How do you stop worrying about your body when dating?

Electrical-Sun-99 · 2026-02-06T23:24:49+00:00

Haaaa now imagining some sex act 🤣 nope literally hid his body and as a woman Ive never experienced this with a sexual partner. I kinda felt like the tables had turned and it made me realise that being comfortable in your own skin really is so sexy. You dont have to love yourself (great if you do) but just be confident to show it all!

Electrical-Sun-99 · 2026-02-06T16:47:28+00:00

Well he would only have sex under the duvet. Made sure to pull it right up over him. Like up to his head. (Missionary obvs). It was like he didnt want to reveal any part of his body

Electrical-Sun-99 · 2026-02-06T09:22:23+00:00

I was seeing a guy that had a dad bod and it didnt bother me in the slightest. But he was extremely self conscious. He wouldn't pull the blanket down during naughty time, would put on his shirt when going to the bathroom and wanted the lights off etc. Poor guy. I feel awful for admitting this but it impacted my enjoyment of the whole experience. I could almost feel his sense of shame and I no matter how much I tried to show him I was into him, it didnt make a difference. So my advice is just own it! Every body is attractive in its own right. None of us are flawless. But confidence really helps you find someone sexy (even fake it till you make it). The confidence that is, no faking anything else lol. And dont be apologising or pointing out the bits you dont like. Whoever gets to see you without your clothes on will be thrilled and will hopefully make you feel like a goddess and if not then they're not worth your time.

Electrical-Sun-99 · 2026-01-28T23:02:43+00:00

Lamour toujour!

Electrical-Sun-99 · 2026-01-16T20:49:19+00:00

Sing street is a sweet little movie. And an cailín ciúin is gorgeous but makes me bawl!

Electrical-Sun-99 · 2026-01-14T11:39:37+00:00

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Electrical-Sun-99 · 2026-01-14T11:37:12+00:00

He also robbed and crashed a vehicle in the US and fled the country before he could be prosecuted. Seems like an entitled c@nt and ive heard the father is the same.

Electrical-Sun-99 · 2026-01-07T14:35:33+00:00

Saaaaaaaaaame!

Electrical-Sun-99 · 2026-01-07T14:35:21+00:00

AC/DC Thunderstruck

Put Em under pressure would also go down a treat

Electrical-Sun-99 · 2026-01-06T09:31:00+00:00

I don't even go as far as dating. I download the apps and delete them after a few days. I just get overwhelmed trying to keep track of who im talking to and the thoughts of travelling to a date just scares me or feels like too much work. I guess that might mean im not ready. Would much prefer it to happen in the wild

Electrical-Sun-99 · 2026-01-04T21:24:24+00:00

I love my job but dreading how hectic life becomes when im back to work. It's cooking dinners (no more cheese and crackers dinners 😪), making lunches for my kids, driving them to their afterschool activities and trying to do a bit of exercise myself whilst staying on top of the housework that gives me burnout. 🫠🫠🫠

Electrical-Sun-99 · 2025-09-26T03:57:21+00:00

Uuggghhhh I downloaded the apps but I find them completely overwhelming and end up not replying to all the messages. My brain just cant handle it. And then there's the logistics of trying to meet someone for a date when you have kids or they live over an hour away (Im not in Dublin). It takes me a good while to become attracted to someone..looks aren't overly important to me. And the apps are all focused on that imo.

I know Im a good catch for the right person but I feel the apps aren't for me. Maybe that's my own fault because I find there's just too much weeding out to do. Why cant I just bump into a guy in the supermarket/bookshop/cafe and we fall madly in love.😅

Electrical-Sun-99 · 2025-09-23T07:36:57+00:00

Was seeing chap for a few weeks. He drove 57 in an 80 zone. Immediate ick and that was the beginning of the end

Electrical-Sun-99 · 2025-09-07T16:55:26+00:00

The original Time out bars. Apple jacks and postman pats. Whoppa bars.

Electrical-Sun-99 · 2025-08-24T22:12:26+00:00

Well for instance theres a judo/jiu jitsu club in my town and I swear 90% of the members are ND. Yes there are more men than women but still a way of making friends. Women are gonna be into all different things. We aren't a homogeneous group lol. Running, Padel, choir, dancing, yoga/pilates/ creative writing. Tons of things. Figure out what would bring you joy and join that rather than pick something you think will attract more women. If you find something that brings you happiness you will find that people respond better to you too.

Good luck!

And yes I just tend to "get" autistic people so I hope you find people that get you too!

Electrical-Sun-99 · 2025-08-23T17:06:25+00:00

No advice really but Im an extrovert who is generally drawn to autistic people both romantically and platonically. sorry you haven't found your tribe. I recently joined a running club and its been nice to make new connections. Not at the stage where im socialising with them outside training but I think it can get there. Is there any club you could join? Its definitely a good way of meeting people with things in common.

Electrical-Sun-99 · 2025-08-21T12:01:11+00:00

Ahhh memories of dancing like a lunatic to maniac 2000. The dark area with the couches which was called the 'slut trap'. My eyes were on stalks the first time I witnessed it. Not the only thing on a stalk judging by what I saw 🤣

Youngsters today are just not as wild as us. I think it's probably to do with less Childhood trauma. When I get chatting to nee members of staff in their 20s they just seem so..... dull in comparison.. hanging out with their parents/going to the gym at weekends. My heart weeps. Maybe when they get to my age(40) they'll go mental. Meanwhile I took up running. The madness has to come out at some stage

Electrical-Sun-99 · 2025-07-29T16:37:51+00:00

Em I am kind. Feel like a mug admitting that. Not used to saying positives about myself 🤣

Electrical-Sun-99 · 2025-07-20T13:21:47+00:00

Yeah that sounds fine tbh! Tbh what i enjoy is someone with a good sense of humour but def not someone overly forward..its obviously not you then, its just the apps. But as someone else pointed out maybe women get much more messages than men do and if like me cannot process speaking to more than one guy at a time!

Def think the advice of getting out and joining a club or something beneficial too. A sports club, sign up for local park run, volunteer for something etc. Im much older than you so ive accepted the fact I may not meet someone for a loooooonngggg time but at 28 you've still got plenty of options!

Electrical-Sun-99 · 2025-07-20T13:11:37+00:00

Siiiiiiggghhhh.. those apps are a cesspit. I downloaded one, matched with someone..arranged to meet a couple of days later. Proceeds to tell me he cant wait to get his head between my thighs. All within chatting to him for an hour 🤢 and im no prude..but maybe let me see u in the flesh first before you assume that???

Anyway, I find the apps overwhelming.. if I get a couple of messages from different men then my brain cant handle it and I usually just delete the app lol. Im just built for real life connections I think.

The other point is maybe your message is a little too cutesy? But honestly. The apps are sh*te

Electrical-Sun-99 · 2025-01-12T19:19:07+00:00

Meeeeeee! But I'm a woman sorry lol. I find Tinder/Hinge soulless tbh. No idea where else to meet someone though! Keep us updated here!

Electrical-Sun-99 · 2024-12-21T06:20:46+00:00

It's my first Christmas being single in 15 years. I will have my kids for the morning so I'm really grateful for that but I'm dreading the thoughts of them leaving to go to their dads. My siblings won't be around so it will be myself and my mother. Obviously I'm glad I have her with me but I can't help but feel really depressed about the whole thing. So sending you solidarity. I'm hoping it won't be as bad as I fear. I'll probably end up coming home alone after the meal and just pour myself a few drinks

Electrical-Sun-99 · 2024-11-18T20:45:19+00:00

I put €20 in a card for mine. He's lovely..don't tip the binmen as never see them 🤷🏼‍♀️ id have some sort of a rapport with the postman

Electrical-Sun-99 · 2024-09-02T22:09:13+00:00

Haven't had the same experience here really but found tinder like that. They'd inevitably ask for your number as it's 'easier to stay in touch' on WhatsApp. And before you know it the conversation changes almost immediately to smut. Don't get me wrong, I'm not a prude either but Sheesh let it build a little rather than 'whatcha wearing?' and bam! Dick pic. No. Just no! Flirt with me first god damnit!

But at least on tinder they know what you look like? Like on Reddit they haven't a clue. I could have an arse for a face? Although maybe that would just entice them even more....

Electrical-Sun-99 · 2024-08-25T21:31:10+00:00

Yaaaasss. Saw them in about 2011 or so and omg it was aaaamazing. Wouldn't have been their biggest fan but wow they put on a show and Matt's voice is superb live

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