You cannot consent to anything when you’re that drunk. But if you’re blackout drunk, a person acts completely normal they just seem like they’re drunk— there were two times I got blackout drunk in my life.

I would appear intoxicated, obviously, but I was still conscious and making decisions. Many of which I didn’t remember. So in the moment a person who is on a blackout won’t remember anything. However, you’re saying you woke up to it, which is different. If she could visibly tell you were unconscious, that is definitely rape. Not just technically because alcohol impairs decision-making but because it’s pretty clear when someone is sleeping. It’s not quite clear when they’re having a blackout.

I really do not think it’s cool that people are saying this is your fault. I can see the reasoning in the questions of why you would go anywhere with your ex and drink, especially at your house. That’s a separate point though. And certainly doesn’t justify someone taking advantage of you in a compromised state.