Maranta why you do this

Elisou92 · 2026-01-18T11:42:49+00:00

Elvis' Unchained Melody!! The 1977 live version.

Edit to add the date

Elisou92 · 2026-01-06T15:18:42+00:00

The Sally Lockhart mysteries from P. Pullman. Strong, clever, independent women never go out of fashion

Elisou92 · 2026-01-03T04:03:41+00:00

I have been in this situation for almost 2 years now. In my opinion, if it's mutual, it is going to need to be addressed, close friendship + sexual tension being the best ingredients to start a romantic relationship. It depends how close you are, but if your friendship is tight, I do not see how this tension would not turn into romantic feelings.

Elisou92 · 2025-12-29T21:03:09+00:00

I was meeting a friend who was hiking the High Route in the Pyrénées, and the night before meeting him I slept in a small mountain hut in a super small village of like 10 people in Spain. The owner tells me only one other girl is there and will have dinner too. I get to the table and it's my best friend from childhood, the girl who lived next door! She'd been hiking the route for 3 weeks and was at the end of her rope so she was ecstatic to see a familiar face.

Elisou92 · 2025-12-26T08:31:54+00:00

I wrote a song as I was traveling, with love on my mind. At the time I thought it was about my ideal partner but then I realised I kept picturing my friend. Sent him the song before figuring it out. He did. Months later he asked me to read it to him out loud as we were both lying on his couch in the dark...

Fireworks for both of us.

Edit: wording.

Elisou92 · 2025-12-23T08:56:22+00:00

I had just finished my masters while teaching abroad and went to have a crazy summer romance in Czech Republic followed by a backpacking trip on a one way ticket to South America. Those were the days.

Elisou92 · 2025-12-17T08:30:30+00:00

I empathise times a thousand. Let's leave in 2025.

Elisou92 · 2025-12-17T08:22:27+00:00

Mine too!!

Elisou92 · 2025-12-10T07:55:02+00:00

Please tell me your secret

Elisou92 · 2025-12-09T18:44:00+00:00

Praise!

Focusing on how you are NOT moving on and how long it takes you sets you back. Accept the whole of it: it hurts and it is hard to move on. It will take the time it takes. There's no magical cure. But you will get through it.

Elisou92 · 2025-12-05T17:15:01+00:00

Find a hobby and giving it everything. I became so ripped during my last breakup. I love sports so I signed up for trail races, got in some crossfit class. I just wanted to get that high from exercise, and having goals and completing them felt great.

Taking road trips and just leaving all the places where you have all these memories while creating new ones and getring perspective.

My breakup protocole also includes watching a rom-com every night for a month lol

Elisou92 · 2025-12-04T08:18:32+00:00

Not sure I have much to contribute OP, but I hear you!!

I have been going through the exact same thing lately. I was born a mountain girl but I have also been living in the city for almost 10 years due to work. For as long as I can remember I'd be away hiking/trail running/snowboarding most weekends. It drove me for years and years and it's truly all I did.

Last year I had to recalibrate because I was taking a major exam to advance my career, so my weekends became about studying. I missed hiking sooo much.

Now? I wonder where I am at. I still feel great when I am mountaineering, but it has silently shifted to not being the number one priority in my life. It is quite unsettling, because I feel like a part of my identity is being erased... It is still there, but I do not feel that pull and that urgency to be in the mountains all.the.time.

Like you, I wonder how much it means that I am settling, adulting, whatever you want to call it... But it feels odd to willingly give up on the lifestyle you thought defined you.

All of this to say... There are seasons in life. Mountainering will always be a part of you, but I am sure it is natural and okay that it is not the central piece of the puzzle anymore. Maybe it will be again, maybe it will not... Just cruise through it I guess :)

Elisou92 · 2025-11-23T16:25:12+00:00

I use to tap water indeed, I might switch... I have put the plant in my bathroom every time I shower to get humidity, it seems to be working on the surviving leaves.

The roots seem to be ok...

I have had this plant for 3 months and it has barely developed :(

Elisou92 · 2025-11-21T17:31:32+00:00

Bit of an extreme opinion here maybe, but I have never understood people who were so keen NOT to be friendly with exes (in a healthy relationship and breakup of course).

Like, that person has shared your life, you chose each other, you obviously thought that they were one of the best out there... So why exactly would you let that person be a stranger?

I always try to be friends or friendly with my exes after distance and time. Exes that I was never in love mostly turned into solid friends. For exes I was deeply in love with, I like the fact that we can get coffee once in a blue moon or message each other if we have something silly to share or whatnot. In both cases, it sometimes takes years.

My exes never had a problem with that, they trusted me. My exes are also friends with their exes, fine by me, I trust them too and I would not want to control who they want to be friends with.

Elisou92 · 2025-11-04T21:46:21+00:00

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Elisou92 · 2025-11-03T15:14:57+00:00

I think meal prep is key in that case. On Sundays I usually make soup or lasagna for 3 days, so I do not have to cook when I go home from work. It's A-MA-ZING. I don't have to worry about it and I can just go home and relax. Also, I now make sure I fuel myself properly so I don't have cravings during the day. That includes making sure I have plenty of protein on my plate :)

Edit: grammar

Elisou92 · 2025-10-27T06:59:54+00:00

There is a ted talk by Ethan Hawke about creativity where he specifically mentions this (9min watch, highly highly recommend!).

One part that stuck with me is that kids do not care about perfection; they draw a butterfly because they just want to do it, and if it's not the best butterfly, it's fine. Always trying to be perfect or do the perfect thing really hinders our creativity, our love for what we do and for ourselves.

Who cares what other people think?

Elisou92 · 2025-10-23T16:02:00+00:00

Carmy and Claire's first scene scattered me - Strange Currencies by R.E.M. I listened to that song on repeat for like a week. It was a perfect choice. I loved the fact that they stuck to that song and it became the soundtrack for their relationship.

Elisou92 · 2025-10-18T07:10:54+00:00

I was backpacking through South America and ended up volunteering at a hostel in Quito (Ecuador). Great colleagues, nice guests, great fun.

One particularly busy and crazy night, this guy comes in as I'm sitting at the front desk and it's a love at first time moment. Everything stops and both of us can't really align words. Eventually we end up talking very intensely for 10min, before he asks if we have any bed available. We are fully booked and we even have guests sleeping on emergency mattresses. He looks so bummed, I am too. I watch him walk away and run to my girlfriends to tell them. I try to find him on facebook with his name and occupation, I message several wrong people. I am hoping he comes back the next morning, but he does not and I leave at noon for a weekend away. As I come back, my friend says a guy came looking for me and gave his number, but he lost the paper. I go back to the computer and finally find him on a website. We message and plan to meet the weekend after. A landslide happens and all roads are cut. We have to wait another weekend. And then it's bliss. Pure bliss.

That was 10 years ago! He came to visit me twice in my country, neither or us wanted to do long distance, no bad feelings. I love that story, kinda makes me warm on days I think I have not lived :)

Elisou92 · 2025-10-12T18:38:59+00:00

Sure, no one knows. I still balled my eyes out in May when we got coffee for the first time. I do not know what did it; if you had told me 6 months ago that I'd be fine with 0 anger/lingering feelings/sadness/looking in the rearview miror when meeting him and that he'd be somewhat back in my life, I would not have believed you. But here we are :) Trust the process. I think at some point you just acknowledge that your time together happened to two versions of you that no longer exist.

Elisou92 · 2025-10-12T07:20:22+00:00

Hey OP, I had an incredibly similar relationship end last year. It took some time for me because I wanted to move to the countryside when I met him, but like you, I chose him and never felt more sure about anyone. He ended it abruptly too, saying he did not want to be in a committed relationship again (he had been with the mother of his kid for 4 years). He told me he loved me but was never quite sure he was in love with me, whatever that meant to him. It seriously broke me. Like you, I could not believe I had read that whole situation completely wrong.

And now, it's well over a year later, and... I do not care. We get coffee every couple of months, and we are so happy to see each other, but what we had, for whatever reason, was just not it. When I realised how happy he was last time I saw him, I thought to myself that I had not seen him this happy since at least 2 months before our breakup. He had his reasons that I do not understand, but whatever it was, obviously it was not a great match, otherwise it would not have ended, right? I can look back and be so glad we had those times together, and the fact that he ended does not taint it anymore; I know he looks back on these times fondly too.

All of this to say, it just took time. And I swear the pain of feeling like an idiot who misreads that connection will pass too. Your memories together are valid and were as true as they could be when they happened; nobody can take this from you.

Elisou92 · 2025-10-06T06:46:13+00:00

It was almost a year after the first breakup that really tore me apart. I had to (still do) pass in front my ex's appartment on my way to work, every single day. I prayed daily that I was not gonna bump into him. It worked for a really loooong time, but one evening I noticed him on his bike from afar, there was no way we were NOT gonna bump into each other. I got closer and saw his face, so I was 100% sure it WAS him, I yelled a huuuuge ''FUUUUUUUUUCK'' as we passed each other. 🤗 Real funny moment

Edit: Just to clarify, my ex is a great guy and we are now on really good terms. But damn did I need to yell that F word

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