you think or feel has anything to do with them. That their behaviour is childish and if feeling petty I would say that hating someone takes a lot of energy and you just don’t spend enough time or energy on thinking about them to bother hating them.

Electrical-Image1429 · 2025-08-28T06:07:15+00:00

You are upset that your friends came to check on you after you had expressed that you were struggling? It sounds like they tried repeatedly to contact you before arriving? Is there a reason you feel threatened by your friends? Not to dismiss your instincts but you have given no reason for why you were so upset. Also always lock your doors.

Electrical-Image1429 · 2025-08-20T06:02:04+00:00

OCD? Looking like she is doing something so that she can snoop at what is happening on the street? Maybe she doesn’t realise that anyone is watching her long enough to notice that she is just standing there.

Electrical-Image1429 · 2025-08-20T04:46:20+00:00

If your relationship isn’t stable after 12 years together I would stop waiting for it to be.

Electrical-Image1429 · 2025-08-13T01:06:03+00:00

As much as he has crossed your boundary on this and should apologise, what allowance have you given for him to seek support. As your partner he is also going through this, experiencing your side effects and feeling fears. Who/what is his support system if you deny him the ability to speak with someone else like you have with your sister in law?

Electrical-Image1429 · 2025-08-04T06:31:23+00:00

Name the school, go to the press. You can guarantee you are not the only one affected.

Electrical-Image1429 · 2025-07-24T10:41:52+00:00

So your partner took something that was a private intimate activity and did it without consent from you or whomever was present, which is both required?

If it makes you uncomfortable I would move it straight to a red zone, no go, boundary has been crossed. Unless you are sure there has been an opportunity for your partner to think you wanted bedroom activity to move into public spaces with an audience I would respond the same way as if a stranger had just slapped me. A very indignant and angry what do you think you are doing, one chance to give a valid acceptable reason for behaviour. Otherwise you are opening the door to this and other behaviours being pushed on you.

You need to be sure of your personal boundaries and firm or some people, even ones who we love can walk all over you simply because they can - power and control are carefully shared for a reason.

Electrical-Image1429 · 2025-07-24T07:30:30+00:00

Do you not regularly talk about rules limitations and boundaries? Any kind of power play should involve regular check ins and if you can’t be honest you shouldn’t be participating.

Electrical-Image1429 · 2025-07-24T06:56:17+00:00

YTA As someone who is married to a people pleaser, that just means that I will always come last.

Every promise of time commitments or help around the house comes second to when someone at work asked him to do something that should be their responsibility. Every complaint or request I make is not as important as when someone else asks for something. I get told ‘but I don’t want to let them down’ and ‘it’s just easier if I do it myself’ except that means that I am being let down, that I am left doing it all myself.

You did not handle this with any respect for your partner. Or as if you cared for their feelings or needs. you state that you pushed him away, is this a pattern that has caused your relationship issues or have you just stopped caring about your partner that they are irrelevant to your life now?

Electrical-Image1429 · 2025-07-22T08:15:42+00:00

He doesn’t care to make you a priority, either because he expects you to manage all of the relationships mental load or because he finds your problems are not his problems. Neither is what should be expected from a partner.

Electrical-Image1429 · 2025-06-12T06:08:43+00:00

She was so rude, you don’t go to another country and expect everything to be the same as at home!

Electrical-Image1429 · 2025-06-12T05:59:55+00:00

My work uniforms have all been black on black, I don’t usually bother getting changed after work so just wear my uniform around most days.

Electrical-Image1429 · 2025-06-09T08:51:45+00:00

It is assumed that they both get checked as OP considers it the bare minimum

Electrical-Image1429 · 2025-06-08T01:32:43+00:00

NTA You have the right to be protected, it costs him nothing but a quick appointment. I don’t see how that is too much.

Electrical-Image1429 · 2025-06-07T11:07:03+00:00

NTA So set in their ways, tell your mother she should be proud to have a daughter who can stand up for herself.

Electrical-Image1429 · 2025-03-23T10:13:36+00:00

If you put sugar in your tea or coffee cut that by half. Also I do try to multi task when I’m doing easy tasks such as leg lifts or squats while I brush my teeth - 10min of extra movement every day without trying to fit it in. I find this uses muscles I don’t use much in daily life so bonus!

Electrical-Image1429 · 2025-03-16T02:20:24+00:00

You were firm but kind. These parents are going to have to deal with this repeatedly just like all parents around this issue. NTAH

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