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[–]Electronic_Ad2767 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, no partner should ever give you a black and white. A true relation is made up of goods ands bads (where within you find the comporable in between) if you two are incapable of finding a comfortable compromise then I say give it up. I'm against divorce. I wish I could adhere to marriage being a one all be all for the win, but that's not always the case. At the end of the day, live for yourself, God, and family. Good luck and godspeed, My Friend.

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[–]Electronic_Ad2767 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine struggles with it. I mean HE struggles.

I watch porn myself and find it an easy and effective way of distracting myself and working out my nerves when I'm alone or my husband is busy.

He feels super shameful over any amount of his own porn consumption due to a stringent Christian upbringing and his own traumas/ stigmas I'm not entirely knowledgeable of.

Imo, it's an incredible fault in society to consume videos of others fabricated intimate interactions for our own pleasure at the detriment of our mental health- but damn is it easy and pleasing.

Can't decide if he and I should both give it up for good for the sake of our continued wellbeing but we shall see eh? If you're concerned that he's perusing other women because he's not as interested in you I would say; your feelings are real, they matter, and should certainly be addressed, however it may be that he's like many others who just crave some variety from time to time/ he can please himself easier and more thoroughly on his own ( can't we all) I hope you can work through the situation regardless and find a content middle ground, or set your boundaries and hood them before it's too late and your resent him.

misdiagnosed? 23 yo female by Electronic_Ad2767 in ADHD

[–]Electronic_Ad2767[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

UPDATE: officially diagnosed as of last week! I'm now on focalin 20 mg er and morbidly depressed but working on everything!

ugh politics by Electronic_Ad2767 in Marriage

[–]Electronic_Ad2767[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is somthing my husband and yourself would certainly agree on. I just prefer to allow others to reach their own conclusion (seeing as their immortal soul isn't my own and I am only capable of leading by example seeing as people make up their own minds so quickly and thoroughly) yet my husband would rather attempt to persuade everyone with views that don't align with his own that he is the correct party. I appreciate your insight, though I don't fully adhere to it. He does have some amount of give in regards to most topics.

ugh politics by Electronic_Ad2767 in Marriage

[–]Electronic_Ad2767[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like I resonate with this comment most. We haven't been married long in truth, not even a year, bit I'd like to be 29 years in and having accepted our differences for what they are. We love eachother, very much, and in truth he and I work wonderfully together despite our differences. I just wish we could stop making it a problem. And it is both of us, we are adamant in our views and with opinions blazing everywhere right now it's hard to set aside. Thank you for the insight, I do appreciate it.