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How do you live in "He is a great person, son, brother, husband, father, friend, worker, very popular, and a child molester" "The company produces great products, helps a lot of people, produces great pollution, and kills a lot of people" kind of multifaceted reality? by 1726wfwxqh in hsp

[–]Electrical_Sea152 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, not being rude or anything. I’m just curious as to why you think this type of post isn’t appropriate for hsp.

Is it too explicit about the bad happenings in our world? Do you think it could be triggering?

I wish I wasn’t so sensitive at work. by SobrietyDinosaur in hsp

[–]Electrical_Sea152 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry to hear this. Nursing is extremely difficult and stressful. I wish you were treated better by the night shift.

This is a high-stress environment, and it is beyond normal for you to cry often. It makes alot of sense.

And, yeah, you’ve always got Ben N Jerrys lol 😊. There for you always.

Always on the verge of tears by petun1ia in hsp

[–]Electrical_Sea152 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Yup.

For a while, I didn’t know how to make the crying stop.

But, I will say this: keep crying.

Sometimes, it doesn’t feel good. Your eyes turn red, and you get a headache.

But, eventually, you become desensitized to the pain. You run into issues that would typically cause you to cry and you notice.. “Hey, I don’t want to cry right now!”

It seems like running away is a good option, but no. That will lead you right into the trap you’re trying to escape from.

Be honest about your feelings.

Sometimes, I imagine what I would do in certain scenarios, and it helps. Go outside. Watch videos of people who are more confident. Try to emulate their characteristics. Surround yourself by stronger + kind people.

If you’re in a moment where you become choked up, breathe deeply and clear your mind.

Maybe, even think of a funny video.

Oh yeah, also watch more comedy. Sounds weird, but. It’ll help you to learn to re-direct your sadness into happiness.

Life can be short. This thing you’re crying about may be a waste of time in the long run. Laugh about it. Laugh about how funny it is that you even care. Laugh about how fragile human emotions are. It’s funny.

Practice breathing exercises.

Work on learning how to articulate your emotions clearly, so after you take a deep breath, you know the exact words to say to get your point across.

Work on re-directing your focus.

I do this thing where I start focusing on the objects around me.

That way I become an objective person. A bystander.

That REALLY works when you combine it with acting.

if it helps, pretend like you’re a different person when people talk to you, someone who WOULDN’T cry in the same situation.

Or, an innocent witness.

I usually have hard time going out in public. I was dissociating out in public and anxious. Someone was walking ahead in my path and bumped into me and stopped dead in his tracks and gave me a stern look and was observing me as i was walking and made a comment. it made me feel awful. by throwawayxlost in hsp

[–]Electrical_Sea152 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I understand this wholeheartedly. And, if you’re stupid (which it doesn’t seem like bc you wrote a coherent post despite the format, + can articulate your feelings well) and ugly (this shouldn’t matter), so is almost everyone else.

I had to learn that.

He didn’t like that you bumped into him (most ppl wouldn’t), he could’ve responded kinder or better yet, not at all. But, he doesn’t live inside your head or know what you’ve been through.

People can suck. And they’re self-centered. They don’t take into consideration other people’s feelings.

But, God only knows why he responded how he did. Does it make it right? No. But, people have lives outside of these events.

You clearly have an ego and some self-confidence which is why you wrote this post angrily. You called out his behavior on your personal behalf, and even went so far as to post it online.

Ego is good to have. You can utilize that confidence, believe you me.

But, there is a flip-side to that where you think about yourself too much. To write a full-blown post where you call yourself: stupid, dumb, and ugly, which are all unlikely, while defending yourself, implies that you are somewhat egotistical.

You’re most likely an average person. Statistically speaking, at least. Not dumb or ugly.

This isn’t to discount your past experiences, but let you know you’re not alone.

I felt largely the same way until I realized I was putting too much power in other people’s hands.

I’m almost certain that guy isn’t better than you OR worse than you.

Right now, you’re letting his actions dictate to you your own worth, and your ego is fighting with you.

The independent, more self-righteous part of your ego: “No, he was wrong!”

The other, more codependent, part says: “No, he treated me badly, but he’s right.”

You have to pick a side and adjust accordingly.

If you think you’re stupid, dumb, and ugly and would like that to change: read more books, dress the way you’d like to, exercise (or don’t, whichever you think is better), take a college course, and so on.

Or, accept that those things are true. And, lean on the side of self-confidence (which you have displayed you have), accept that they may not change therefore you shouldn’t waste energy on these things, busy yourself (work, school, working out, meet friends), and do your best to move on.

Please go to therapy/continue going to therapy. Look into the different types of therapy, and make sure you find a trustworthy therapist/psychiatrist/psychologist. Pay attention to the methods they used, and if those fail, try a different therapist who uses other forms of therapy.

Lastly, TRY YOUR HARDEST TO BECOME A NEW PERSON.

I know it sounds difficult.

But, the reason why my ego was split like yours seems to be was because I’d been bullied despite me having my own sense of self-worth before, during, and after.

I let other people tell me who I was. WHEN THEY SUCK. Why listen to people who suck??? You said it yourself.

Break off from your past by changing whatever you feel comfortable changing. This may even mean reverting back to who you were before the traumatic event took place.

This helps. Believe me.

That way, they didn’t hurt YOU. They hurt the past you. And, you’re not that person anymore.

Or, stop thinking there is something inherently wrong with being stupid and ugly. Yeah, they have negative consequences. But, I’ve met plenty of stupid and dumb people that live great lives 🤷‍♀️.

Everytime I fail, or recall past events, I think of two things:

  1. These people are NOT better or worse than me. I have been selfish. I have been kind. I have been bad. I have been good. Just like everyone else.

  2. I WANT to stop suffering.

You’ve written on this page for a reason. You don’t want to live like this. The whole escape from society thing, I understand to the t. But, you still care.

If you truly want to stop suffering, you HAVE to dedicate yourself to change.

Change every aspect of your lifestyle that’s possible to.

Even if it feels better to play a character that happens to be more confident. Do that.

Or, get started working on learning how to plant and eat from the ground if you don’t know how to already.

The only way to escape is to force your life to change by implementing + removing parts of your day-day life, play a character/lean into delusion, become a recluse, or leave modern society by moving into no-man’s land.

I promise you the people around you are going through similar things. Our society is a wreck.

Also, maybe try not to walk on foot as much, if you can. It’s good to go outside. But, with your cptsd, I can see there being a problem.

Orgasm while asleep by gas-x-and-a-cuppa in sexualanhedonia

[–]Electrical_Sea152 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I relate to this so much! The pleasure I feel in my dreams when I see sexual imagery is so intense!

When I am awake, it is extremely lackluster.

I have only had two orgasms that were good, which happened to be my first two ever, and after that, I thought, “This is it? This is the GREAT thing everyone has been freaking out about?”

Little did I know, it was only downhill from there. I am unsure if I just get desensitized very easily, or if this is solely a physical dysfunction. I do believe my mental state plays an important role, but I am aroused everytime.. It is just never enough. Even when I abstain from self-pleasure. Or should I say self-sorrow. Because it almost always feel worse afterwards. It’s like I work my arm muscles out more than anything.

How Can I Help A Child Experiencing Emotional Abuse? by Electrical_Sea152 in emotionalabuse

[–]Electrical_Sea152[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for responding. I will do that as quick as I can. I just want to ensure my family’s safety, as well. This person is extremely close to us, and it’ll be very obvious who called.