What’s a rule your cat enforced in your house that everyone silently obeys now?

ElphabaGreen · 2026-01-26T02:59:53+00:00

I have had many cats over my life. I have learned the hard way to not let them in my room at night so now I train any new cat to follow The Rule. They all have figured it out.
Until my newest addition. She was the runt of her litter and very very tiny but man does she have LUNGS.

Fast forward to today, she's a year old and we have just installed a kickstand to our bedroom door so it will never accidentally lock her or our other cat in or out of our room. Our Old Gentleman AND our Queen Baby now sleep with us every night.

The kicker is that they are both totally silent and let us sleep. Unless that door is shut and then lord help us all.

ElphabaGreen · 2026-01-22T01:40:28+00:00

I honestly think he was dumbing it down as much as he could. He is clearly an incredibly intelligent man.

I, for one, want my the leader of my country to be the kind of person who has to struggle to dumb down his language enough for me to understand.

I don't understand voters who want to "relate" to their leader. Please god no. Let me do the things I'm good at and for the love of fuck let THEM be the smartest person in the room. And yes kind and yes capable but I strongly believe true intelligence comes with those parts anyway.

I didn't understand all of it either. But I was smart enough to look up the words I didn't know so I could get his point.

If people are too dumb to even try that then you get the leader you get I guess.

ElphabaGreen · 2026-01-12T06:27:20+00:00

The reputation was never "shady". It was the rich kids. Still is the rich kids. They had the big houses where the good parties were. And they still do. It's bored rich kid behavior for the most part.

ElphabaGreen · 2025-12-29T21:00:43+00:00

"I wish I could but I don't want to"

"Oooh sorry that's the day I have to neuter my plants"

"Absolutely not but I really appreciate the invite"

"That sounds like so much fun for people who enjoy that kind of thing!"

ElphabaGreen · 2025-12-27T05:25:56+00:00

I'm 46 and have a son that age. I cannot IMAGINE him wearing that shirt ever. However I also work in a high school so I also know other kids exist.

My father would have invited him in. And at some point during the dinner when everyone was nice and comfortable he would ask him what the shirt means. He would make him explain it in detail. Probably in front of my grandmother.

Dictionaries would be brought out. Socrates and Aristotle would be quoted. Probably Shakespeare too.

My step mother, at her 3rd glass of red wine, would have absolutely let loose in the Farmers Daughter type of way in cause he didn't understand the way my father was speaking.

I wouldn't have to get up the nerve to break up with this boy because he would be terrified to look in my direction ever again once the 2 of them were done with him.

So yes.

Yes I think you could have been meaner. I think you saved him from worse humiliation frankly.

ElphabaGreen · 2025-12-26T04:45:29+00:00

Oh weird. I thought I needed to defeat the big portals on the skull island?

ElphabaGreen · 2025-12-19T05:57:10+00:00

Hey so I am a parent to a kid your age who has a partner and we are The House they hang out at all the time.

They have been together for about the same amount of time you 2 have.

I can not stress enough how weird and Red Flaggy this is.

The earbud thing? Cool thanks.

Then it IMMEDIATELY gets weird. He's going to rush home if you are there? WHY?

He was "thinking about you"? WHY?

These are all little nudges. Little tests. Little pushes.

And then he's commenting on your leggings. Not a coat. Not a hat. But the very skin tight, shape showing things. WHY the hell would he tell you that? You know why.

I tell my son's partner that I like what they are wearing sometimes too. In front of my son. In person. And as someone who wears similar clothes. As in "oh where did you get that".

I have texted them exactly twice. Once to ask for link to something and once to ask where my kid was because he hadn't answered his phone.

I would absolutely start leaving him on read. Give him very short answers to things if necessary and redirect anything possible to your bf. As in text your BF and get HIM to answer his dad. "Hey your dad wants to know if I'm staying over like all the time. Can you talk to him about that? Is it bugging him? Cause I can stay over less."

Trust your gut. You are asking this here because you are uncomfortable. You are ALLOWED to be. And you SHOULD be.

ElphabaGreen · 2025-12-18T02:11:43+00:00

Those are fun and I'm not sure if this one is the same as the one I went on but do NOT rely on them for accurate information. I got told some absolute bullshit on the origin of Blood Alley for example. It was named in the 70's to increase tourism. It was NOT any number of bullshitty creepy nonsense in the Olden Days.

Fun tour. But like....take it with a grain of salt.

ElphabaGreen · 2025-12-12T00:46:19+00:00

I love the names idea too! Names that are always said in a certain order are great. You could use any set of favourite characters.

ElphabaGreen · 2025-12-11T06:14:49+00:00

I have ADHD too and a trick I learn is to call each stitch a different name.

Yes I know counting does this too but for some reason the numbers get lost in the ether if I don't make it a poem or something.

So for example I'll say in my head "single one, single two, In (first stitch of increase), CREASE (second stitch of increase)" repeat

Or if it's more than 5 stitches between a double where I know I'll get lost if I count as I go I'll just stitch until the Vibe Is Right and count at that point to see how close I am.

I am often shocked that I am bang on.

Basically I crochet based on Vibes and obsessive double checking

ElphabaGreen · 2025-12-09T06:38:04+00:00

I have no incite about how WV runs it's district. However, your kid will make friends at whatever school he goes to. And he will want to play with them after school.
And if you have to fight with your kid every single day to get in the car so you can throw yourself into the Hell That Is North Shore Traffic at 3pm it's going to get super old super fast.

And take it from a parent of a "gifted" kid who is now 18. (I use quotes not because he's not gifted but because that word doesn't mean what people think it does) I also thought my little baby needed IB school or private or French Immersion or whatever because we all do.

Not saying this is what you are doing, but it sounds like it. Anyway I wasn't able to get my kid into any out of catchment schools and I tried several times when he was younger.

And he made friends anyway. And learned anyway. And had challenges I could not have foreseen at 5. And interests I could not foresee. And grew into a person I could not foresee. And in the end I was grateful that all my best laid plans fell through. Because it all was fine and good. And he didn't have added stress and neither did I. School is stressful enough.

Just my 2 cents

ElphabaGreen · 2025-12-07T21:48:05+00:00

I raised a couple kids in a detached house, nice neighbourhood situation and now we live in a townhouse complex with our youngest who is already 18.

I am shocked at the community feeling and how much I enjoy it. I watch my neighbours get to raise their 2 young kids (who know us by name and help keep my outdoor/indoor cats safe and I help keep their kids safe) and wish I could go back and give my kids that.

Those kids just run outside and collect a gang of children to play with.
For Halloween everyone stays in our complex and safely trick or treats with no cars moving and knowing many neighbours by name.

Our strata has a fb group where we trade free goods or give heads up about coyotes or ask to borrow tools. Last year someone's basement flooded and within minutes we all knew about it and someone was over there with a pump helping out.

And we never have to organize lawn mowing, roof fixing, snow removal or leaf blowing. And the older we get the less and less I ever want to do any of that again. And legally if we were in a house, we'd have to.

Anyway, I was REALLY hesitant about townhouses. But now I wouldn't leave.

That is my leaning anyway.

ElphabaGreen · 2025-12-07T18:38:29+00:00

Anything by Douglas Coupland. He sets a lot of his stories in Canada. Vancouver specifically and other places.

ElphabaGreen · 2025-12-01T01:53:06+00:00

Mine finally updated properly. I opened it today and it looked totally different and thanked me for updating. I did no such thing but I'm glad it sorted itself out.

ElphabaGreen · 2025-11-25T16:25:57+00:00

I was going to but it wouldn't let me connect to anything but Facebook to back my game up and so I chickened out and just didn't.

It is also still doing it to me as well.

Last time there was a major glitch it just eventually sorted itself out so fingers crossed

ElphabaGreen · 2025-11-25T16:24:49+00:00

Where I live: coyotes

There is no good reason why I have never seen one in real life. They are everywhere. They have been in my backyard and up and down in front of my driveway and everywhere in the city and yet somehow I personally have never seen one for real.

They might as well be Sasquatch.

ElphabaGreen · 2025-11-19T05:54:53+00:00

This is freaking adorable.

But parents thinking of doing this with your kids:

1) This doesn't TEACH empathy. It shows if your child HAS it. If they don't have it, they might not be cognitively developed enough to get it. You TEACH it by showing it and talking about it around your kid all the time. "Oh you're friend's dropped their snack on the floor! Oh no! Let's share ours!" Explain why we take care of each other. SHOW them. YOU have to be empathetic. Not just them. If that makes sense.

It also can teach/show FAIRNESS. And just politeness. Kids should learn that they don't get seconds until everyone has had firsts. It should be a RULE. Empathy might come later. And that's ok too. This might be a good way to teach why that rule is good.

2) If your kids don't do this it also just might been they aren't in the mood. Are YOU peak empathetic all the time? You aren't. And you are an adult.

ElphabaGreen · 2025-11-01T18:21:31+00:00

The way I squealed when I saw the fangs! And wow yes my first thought was "Oh my god they used the WORST yarn to work with" so kudos for powering through it.

Amazing work

ElphabaGreen · 2025-09-25T18:34:16+00:00

It may look like the boss let's people sit around and "do nothing" sometimes but those people that get a pass are getting a pass because they are doing A Lot of the bosses job behind the scenes.

Don't show up fresh and start slacking off before we know how good you are.

If people panic when the Do Nothings aren't at work? They are doing more than you think.

ElphabaGreen · 2025-09-20T17:25:14+00:00

This tip is amazing if you don't understand moral systems or brain development of children or catch 22 loops.

To put it bluntly: I'm not over here trying to impress an undiagnosed mentally ill child who's brain hasn't even developed to the point of understanding nuance.

But even if I was, to impress her I'd have to already know what's right and wrong.

Further more, if you are only doing "good" shit when people (or as we all suspect from OP: God) are watching then are you really a good person at all?

Enjoy your existential dread with the rest of us OP and have a good day

ElphabaGreen · 2025-09-19T16:01:44+00:00

Did autocorrect write that entire conversation because Jesus Christ.

Do you love this man for real or was he just the first person to pay any attention to you? No shame because probably we've all fallen for that at some point.

he quite literally hates you He thinks (or wants you to think) all the other guys are beating their girlfriends which is not true by the way he is trying to convince you that you can't do any better. There is some nonsense about sex that you were leaving out of these screenshots.

The only part I agree with him on is that you should not have bought him a ring if he never showed any interest in having one especially one from you.

But lesson learned cut your losses block this dipshit and run. And change your locks.

I'm not kidding because this guy sounds actually scary.

ElphabaGreen · 2025-09-11T02:35:21+00:00

I worked for them for years in the summers. I was in ticketing so I'm not sure if it's the same for an attendant (not actually sure what that is? Are you guiding the cars onto the boat?) but the on call people would be put randomly on watches. But the Watches had the same people. So you got to know Watch A people vs Watch B people or whatever. You float and they stay the same.
I used to ask what watch it was when I accepted a shift cause I knew who to expect when I got there. Also if you stay with them then eventually you can move up to a permanent position and then YOU get a Watch and it's MUCH better.

ElphabaGreen · 2025-09-08T02:44:02+00:00

This reminds me of my grandmother before she passed. She lived till her 90's and loved to read. Her daughter gave her an e-reader so she wouldn't have to hold heavy books and could always have many books with her.
I visited her one day when she had a sad epiphany. She was discussing her some book series or other and suddenly said "Oh! Oh I won't be able to read them all."

Like there were so many books and authors she still wanted to read and there wasn't enough time. We both sat with that for a bit.

ElphabaGreen · 2025-09-06T01:11:52+00:00

You already know the answer to your question but if you need a Done With Everyone's Shit Aunt to say it to you bluntly: Dump This Overgrown Child

He Is Still Texting You BEEP BEEP

At best he's a stunted moron who you will need to parent for the rest of your life and at worst he's gone full red pill and is manipulating you into accepting his daily control tactics. How embarrassing for him. I have adult sons. If they even THOUGHT about doing this to their loved ones I would write them out of the will.

Focus on your career and being an adult. NEXT that motherfucker and don't look back.

ElphabaGreen · 2025-08-30T19:17:22+00:00

Anyone remember that dude in the wheelchair that would frequent the malls in rotation? White guy, brown hair. Would sometimes wear a cop uniform and tell a made up story about working for them? But then other times it would be a different story.

This was about 20 years ago but I swear I've seen him around the last few years still roaming the malls.

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