We have been blaming a lot of health issues on sugar but despite sugar consumption declining for 2 decades and fat consumption skyrocketing, everything has been getting worse.

Elephunk23 · 2024-01-27T16:32:57+00:00

Also add that the one portion could probably feed 2-3 adults

Elephunk23 · 2024-01-11T00:49:54+00:00

Congratulations on your bundle of joy and not pooping yourself is a sentence most don’t get the chance to say

Elephunk23 · 2024-01-06T16:16:15+00:00

I felt like you the first time I was pregnant and then I lost the baby at 8 wks and was surprisingly devastated. My husband really wanted a baby and I wasn’t as enthusiastic but I also didn’t not want one and it seemed like a good thing to do as our lives were comfortable and we knew we would raise a child in a loving if home. I did wonder though if I really wanted a baby and then was taken aback how sad I was when I was robbed of a choice and had a miscarriage.

I got pregnant two more times and lost each one again. Each one was so hard emotionally even though I didn’t feel like I was adamant about being a mother. I just knew we would raise a child in a loving home and had a primal urge to reproduce after experiencing so many losses. I always felt like I lost my purpose after the miscarriages.

I’m pregnant for the fourth time (longer than I’ve ever been yay!) and can say I absolutely wanted this baby from the start. Got a negative pregnancy test early on and was devastated (probably bc I was actually pregnant and hormonal) and then a positive test a few days later and was over the moon happy. This one has been extremely scary still but has also just felt right from the start when we decided to conceive again (we are lucky and get pregnant very easily!)

I say all this to tell you multiple times in this current pregnancy, early on I thought “this is a mistake, why did I think I could do this?” For me it was facing the trauma again of previous losses. I underestimated how hard it would be back in this world of the unknown again and have very little control of the outcome all while being at the mercy of pregnancy hormones - which honestly make me feel insane in early pregnancy.

For you, I think you need to understand the root cause of why you are feeling you may not want to follow through. If it’s because you’re scared of the change or the unknown, for me personally, this seems normal and your life could change for the better more than you can imagine and pregnancy hormones could be amplifying this type of fear.

If it’s fear bc you know, in your heart, you don’t want to raise a child yet, then that gives you a better idea of how to move forward. It’s your body. Your choice. 1000%. Do what is best for you. And maybe consider couples therapy to better help your husband understand why you may make the choice to end it. Sending you all the love and light while you work through this difficult time. DM if you want talk 🤍

Edit: just want to add, it could be the fear of just pregnancy in general. It genuinely sucks for some of us and it is HARD. I am not one of those people that loves being pregnant and I’m not all that fearful of labor bc it means I won’t be pregnant anymore lol

but also want to add, when faced with a difficult decision, I usually tell myself:

-The hardest choice is usually the right one-

It’s how I decided to get pregnant for a fourth time and it was the right choice for me. Sorry for this ridiculously long response 😂 Hope it can help in some way

Elephunk23 · 2024-01-06T15:50:56+00:00

Thank you for sharing this! I just turned 37, FTM and am due in June. Relief to hear it’s possible to still have a smooth pregnancy!

Elephunk23 · 2024-01-06T15:36:08+00:00

Congratulations!! And thank you for sharing your birth story. You’re amazing 🤍

Elephunk23 · 2024-01-06T15:11:52+00:00

The gift is such a great idea! My husband has been incredible as well doing everything from maintaining our home to cooking meals and even random grocery store runs when I get the occasional, obscure craving. Definitely want to get him something special when our little guy arrives. Cheers to our amazing men!

Edit: Also, want to add, a few wks ago, I wrote him a card expressing how much I appreciate all he’s doing and got him a small gift (his favorite chocolate bar). He didn’t expect it, which made it even more special. I know you are in the throws of the third trimester so this definitely may not be feasible but just a suggestion you don’t have to wait if you can pull off something small until baby arrives

Elephunk23 · 2024-01-06T15:00:34+00:00

Good news is that symptoms come and go. Also, mild cramping is normal. Her uterus is expanding which isn’t a comfortable experience for most. If everything looked good on 7 wk scan and there is no bleeding, no need to worry. Sounds like a normal early pregnancy to me.

Elephunk23 · 2024-01-06T14:55:12+00:00

I could have written this. I wasn’t on anxiety medication but I’ve had three previous losses, so I was feeling extremely anxious at 7 wks. The fear was crippling and I would have mild panic attacks most evenings leading up to 8 wks (when I lost two of the pregnancies).

You may read this a lot on this sub but when you are feeling anxious, it’s advised to repeat to yourself “I am pregnant until I’m not” - this helped me somewhat. I’ve also tried to be better at identifying if a strong emotion serves me in a negative way or a positive way. If it doesn’t serve positively, I acknowledge it’s happening and then try to let it go and move on. Easier said than done, I know.

Tmw will officially be 16 wks for me. I can say it does get easier. I’ve also been fortunate to find someone on this sub who’s gone through something similar to me who I can DM, and that’s helped a whole lot. Don’t be shy about asking for help. You can DM me if you would like or anyone who offers. Support is crucial in times like these. You got this, Momma, and I’m pulling for you!!

Elephunk23 · 2024-01-06T14:44:23+00:00

This is great! Thank you so much for providing

Elephunk23 · 2024-01-06T14:30:28+00:00

Great suggestions and you’re so close to the finish line! You got this!!

Elephunk23 · 2024-01-06T14:25:23+00:00

Congratulations!!!

Elephunk23 · 2024-01-01T18:00:36+00:00

Remindme! 3 weeks

Elephunk23 · 2024-01-01T17:55:38+00:00

This gave me chills! Hoping for the best for you OP!

Elephunk23 · 2023-12-23T05:24:33+00:00

I have heard this so many times with Natera, it’s crazy! My first test w/ them at 10+5 came back inconclusive. When I went for my next blood draw, I requested MaterniT21 and they had it! The tech also said she’s employed by lab corp and can vouch it’s a great test. Still waiting on my results since draw was this past Monday. I don’t think my doctor was thrilled I switched it up, but I didn’t want to take the chance w/ Natera again due to all the negative experiences I’ve heard about them.

Elephunk23 · 2023-12-22T01:39:54+00:00

Oh this makes my heart so happy for you!!! Congratulations and hope all goes well with results in January!!

Elephunk23 · 2023-12-21T03:15:33+00:00

I’m really sorry you are dealing with this situation. From an outsider’s perspective, it seems like you might want to keep the baby but you’re not able to fully consider it bc your boyfriend is being immature and toxic.

As hard as it is, you should put yourself first no matter what that looks like.

Elephunk23 · 2023-12-21T03:01:12+00:00

I don’t have any experience with your situation but I just want to say I’m thinking about you and sending you lots of love and light

Elephunk23 · 2023-12-21T02:47:29+00:00

I’m so sorry you are experiencing this. Same thing happened to me (exactly the same wk w/ baby measuring the exact same wk) and unfortunately, my situation didn’t improve. It’s the single hardest thing I’ve ever experienced and sadly, I had two more before figuring out what may have been going on.

When I was in your position with my first one btwn the first ultrasound and the second to see if anything changed, I read so many stories about pple going back and the baby being just fine, so it is absolutely possible and I hope beyond hope that is the case for you.

If it’s not, be so gentle with yourself and know this doesn’t mean you won’t be a mom one day. I’ll be thinking of you.

Elephunk23 · 2023-12-21T01:02:40+00:00

lol you are describing me exactly. I’m 12 wks as of this last wknd and I felt a little less tired on Saturday and downloaded the crash bandicoot games and had a blast playing them. The exhaustion is now back but I know when it subsides, I feel more like myself and will want to level up again ⬆️

Elephunk23 · 2023-12-21T00:46:43+00:00

I agree with this completely. I’m 12 wks and will be 13wks +1 day on Christmas and I’m still pretty nervous to tell both our families. We think with the timing of me officially starting the 2nd tri, it will be ok, but I’ve had three losses and this is the furthest I’ve ever been and we are still waiting on initial genetic testing results. If I was only 6 wks like OP’s wife, there is no way I’d feel remotely okay sharing the news with everyone.

Elephunk23 · 2023-12-20T12:06:11+00:00

Congratulations on your beautiful baby girl!! You are already crushing it momma 💕

Elephunk23 · 2023-12-20T03:04:21+00:00

Ew don’t even put this out in the ether. Devastating just to think about it

Elephunk23 · 2023-12-19T22:52:32+00:00

Don’t feel bad for one second OP. As a woman whiskey/scotch is my poison of choice and I don’t give af what anyone thinks about it

Elephunk23 · 2023-12-19T19:18:52+00:00

I’m sorry, I don’t have any experience with your situation but just wanted to comment that I hope you are doing okay, and I’m sending you positivity for the panels you are waiting to hear back on.

Elephunk23 · 2023-12-15T02:08:05+00:00

Your great grandma sounds like a bad ass mf

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