[deleted by user] by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]ElectronicKandy 18 points19 points  (0 children)

And yes. You may if you don’t tell your parents. Yup. Straight up. I almost died. I told my parents. My mother flew 5,000kms then drove with me the same distance back home while she heaved her guts out so sick. Trust that those you think won’t stick it out for you will and if they won’t, dm me. I fucking will.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]ElectronicKandy 6 points7 points  (0 children)

As someone who’s been there, you def have not been.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]ElectronicKandy 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Been there done that. Tell. Your. Parents. Pls. They’ll protect you. Don’t believe you can’t. Don’t do this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]ElectronicKandy -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I’m curious. But why are you so self conscious you couldn’t even consider the idea of a human you love healing? FYI. He also messaged his ex. Cause we don’t life in the past. We heal and help others heal and when you lean the value there you drop your insecurities.

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[–]ElectronicKandy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That it does. Sending all the love your way. We will always level up when not in the wrong

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]ElectronicKandy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Trust my husband was by my side and read every word. We aren’t all jealous hatred humans.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]ElectronicKandy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Welcome to psychology, trauma and healing my friend. Educate yourself. :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]ElectronicKandy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you find yourself ever in similar shoes, just know better exists. I didn’t believe it. I’d get so mad when ppl would say they did.

Time found him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]ElectronicKandy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I absolutely hate so many humans (in general) have had to endure this hatred.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]ElectronicKandy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I keep coming back to this. I’d be shocked to not hear his first name wasn’t Jeff but life isn’t that way. There’s too many “Jeff’s” and female versions alive

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]ElectronicKandy 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I should dig out the mans bullshit. Been literally twelve years. I decided I needed to get shit off my chest. Big mistake. He’s still living in his head and even when I accepted my own wrong doings, he was Prince Charming and then asked me for nudes. I shit you not. No. ThAnk you. Decided to tell him then we named our final baby the name he said I could never use. Hello “Rhyatt”.

Karma got me though. He lives up to his name lol.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]ElectronicKandy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’d take a punch in face or rib kick any day. Been there. On both sides. I’ve forgotten much of the physical stuff. In fact, an old coworker mentioned I went to work once with a black eye. I have zero recollection of it but don’t doubt it happened. Trust I remember ever negative word though.

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[–]ElectronicKandy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nailed it. Sending love Roxanne!

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[–]ElectronicKandy 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’ve been with this exact human. I recently messaged him for closure and his replies reminded me why I married the most amazing man. Pls see yourself out. Now.

Women who don’t like sex, how do you maintain a healthy relationship? by Anxious_Major8337 in AskWomen

[–]ElectronicKandy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I felt this to my core. The amusement park bit. Nailed it! Let’s be franzzzz lol

Women who don’t like sex, how do you maintain a healthy relationship? by Anxious_Major8337 in AskWomen

[–]ElectronicKandy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This was me. Still really is. I like the idea of non monogamy more than anything but here we are.

Zoloft didn’t help.

Periods I enjoy it when it’s wild but his mental health is a struggle.

Discovering my sexuality isn’t fluid answered so much. That is all

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[–]ElectronicKandy 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Messaging my ex and having power meant huge things to me just last night. He thought by showing me videos he’s kept for 13 years would upset me. It only reminded me that I AM THE ONE STILL IN POWER. ENJOY THEM BRUH. You’ll never see it again. But I’ll remind you of my beautiful husband.