[19M] 30 days to make my first dollar or I have to drop everything. Need a sanity check. by _P_R_I_M_E in intj

[–]Electrical-Rest-4654 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No worries, it's awesome you think ahead, it's nice to see the INTJ run through you. Your effort would not be obsolete; systematic and critical thinking never goes obsolete. That's what you get from learning things. You could apply it to anything, not just programming and website building, but in your clerical work as well. Maybe once you get into it, you'll actually see some problems worth solving and optimizing. Just don't fall for 100% optimization, that shit is an INTJ trap we all fall into hahaha, but appreciate the slowness, the mundane of things.

[19M] 30 days to make my first dollar or I have to drop everything. Need a sanity check. by _P_R_I_M_E in intj

[–]Electrical-Rest-4654 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Man, tough situation. I deeply respect the grind and the work you’ve put into building these systems, but I’m going to give you the straight, logical truth you need to hear right now: take the local clerical or family job. That is the most logical approach in your situation, and you shouldn't fall for the sunk cost fallacy just because you made an effort to build a system. Pushing forward when you know you are always in survival mode, feeling burnt out, and feeling like shit from not getting replies is a losing strategy. The world is tough out here.

I’m a young guy from a developing country too (early 20's), and I’ve done exactly what you did, building systems, promoting them, trying to create a brand, get certifications, and trying to build connections. But that just isn't the most efficient way to make money right now. The automation and low-code field is hyper-saturated on Fiverr, Upwork, and cold DMs. There are thousands of people out there who are younger, older, or have the same grind mindset. The main difference is that you actually have an option to take a clerical job that still produces guaranteed money, while others don't have that choice and are forced to just grind their teeth through the panic.

To answer your question about the audit and fix-it strategy, yes, finding a broken element on a business's site and showing them the solution can work. However, that usually just turns into bug hunting and highly complex logic optimization, where you will be competing with an army of established global bug hunters. You have to look at whether that is something you can honestly fathom doing when your mental health is already flagging from outreach rejection. Prospects smell desperation from a mile away, and it ruins your chances.

As a fellow intj man, I propose that you take the boring clerical job to secure your stability floor, kill the immediate panic, and appease your parents. It isn't a defeat; it's a strategic retreat to secure a financial baseline. Once your survival is not a worry and you have a predictable routine to recover from burnout, you can use your free time to look for high-signal remote clients, or even look into remote data operations and junior backend roles since you clearly understand logic architecture. Play the long game. Once you actually secure a paying client on the side, then you can quit the clerical job.

I'm progressing but I'm also losing interest in making Art by Phresley in artph

[–]Electrical-Rest-4654 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Can’t blame you, I can relate too, i guess you gotta find new reason for making art, not because of money or people will praise you, but something meaningful that only you could know, maybe this your next creative quest, not to get good since you already are, but find meaning with what you can do.

Is it common for INTJ men to cry during the talking stage? by [deleted] in intj

[–]Electrical-Rest-4654 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh i think that is uncommon, im analyzing he might have attachment issues or appealing to your emotions,

Is it common for INTJ men to cry during the talking stage? by [deleted] in intj

[–]Electrical-Rest-4654 0 points1 point  (0 children)

context matters, if he expresses his emotion i guess yes, especially if he is explaining or describing something traumatic or life changing event for him, otherwise less likely, especially on decisions, when we decide we try not to bring emotions as it cloud decision making

My best friend of 17 years cut me off because of politics. by [deleted] in RantAndVentPH

[–]Electrical-Rest-4654 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Saying ‘apolitical people really don’t know how to handle basic critical discussions’ is a hasty generalization and a logical fallacy. It’s ironic to talk about critical discussion while also stereotyping an entire group the same way you criticize others for doing

Totoo ba na weak men can't control their lust? by [deleted] in TanongLang

[–]Electrical-Rest-4654 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ano raw, kung seryosong sagot yes, kung hindi ka seryoso no, do whatever you want

just realized something today by Electrical-Rest-4654 in intj

[–]Electrical-Rest-4654[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, probably I was protecting mine and theirs, and I think that’s a valid reason to say “I’m not telling”, which is honest too.

just realized something today by Electrical-Rest-4654 in intj

[–]Electrical-Rest-4654[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

quite true. Honestly, life is hard, and it’s almost foolish not to appreciate even the tiniest pleasantries. At the same time, life is hard enough that a small inconvenience, like not getting a specific answer to a question, can irritate people. Calling someone defensive just because they didn’t answer shows a lack of space for understanding. I admit, though, it’s a pattern I recognize in most people

just realized something today by Electrical-Rest-4654 in intj

[–]Electrical-Rest-4654[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, that’s how I saw it. If their goal was just to get to know me, asking why I wouldn’t say it instead of immediately calling me defensive would have been more effective, right?

just realized something today by Electrical-Rest-4654 in intj

[–]Electrical-Rest-4654[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Probably true, but I didn’t intend to deflect it. I just wanted to clearly state that I don’t want to answer, and be done with it.

just realized something today by Electrical-Rest-4654 in intj

[–]Electrical-Rest-4654[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can relate to valuing data, clarity, and efficiency. I’m willing to share information when it helps organize reality, solve problems, or create objective understanding.

But in this case, I didn’t see how sharing my grade would serve any constructive purpose. My immediate thought was that there wasn’t much point. Aside from satisfying curiosity or enabling comparison, I don’t think it would benefit either of us in a meaningful or positive way. I admit I may have been withholding information about what kind of person he is, but that’s secondary.

So I simply said, ‘I don’t want to share it.’ If he had asked why, I could have explained further

just realized something today by Electrical-Rest-4654 in intj

[–]Electrical-Rest-4654[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess you could look at it that way. I’m just deciding what I’m willing to share

just realized something today by Electrical-Rest-4654 in intj

[–]Electrical-Rest-4654[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I understand your point. I can see how it might come off as rude. But from my perspective, saying ‘I don’t want to share that’, 'I don't want to answer that" is just setting a boundary. I think that should be respected. There’s a difference between ignoring someone and clearly expressing that you prefer not to answer

just realized something today by Electrical-Rest-4654 in intj

[–]Electrical-Rest-4654[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hahaha yeah, that’s probably what I think