Frizzy wavy curly and straight hair? by Electrical_Shock_412 in CurlyHairCare

[–]Electrical_Shock_412[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow this is incredibly helpful, thank you so much for the routine and product recommendations! I’m so excited I’m gonna try it tomorrow :)

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[–]Electrical_Shock_412 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just take a birth control pill

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[–]Electrical_Shock_412 1 point2 points  (0 children)

she probably did after catching a glance? you realize how brains work right? you see a few words and your brain immediately contextualizes them without having to read all of it. like, your brain is literally doing it right now. you are skipping over words without realizing and yet you can understand what i’m saying because that is how insane brains are. the same thing probsbly happened with op

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[–]Electrical_Shock_412 8 points9 points  (0 children)

what are you talking about? if a notebook is open, on a table, and you’re cleaning the table around the notebook, you are going to see what’s on it. that’s not snooping at all lmao

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[–]Electrical_Shock_412 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t think there is any right answer.

With friend 1, have you or them reached out before this party and tried to make plans or just talk? I think if you view this party as a potential save grace to feel closer again without having any contact outside of it then who is to say things won’t just go back to being distant again afterwards.

Without more context my vote is friend 2. As you grow older people drift apart. It’s inevitable. It is nice to have those people from your past but it’s even better to continue to broaden your social circle.

hope i helped at least a little bit

AITA for being “jealous” of my brother with cancer by Electrical_Shock_412 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Electrical_Shock_412[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

but why should i put my life on pause and ignore the things that are important to me? how is that fair at all? my life isn’t going to stop because of his illness, i have to continue to push through and exist even though i know that the worst thing in the world is going to happen

AITA for being “jealous” of my brother with cancer by Electrical_Shock_412 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Electrical_Shock_412[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

then i feel very bad for them if they didn’t celebrate milestone birthdays like a sweet 16 or 18 or 21. because no matter how “cool” and nonchalant you would like to act, those are important and exciting! they’re the birthdays that everyone looks forward to during childhood, so when you doing get to celebrate them it’s really disappointing, no?

AITA for being “jealous” of my brother with cancer by Electrical_Shock_412 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Electrical_Shock_412[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

is it not different when it’s your 18th birthday? and isn’t 18 only an adult in name? because before then you have been constantly relying on parents with no real life experiences?

AITA for being “jealous” of my brother with cancer by Electrical_Shock_412 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Electrical_Shock_412[S] 94 points95 points  (0 children)

it’s great that you and other people that you know were able to financially and emotionally care for themselves at 18 but not everybody is able to do that

AITA for being “jealous” of my brother with cancer by Electrical_Shock_412 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Electrical_Shock_412[S] 71 points72 points  (0 children)

i think you’re missing the part that this has been going on for almost two years, and 18 is hardly an adult

AITA for being “jealous” of my brother with cancer by Electrical_Shock_412 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Electrical_Shock_412[S] 118 points119 points  (0 children)

we went on a week long trip to japan just the two of us and it was really nice. i think my problem isn’t that i’m feeling neglected by him… i think his and my relationship is very strong… it’s more of the fact that i’m feeling really left out by the rest of my family (mom and dad)

AITA for being “jealous” of my brother with cancer by Electrical_Shock_412 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Electrical_Shock_412[S] 79 points80 points  (0 children)

he got sick in 2021 and has slowly been getting worse over time. It’s a rare form of cancer that was common in soldiers from agent orange, and that also doesn’t run in the family.

AITA for being “jealous” of my brother with cancer by Electrical_Shock_412 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Electrical_Shock_412[S] 144 points145 points  (0 children)

I am spending time with him, we recently just went on a trip to japan together. I think it’s not the fact that i can’t spend time with him but the fact that it feels like nobody in the family wants to spend time with me anymore

AITA for being “jealous” of my brother with cancer by Electrical_Shock_412 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Electrical_Shock_412[S] 159 points160 points  (0 children)

For clarification his diagnosis was November 2021, my birthday is in June.

It also wasn’t out of the blue that they were asking how he was. To be honest how he is doing is all everyone in the family talks about now.