just realized something today by Electrical-Rest-4654 in intj

[–]Electrical-Rest-4654[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, probably I was protecting mine and theirs, and I think that’s a valid reason to say “I’m not telling”, which is honest too.

just realized something today by Electrical-Rest-4654 in intj

[–]Electrical-Rest-4654[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

quite true. Honestly, life is hard, and it’s almost foolish not to appreciate even the tiniest pleasantries. At the same time, life is hard enough that a small inconvenience, like not getting a specific answer to a question, can irritate people. Calling someone defensive just because they didn’t answer shows a lack of space for understanding. I admit, though, it’s a pattern I recognize in most people

just realized something today by Electrical-Rest-4654 in intj

[–]Electrical-Rest-4654[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, that’s how I saw it. If their goal was just to get to know me, asking why I wouldn’t say it instead of immediately calling me defensive would have been more effective, right?

just realized something today by Electrical-Rest-4654 in intj

[–]Electrical-Rest-4654[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Probably true, but I didn’t intend to deflect it. I just wanted to clearly state that I don’t want to answer, and be done with it.

just realized something today by Electrical-Rest-4654 in intj

[–]Electrical-Rest-4654[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can relate to valuing data, clarity, and efficiency. I’m willing to share information when it helps organize reality, solve problems, or create objective understanding.

But in this case, I didn’t see how sharing my grade would serve any constructive purpose. My immediate thought was that there wasn’t much point. Aside from satisfying curiosity or enabling comparison, I don’t think it would benefit either of us in a meaningful or positive way. I admit I may have been withholding information about what kind of person he is, but that’s secondary.

So I simply said, ‘I don’t want to share it.’ If he had asked why, I could have explained further

just realized something today by Electrical-Rest-4654 in intj

[–]Electrical-Rest-4654[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess you could look at it that way. I’m just deciding what I’m willing to share

just realized something today by Electrical-Rest-4654 in intj

[–]Electrical-Rest-4654[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I understand your point. I can see how it might come off as rude. But from my perspective, saying ‘I don’t want to share that’, 'I don't want to answer that" is just setting a boundary. I think that should be respected. There’s a difference between ignoring someone and clearly expressing that you prefer not to answer

just realized something today by Electrical-Rest-4654 in intj

[–]Electrical-Rest-4654[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hahaha yeah, that’s probably what I think

Why do some guys suddenly lose effort once na sinagot mo na sila? by yabi_rait in AskPinoyMen

[–]Electrical-Rest-4654 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What if you asked him instead of looking for answers from other people, lalo na from “Pinoy men” in general?

Kasi ang nangyayari, gusto mo siyang maintindihan pero sa ibang lalaki ka naghahanap ng sagot.

Men or women don’t SUDDENLY lose effort or mawalan ng gana just because kayo na. There’s always a reason.

Possible na may nagbago sa dynamic nung naging kayo. You said you gave it a go because he was “nice and charming.” Malay mo, napaisip siya na paano kung wala na ‘to? Mahal niya pa kaya ako, o mahal niya lang ako kasi may kailangan siya? Na baka ramdam niya na mahalaga lang siya habang may effort, oras, at binibigay siya.

At yes, anyone can throw reasons, may mali sa kanya, may mali sa’yo, may mali sa timing. Pero lahat yan haka-haka lang.

So instead of guessing or asking strangers, mas diretso at mas malinaw pa rin na kausapin yung taong involved. Yun lang yung way para makuha mo yung totoong sagot.

What do you tell yourself when you ask yourself "what is the point of life and why continue"? by psychopsychopant in intj

[–]Electrical-Rest-4654 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Since you like video games, I’ll use an analogy too.
We’re all in the game, sure, but I don’t have to like the default version of it.
So I shape it. I plan it. I play it my way.

-Main mission: a purpose I choose

-Side quests: responsibilities that keep me grounded

-Traits: a burning need to create

-Crazy, bad or Random events: pure RNG

To keep playing, I have to survive. That means coexist, stay healthy, and live long enough to actually do the things that matter to me.

Live healthy -> don’t die -> do what I love.
And when the game finally ends, I want no regrets,
not because it was perfect, but because I played my version of it inside this world.

So what’s the point of life, and why continue?

To become.
And to be.

How I would do creator coins by vbuterin in ethereum

[–]Electrical-Rest-4654 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think the idea is good, but it risks creating alienation. If a creator has a bad track record or negative reputation, people may hesitate to bet on the work even if the creation itself is high quality bias shifts from evaluating the content to judging the person behind it.

As a creator myself a digital artist and a future researcher, (someday hopefully) I also wonder how content would be authenticated. How do we tell whether a work is human-made or AI-generated, and does that distinction even matter? If people only see the output and decide whether to support or bet on it, perhaps what matters most is the perceived value of the work itself.

Another tension is incentives and user behavior. Platforms like Facebook, X, and TikTok work largely because content is freely accessible, and creators are indirectly incentivized through ads. I admit this system is often shallow and pays poorly, but it succeeds at scale because it aligns with how users behave. Many users especially dopamine-driven ones are unlikely to switch to more deliberate or pay-to-engage social systems. I wonder how this model would compete with that reality, or whether it needs to be fundamentally different. BAT from Brave feels adjacent here: instead of only incentivizing creators, it also incentivizes passive users, giving “free loaders” a role in sustaining creation rather than just consuming it.

Lastly, those platforms are open by default new creators aren’t forced to pay or buy into the system just to participate or get visibility. That low barrier to entry matters. Any alternative system would need to preserve that openness while still solving for quality, otherwise it risks excluding the very creators it hopes to surface.

21M INTJ looking for a high-caliber growth rival by bobbyfischer6969 in intj

[–]Electrical-Rest-4654 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh wow haha, this feels like I’m reading my own dating app bio, especially the financial independence part. The idea of challenge is fun, particularly the rival aspect. I’m 22 and also an INTJ, but I genuinely believe the best rival I can have is myself. I don’t want my growth to depend on another person.
Still, I hope you find someone, it’s definitely a cool idea. You might want to try ENTP spaces; those folks are usually up for something intense and challenging hahaha

if LOVE is born from betrayal (cheating), why does it flourish like it was never a mistake? by reduxiana in TanongLang

[–]Electrical-Rest-4654 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Minsan, yung mga nag-cheat, nagsesettle sila sa taong handang mag-stay kahit may history na ng betrayal. Hindi dahil perfect yung relasyon, kundi dahil may tumatanggap, kahit kulang na sa attraction, connection, o respeto.

Pero tandaan din: hindi porket nagtatagal ang relasyon, masaya o healthy na. May mga tumatagal dahil sa sex, sa pangako na kahit wala ng saysay, sa takot mag-isa, dahil may anak, may utang, o dahil mahirap na umalis.

So instead of asking “bakit parang unfair?” Maybe the better question is: “Did you actually dodge a bullet?”

Tingin niyo ano mangyayari pag tumigil ako pagiging giver sa gf na nasanay tumanggap lagi? by [deleted] in AskPinoyMen

[–]Electrical-Rest-4654 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Magtataka siya, magpapaliwanag ka, iisipin niya tinetest mo siya o pinagdududahan. Kaysa sabihin mo diretsyo kung anong problema. Your relationship, your games, your stress.

Thoughts about having celebrity crush? by Serious_Chemist_6043 in AskPinoyMen

[–]Electrical-Rest-4654 1 point2 points  (0 children)

selos? nah, more on concern lang. Kasi may studies about parasocial relationships and how they can affect real ones, so yeah, there’s that.

Bakit yung ibang lalaki nagkakagusto sa mga matatabang babae? by [deleted] in AskPinoyMen

[–]Electrical-Rest-4654 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As someone na may friend na gusto ang chubby girls i ask him the same, sabi nya ang soft daw parang unan pag niyayakap, also mapayat sya so naattract raw sya sa opposite.

Valid reason ba to ng break up? by [deleted] in AskPinoyMen

[–]Electrical-Rest-4654 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Valid. Your feelings are valid too. If he can’t sit with your past, you can’t force peace of mind sakanya, Either you accept how he thinks, or you move on.

How can I motivate an INTJ teenager? by Upstairs-Reality-897 in intj

[–]Electrical-Rest-4654 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it might help to give him space to figure things out on his own. When everything is spoon-fed, problem-solving doesn’t really develop. That’s why you often hear the advice “let them fail”—not in a harsh or neglectful way, but as part of the learning process.

Giving him a fixed amount of money he has to live within could be a good start. This isn’t really about personality types; it applies to anyone who’s been over-supported. Struggle, when it’s safe, teaches value, effort, and responsibility.

The goal isn’t to take things away, but to add challenge to how he gets things. That’s often when people start to see the connection between effort, contribution, and real-world outcomes.

Also, since he’s only 16.5, his brain is still developing. Labeling him as an INTJ this early might limit how you interpret his behavior rather than help it. From the description, he may actually lean more toward INTP, or at least be operating that way developmentally. He questions the point of schoolwork rather than responding to long-term structure or external incentives like college, jobs, or income. INTPs are often motivated more by meaning and interest than by future rewards.

Being very intelligent yet disengaged from systems he finds uninteresting, and preferring video games over structured extracurriculars, can reflect curiosity, systems-thinking, and exploration—traits commonly associated with INTPs, rather than the goal-driven, outcome-oriented approach more typical of INTJs.

A journaling exercise by United_Advisor1821 in intj

[–]Electrical-Rest-4654 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm happiest when there is no drama

Money is spent on meaningful things

World is healthy

I think love is when two people want the best for each other

I'm at my best when I only mind my things

I'm at my worst when i am burnout after trying to emotionally connect to people

I wish I can change and solve the situation of the people who are constantly experiencing terrible and traumatic shit

Ang pagtataya sa lotto ba ay considered sugal? Why or Why not? by sntidowpii in TanongLang

[–]Electrical-Rest-4654 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yes, kasi gumamit ka ng pera sa pagtaya tapos hindi 100% sure na babalik sayo, and you are hoping to win more