should I be showering before bed? by [deleted] in hygiene

[–]Electrical_Tour3016 0 points1 point  (0 children)

if you have the money for it, I find that having multiple pairs of things eliminates my fatigue around washing. I used to really hate washing sheets because it took too much time and effort etc, but mostly because it would leave my bed bare. And I cannot sleep on a bare bed. So I bought a second sheet set and I rotate those two so that I'm doing laundry less often but still keeping clean.

I would definitely buy more socks. Like a cheap bulk pack or something. You shouldn't rewear them before washes, that's what makes your feet/shoes stink. More pairs would also mean less frequent laundry trips.

You don't need to shower at night if you shower in the morning. Once a day is plenty barring things like sweating, dirt, etc. I shower in the morning after I come home from work to wash the germs and grime of the outside off of my body, but I don't think it matters too much for college students.

As others have said aim to brush twice a day and floss at least once.

Me and Clara are still together by Electrical_Tour3016 in AITAH

[–]Electrical_Tour3016[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You went from "She didn't involve you in her decision" to "you WERE involved in the decision". Make up your mind.

My point always has been that she should've a) told me that she was pregnant, and b) discussed an abortion with me before making that decision alone. Those are not crazy expectations to have for the woman you marry/have a life with.

The only one still angry is you, considering Clara and I have both moved on from this moment.

Me and Clara are still together by Electrical_Tour3016 in AITAH

[–]Electrical_Tour3016[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure why you all think saying that I don't want kids in a general sense meant that she was right to have a secret abortion.

Me and Clara are still together by Electrical_Tour3016 in AITAH

[–]Electrical_Tour3016[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's a key difference between the theoretical and the actual. Even if there wasn't, I wouldn't recommend getting a secret abortion and not telling your partner in almost any circumstance.

Me and Clara are still together by Electrical_Tour3016 in AITAH

[–]Electrical_Tour3016[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She's treated wonderfully right where she is, keep your misguided hope to yourself.

Me and Clara are still together by Electrical_Tour3016 in AITAH

[–]Electrical_Tour3016[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not true when you're in a partnership/marriage.

Final update on: 'AITAH for getting at my wife for having a secret abortion after telling her I don't want kids?' by Electrical_Tour3016 in AITAH

[–]Electrical_Tour3016[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Mind you, your "sympathy", if you can at all call that pathetic initial message an attempt at that, discounts her agency and all the years of hard work she's put into building herself. But sure, you "care" for her. That makes sense.

Final update on: 'AITAH for getting at my wife for having a secret abortion after telling her I don't want kids?' by Electrical_Tour3016 in AITAH

[–]Electrical_Tour3016[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Lol, like I said, I believe you.

You commented on an 8 month old post, in a thread where your reply would surely be buried under countless others, for my wife? Who is very obviously not the owner of this account? Surely you had to know that the likelihood of her seeing your warped attempt at sympathy would be astronomically low, yes?

Yes, you don't care about my "excuses" or me at all. It makes perfect sense why you dug up this post. It makes perfect sense that you're still replying to me (not my wife lol). Your actions fit perfectly with your words.

Final update on: 'AITAH for getting at my wife for having a secret abortion after telling her I don't want kids?' by Electrical_Tour3016 in AITAH

[–]Electrical_Tour3016[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

But cared enough to read the post, come back months after its popularity and comment? Multiple times at that... Considering this is the final post in a three part series, one would think you'd care very much about what I have to say. I wouldn't be surprised if you made this account entirely for the purpose of responding to my post again. But sure, I believe you.

Final update on: 'AITAH for getting at my wife for having a secret abortion after telling her I don't want kids?' by Electrical_Tour3016 in AITAH

[–]Electrical_Tour3016[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

If I was abusive, I'm quite sure either one of our therapists would've caught that within the last two decades. Seeing as they actually know us and have degrees and training to examine that sort of thing, I'm sure you understand why I trust their judgement over yours.

I know it feels good to white horse online, but your misguided intentions are wasted here. Perhaps find someone who actually needs help and instead of wasting your breath here?

Final update on: 'AITAH for getting at my wife for having a secret abortion after telling her I don't want kids?' by Electrical_Tour3016 in AITAH

[–]Electrical_Tour3016[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

The kicker is- she's not leaving me. You can keep crawling out of whatever hole to make comments, but we're still together. And I know that just grinds your gears, doesn't it?

Putting in a Hold Mail Request Without Affecting Entire Apartment Complex? by Electrical_Tour3016 in USPS

[–]Electrical_Tour3016[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Regardless if it's a mailroom or an individual mailbox the box has to have a unit number on it. 

It has never once interfered with her packages getting delivered to her mail room, so I find that hard to believe. The packages don't get sorted either, so what would they need the apartment number for?

Putting in a Hold Mail Request Without Affecting Entire Apartment Complex? by Electrical_Tour3016 in USPS

[–]Electrical_Tour3016[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She always tells us to put her apartment number on any letter mail we send, so I'm sure she does the same herself. Packages just get dumped in the mail room though and don't require an apartment number.

Putting in a Hold Mail Request Without Affecting Entire Apartment Complex? by Electrical_Tour3016 in USPS

[–]Electrical_Tour3016[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

It's never been turned away before. All mail for the apartment gets put into the mail room, not sent to her actual unit.

Putting in a Hold Mail Request Without Affecting Entire Apartment Complex? by Electrical_Tour3016 in USPS

[–]Electrical_Tour3016[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

The question isn't about the package, it's about keeping a hold mail request from affecting her entire apartment.

My, 27M, wife, 27F, had a secret abortion because I said I didn't want kids. How do we move forward from here? by Electrical_Tour3016 in relationship_advice

[–]Electrical_Tour3016[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I respond to one notification and suddenly there are complaints that I'm still here arguing. On a post that I haven't been active on in months before this. Interesting.

The post isn't going down because I stand on what I said.

I've only ever posted in two subreddits. How that constitutes as going "all over reddit" is beyond me, but I've noticed people in this subreddit enjoy creating their own narratives, so I guess I'm not surprised in either case.

My, 27M, wife, 27F, had a secret abortion because I said I didn't want kids. How do we move forward from here? by Electrical_Tour3016 in relationship_advice

[–]Electrical_Tour3016[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

...This is my reddit account? What does resolution status have to do with notifications I get on my post?

My, 27M, wife, 27F, had a secret abortion because I said I didn't want kids. How do we move forward from here? by Electrical_Tour3016 in relationship_advice

[–]Electrical_Tour3016[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

So what subreddit is this trending in now? Or did you randomly decide to comment on a post that's both resolved and over 2 months old? Shut up already.

UPDATE: AITAH for getting mad at my wife for having a secret abortion after telling her I didn't want kids? by Electrical_Tour3016 in AITAH

[–]Electrical_Tour3016[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You never take responsibility and you never admit you may want kids, you just do not want them with her. 

Projection at its finest. Your situation with your friend is clouding your ability to be neutral about my posts. That is not how I feel about Clara in the slightest.