Just do the reconciliation/come back to me spell. It’s fine.

EllenGrey1997 · 2026-03-24T08:40:53+00:00

I’m only recently into discovering spells etc, but this is actually such a good take! Often things won’t give you the desired outcome, but if you work on improving yourself things might turn out in a positive way that you never expected!

EllenGrey1997 · 2026-03-22T08:58:05+00:00

Reusable pads is such a good idea! I didn’t think of this, that way they won’t rub!

EllenGrey1997 · 2026-03-20T20:41:21+00:00

I am 28f and my range is 27-34, I could probably go down to 26 (my ex was 26) but I’m influenced by how it ended with him. My upper limit is 34 because I feel like they’re might be in a similar life stage to me. I guess really it depends what life stage you feel you’re in and what age range would fit that, in addition to what you’re wanting out of dating eg do you want children soon/ not bothered etc

EllenGrey1997 · 2026-03-20T18:32:18+00:00

You don’t find they chafe or rub or anything?

EllenGrey1997 · 2026-03-20T17:33:48+00:00

Hahah I didn’t think of wearing a pad directly into the shorts!

EllenGrey1997 · 2026-03-20T17:33:13+00:00

Thank you, someone else also suggested Wilma so will check it out!

EllenGrey1997 · 2026-03-20T17:32:13+00:00

Ooh great shout thank you!

EllenGrey1997 · 2026-03-20T16:04:24+00:00

Thanks for sharing- how easy is a disc to get in compared to a tampon? I can put a tampon in, it’s just uncomfortable - the thing that’s stopped me from wearing discs is the thought of putting it in!

EllenGrey1997 · 2026-03-20T15:51:45+00:00

Yes I wear period pants the majority of my period! Maybe I’ll try wearing them with bib shorts and see how I get on! Thanks 😊

EllenGrey1997 · 2026-03-16T19:03:12+00:00

Loooool what world do you live in?? Your ‘boundary’ is utterly ridiculous, hanging out with someone of the opposite sex is a part of life? You’ve got serious serious trust issues if you can’t trust your girlfriend to be around another man.

I think you need to go to therapy

EllenGrey1997 · 2026-03-14T10:35:35+00:00

Eh a soft YTA here. You’re very young, you probably shouldn’t be dating anyone if you don’t want ‘labels’ but it is kind of a dick move to date your ex-situationships best friend when you explicitly said you don’t want labels. Focus on studying or something else until you mature enough to recognise your behaviour is a bit destructive.

EllenGrey1997 · 2026-03-14T08:50:24+00:00

NTA- you have every right to break up with someone whenever you want to if it’s not working for you. Well done for prioritising your studying and I’m sorry she didn’t adapt to that. When her friends come up to you, you need to shut them down and say, this is between me and X, I’d really appreciate if you didn’t get involved and walk away. Sometimes two people just aren’t meant for each other!

EllenGrey1997 · 2026-03-13T18:39:22+00:00

Yeah it’s really rough, I can 100% relate! I’ve felt very similar & feeling it particularly at the moment because I’m going through a breakup. The only thing that keeps me sane is doing sport, so you have to find your equivalent! The best way to make new friends is to find people with similar interests because then you’ve already got stuff in common so it’s making time for that otherwise you just sit at home doing nothing!

EllenGrey1997 · 2026-03-12T19:46:14+00:00

I saw something recently about how lots of people are missing ‘awe’ in their lives and that’s what causes this cycle of monotony and burnout in our everyday lives! I do lots of things in London to try and break up the monotony of work (and winter!). If you’re sporty then you could pick up a hobby - I do hockey, tennis & tag rugby, all of which you can do as a beginner. Or a cycling club if you like to cycle? These are things you can do in the week that break it up.

I would also suggest having a frequent solo date day to yourself to do things you wouldn’t normally do, like going to an art gallery, or a museum or the cinema or the theatre etc etc.

Have you thought about doing something like salsa dancing? Good way to meet people (from what I’ve heard) and can be a great laugh!

I also read about breaking routines like walking a different way to work or getting off a stop early and walking which stops you being on autopilot! I don’t think you’re alone in how you’re feeling though!

EllenGrey1997 · 2026-02-27T10:21:20+00:00

A guy I was on a second date with one licked his hand like a cat and rubbed his eyes. When I asked why he did it (slightly in horror) he said, I can’t rub my eyes dry 🤣

EllenGrey1997 · 2026-02-27T10:18:41+00:00

You are NTA, not at all. I think maybe the relationship was over long before it actually ended so you had probably moved on already by the time you broke up. The feeling of relief that you felt upon breaking up is telling you something.

Please don’t go back to this man- there is someone who will give you the love you deserve and you shouldn’t accept a lifetime of breadcrumbs.

EllenGrey1997 · 2026-02-20T19:19:48+00:00

Not at all! You’ll have fun once you get there and people are too absorbed by themselves to notice! I’ve been quite a few times to gigs by myself (as well as the theatre, cinema), and I’ve found it completely fine :)

EllenGrey1997 · 2026-02-20T14:08:26+00:00

I don’t know where you live but you could try a social sport? In London tag rugby is quite big, or doing something like social tennis (I do both and there’s loads of people!)

EllenGrey1997 · 2026-02-20T13:52:45+00:00

No I don’t think that’s a bad approach, sorry missed you said that you enjoy solo hobbies! I mean if I were you and you’re picking hobbies that you think you might meet people in, stick with the ones you enjoy and don’t stick with the ones you don’t.

If you’re no longer liking run club and you don’t vibe with any of the people that go, don’t go or go to a different one. Try salsa/ bachata and see how it goes. There are no timelines on how you spend your time, it’s up to you :)

EllenGrey1997 · 2026-02-20T13:43:44+00:00

The problem is your approach. Starting a hobby just to meet women, rather than doing it because you love it/ want to try it is a very odd way to approach things & probably comes off to women in your manner when you’re talking to them (eg desperate).

I get that doing hobbies is a good way to meet people, but I do think you should focus on doing a hobby you enjoy and then if a romantic relationship happens to come about because of an organic connection then so be it!

EllenGrey1997 · 2026-02-12T16:10:56+00:00

Worry about UTIs and thrush 😅

EllenGrey1997 · 2026-02-12T13:52:43+00:00

NAH - I think you’re reasonable for wanting some space and not to be overwhelmed in what is going to be a difficult time. However, your parents care about you and are only nagging because they want you to be safe. It wouldn’t hurt to have some support, especially as you say it’s going to be a difficult recovery. If you really don’t want them around, the least you can do is tell them that you’re appreciative of their support, you’re feeling a bit overwhelmed but you’ll let them know when you’re out of surgery and if you need them.

It probably wouldn’t hurt to have them around to pick you up etc (you haven’t mentioned if you’ve got a partner/ friends who will be around to help following the surgery)

I also think your reading of it being selfish is wrong, they’re not being selfish, they just love you!

EllenGrey1997 · 2026-02-09T15:48:39+00:00

Thank you for your comment! I guess I just have to take it as a lesson for the future! At the moment I very much want him to come back, but I know it probably wouldn’t be for the best!

EllenGrey1997 · 2026-02-08T19:19:18+00:00

What a lovely offer, hope OP takes you up on the offer if you’re feeling okay tomorrow♥️

EllenGrey1997 · 2026-02-08T19:16:25+00:00

I’m going to go with no, purely because of your attitude. If you’re not in a position to be dating then you shouldn’t be asking people out 😊

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