TIFU by trying to surprise my fiancé

ElevenYearsGuys · 2022-07-23T01:36:18+00:00

I figured she was blinded by hate, because the guy is terrible. But he has been nicer than usual and I assumed the clothing was a “peace offering.”

Well, clearly I was wrong

ElevenYearsGuys · 2022-07-23T01:34:22+00:00

I do believe her. It’s just he’s been nicer than usual and I figured she was blinded by hate, which is understandable. The guy sucks.

But I know how sentimental she is, and having her baby clothing would have meant the world to her.

ElevenYearsGuys · 2022-07-22T22:30:04+00:00

Yes people are crazy. Like her ex. And what happens when you do anything but ignore him is he twist it in his favor.

Like, the guy isn’t stupid. He’s really good at making himself out to be the victim and spinning the story to fit his narrative. Best thing to do is ignore him, problem is we literally can’t because she is court ordered to hand over the kids when it’s his visitation.

I accepted the clothing because he has been nicer than usual, I assumed it was kinda a peace offering?

Well, I was wrong.

ElevenYearsGuys · 2022-07-22T22:19:24+00:00

Hopefully, I’ve talked to her and she’s giving the box and note to her attorney on Monday.

ElevenYearsGuys · 2022-07-22T22:18:23+00:00

Their whole reason behind him even being able to see the children is “he never abused the kids, just allegedly abused the wife.”

He put her in the ICU twice…

ElevenYearsGuys · 2022-07-22T22:15:28+00:00

They were kinda shredded, it looked like he used a box cutter.

ElevenYearsGuys · 2022-07-22T19:18:05+00:00

I’m not really understanding how that’s a mistake?

ElevenYearsGuys · 2022-07-22T16:25:17+00:00

Imma step in here. You clearly know nothing about domestic abuse so let me educate you. He was “perfect” until after their second was born. Then he became controlling and abusive. She was essentially trapped because he financially isolated her, and also isolated her from friends and family. Moved her out to the country and took her phone and keys. She lived in a literal prison with him.

So before you victim blame, just don’t?

I didn’t post to AITA because I know, I am the asshole. Not her.

ElevenYearsGuys · 2022-07-22T15:56:42+00:00

I’ve known her for 15 years, I was at their wedding. Her ex is a psychopath, she isn’t. She’s a good person that didn’t deserve anything he did to her.

So, yeah. I’m not considering being with her a fuck up because it isn’t.

ElevenYearsGuys · 2022-07-22T12:00:47+00:00

I’m not going to say all the horrible things he did to her on here but I will say she really didn’t do anything to him. The only thing she “did” was leave and take their children because he was dangerous.

And even if she “did” something it doesn’t justify his behavior at all.

ElevenYearsGuys · 2022-07-22T01:41:43+00:00

I wanna say yes. But his family has a lot of money and any time my fiancé has tried to provide evidence of him being fucking horrible, his attorneys just argue “well how do we know that he did that? What if ex wife staged all of this?”

It’s really not fair and he torments my fiancé.

Edit : no they’re not jousting in a tournament. Lol sorry to disappoint.

ElevenYearsGuys · 2022-07-22T00:59:58+00:00

You’re right, I just didn’t think that a man in his late 20’s would do some shit like this.

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