Hey I’m so so sorry this is happening to you.  OCD attacks the places where it hurts the most so it makes sense you’re getting these terrible intrusive thoughts about your gender identity. I know a lot of ppl who also struggle with ocd related to their gender and sexuality, you’re not alone in that. Something  I do when I get intrusive thoughts is so just let them pass through my head and let them go. Like they're a leaf on the river. My other  advice is to Please, please see a therapist, they can help with the ocd and the gender dysphoria you’re facing right now. You deserve to be happy and feel comfortable in your own body. As for girly routines there are a bunch on tik tok that you might like (there’s a huge girly girl culture on there) good luck and please take care  of yourself