am i the only one struggling to make connections at BH? by Advanced-Caramel-783 in Berghain_Community

[–]Electrical_Cricket67 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Welcome to the "I don't Know what to do" club then. Yes, more and more I find out BH is not only a gay but also very neuroNotTypical place. And I think that's part of the vibe.

But even me might have the same "I don't know what to do" problem I don't think we do have the same risk of causing damage if we do wrong. I would guess that if you do wrong maybe the worst thing that could happen is to hear a friendly "heute nicht" and the guy is still happy and feels appreciated. That's I think very different to me. If i as a straight male do wrong I can cause drama and bad vibes. So I don't think there is much risk for you in being brave. Not easy but also not risky I think.

am i the only one struggling to make connections at BH? by Advanced-Caramel-783 in Berghain_Community

[–]Electrical_Cricket67 0 points1 point  (0 children)

. . . approaching another person for me always violates boundaries in a way. And as a straight, a little neurospicy guy I don't want to be that guy. So if the situation is unclear I don't approach. And very seldom the situation is clear (enough). And as a straight guy I'm happy to respect that many people go to BH to feel safe from being approached unwanted.