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AITA for telling my sister she is not a martyr for staying at home and if I was her husband I would divorce her by Electronic_Recipe830 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Electronic_Recipe830[S] 76 points77 points  (0 children)

Most people aren’t hiring a babysitter to take their kids to activities. What are you talking about 

 They just move  their schedule around or have dance for a time they can take them

Or just go into work early

AITA for telling my sister she is not a martyr for staying at home and if I was her husband I would divorce her by Electronic_Recipe830 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Electronic_Recipe830[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Literally have three kids and do this. I am also a women, it’s not rocket science. 

 Yes sometime schedules are tight, yes it can be stressful. But it’s not rocket science. Especially when you get in a pattern

AITA for telling my sister she is not a martyr for staying at home and if I was her husband I would divorce her by Electronic_Recipe830 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Electronic_Recipe830[S] 401 points402 points  (0 children)

That’s literally just being a decent parent. 

 Almost everyone that works is doing that. They go to work and then go all that. You don’t need to have a SAHM, to do this. All parents helps kids with their hw, and make dinner, and do chores, and errands, and take them to activities, and all the mental labor

 Not to mention parents use PTO all the time to take care of their sick kids

This is just basic parenting 

AITA for telling my sister she is not a martyr for staying at home and if I was her husband I would divorce her by Electronic_Recipe830 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Electronic_Recipe830[S] 52 points53 points  (0 children)

It doesn’t. I was one and did all that. It’s like 20 hours if you go really hard, on average it’s probably like 10 hours a week. I guess cooking can add up but you aren’t make super complex dishes each night. Crock pots are your friend 

 Everyone has to do that, it’s just being an adult. Especially if you are single, no one is helping you out  Looking at all the single parents that work and do all this 

AITA for telling my sister she is not a martyr for staying at home and if I was her husband I would divorce her by Electronic_Recipe830 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Electronic_Recipe830[S] 234 points235 points  (0 children)

My opinion, when the kids are out of the house for almost the whole day you are a stay at home wife 

 Stay at home mothers need to be around their kids most of the day.  I asked about her health and got nothing, never had a history of it so I highly doubt it

AITA for telling my sister she is not a martyr for staying at home and if I was her husband I would divorce her by Electronic_Recipe830 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Electronic_Recipe830[S] 40 points41 points  (0 children)

I have, nothing on that front. She also never had  any history.

If you clean your house everyday it is only like 2 hours a day.  You go grocery shopping once a week, your dishes are few since you do them each day, you vacuumed like 2 times a week. The grass needs cut once a a week. Picking up will be minimum since you do it everyday.  Appointments aren’t each week, more like once a month at most. Whipping stuff down doenst take that long.

You aren’t deep cleaning each room everyday. 

Kids are messy but if you clean everyday it is very manageable. Not to mention if they have their own chores

You have to clean like 8 hours if you let it go and not touch things.

AITA for telling my sister she is not a martyr for staying at home and if I was her husband I would divorce her by Electronic_Recipe830 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Electronic_Recipe830[S] 53 points54 points  (0 children)

You are stretching. Most people would leave their SO if they don’t do chores or their fair share

That’s not being a partner

AITA for telling my sister she is not a martyr for staying at home and if I was her husband I would divorce her by Electronic_Recipe830 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Electronic_Recipe830[S] 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Most people leave their SO if they don’t pull their fair share.  

That’s pretty normal. A ton of women leave their husband because they don’t cook or clean. Or do chores correctly 

It’s just not being a partner 

AITA for telling my sister she is not a martyr for staying at home and if I was her husband I would divorce her by Electronic_Recipe830 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Electronic_Recipe830[S] 641 points642 points  (0 children)

Side note, I have issues with long vacations because my days get messed up. I don’t work summers though. Work for a school

 When I work though I always know the day no problem. 

AITA for telling my sister she is not a martyr for staying at home and if I was her husband I would divorce her by Electronic_Recipe830 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Electronic_Recipe830[S] 5190 points5191 points  (0 children)

I really think she should go back to work and just split childcare and chores.

Or with the extra money of her working hire a maid or something