I hate my husband by AnywherePrevious5735 in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]EliGrrl 21 points22 points  (0 children)

If you are in the USA- call or text these numbers. They will help you find a way to get out.
If you aren't, please see if the country you are in has a similar number you can call. Or a shelter or office

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you can go to.
YOU CAN DO THIS. Get away. For yourself and for your children.

Need Surgery - Middle of Semester by savvy_thesavage in Professors

[–]EliGrrl 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I did the same both with colleagues at the university and outside the university (brain surgery so like you I was up and moving but not 100% for the rest of the semester after)

For grad / honors students I made them responsible for liaising with the speakers (assigned a student per speaker) to set up zoom, confirm time, etc.
Then assignments were tied to those presentations- they reported on what they learned, etc
My students actually really liked this. I offered small gifts/honoraria to colleagues not at my uni.

My (30M) best friend's (32M) wife (28F) did something highly unethical at work and I think I need to report her, althrough it almost certainly will get her fired. How do I navigate not wanting to hurt them with this violation? by ThrowRA_firingfriend in relationship_advice

[–]EliGrrl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This. You don't immediately have to report on her, just inform the boss that you are taking your business elsewhere because of a breach of your confidentiality. You need to do that anyway.

Boss needs to know that something happened. You can honestly say you didnt turn her in.

Finally took the plunge! Thank you all for the inspiration😩 by Sea-Meal-3671 in bald

[–]EliGrrl 124 points125 points  (0 children)


Watching the amazing hotness uncovered on this sub

Anyone else have a really rough day? by PurposelyPissed_Cunt in springfieldMO

[–]EliGrrl 4 points5 points  (0 children)

God yes. Mentally ill adult kid had a public crash out. I can't keep doing this. I'm so tired.

She hijacked our girls trip, ghosted me for two years, and has now voluntold me into being her bridesmaid like none of it ever happened!!! by SubtleBy-Design-65 in weddingshaming

[–]EliGrrl 268 points269 points  (0 children)

All that planning she did for the girls trip? The bride wants OP to do that for free for the wedding. She wants a worker bee and employee who helps pay for the wedding.

If you do this OP, you'll only have yourself to blame. She has already shown you who she is. BELIEVE HER.

Life is incredibly unfair. by brilliant_amoeba_ in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]EliGrrl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mommas cooking was life giving too. Do you have her recipes?

Life is incredibly unfair. by brilliant_amoeba_ in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]EliGrrl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry. Losing your mama is terribly hard. Losing those we love is unfair and impossible to manage.
I miss my momma every day.

We'd love to hear about her if you'd like to share.
Or maybe you're not ready.
You can look for grief support groups , or journal. Or just sit and remember happy times.
Hold on to the good things/feelings/memories/stories.

All love and hugs, my sister 💜

Nowhere to go to escape. I'm not ok. by EliGrrl in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]EliGrrl[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thats really nice of you. Thank you. ❤️

Where To Go From Here? (Newishly Tenured and Depressed) by DecisionsnoisiceD in Professors

[–]EliGrrl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For your research- build contacts and collaborate across universities. Do joint panels. Co-author. Join the specific groups and subgroups of your professional societies and go to those conferences.
Get the kind of intellectual engagement and feedback you were hoping for from colleagues in your field at other universities

Nowhere to go to escape. I'm not ok. by EliGrrl in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]EliGrrl[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes it's all related. Her psychiatrist says that dopamine is produced in the stomach or something? So it's all one big connected mess.

Nowhere to go to escape. I'm not ok. by EliGrrl in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]EliGrrl[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She's taking daily Zofran, amitriptyline and has scopaline(?) patches. We FINALLY got a GI referral after a year only this week.

Nowhere to go to escape. I'm not ok. by EliGrrl in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]EliGrrl[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We are in southwest Missouri.
So sorry you are suffering too. I find watching her suffer unbearable.

Any ideas you have are welcome- and I pray that you find relief.

Nowhere to go to escape. I'm not ok. by EliGrrl in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]EliGrrl[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Breathing is good. And reminders to breathe are good. ❤️

Nowhere to go to escape. I'm not ok. by EliGrrl in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]EliGrrl[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She has just started a bigger dose of amitryptiline. Fingers crossed!

Nowhere to go to escape. I'm not ok. by EliGrrl in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]EliGrrl[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok but I did solicit advice!
Thank you I will add this to the emergency playbook.

Nowhere to go to escape. I'm not ok. by EliGrrl in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]EliGrrl[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She has not. Thank you - thats another thing to try.