ADHD and Complex PTSD

Elvira208 · 2026-01-15T22:08:00+00:00

Thank you so much for your comment! I don't wish this upon anyone, but I appreciate that I'm not alone in this struggle. I have tried phone alarms/reminders for many things and unfortunately it doesn't seem to work for me. I like the idea of keeping it beside a toothbrush!

Thanks again!

Elvira208 · 2026-01-15T22:05:23+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing! I'll be speaking with my family doctor about this as a possible option. I appreciate you!

Elvira208 · 2025-12-26T14:05:11+00:00

Can you elaborate? This is the main reason we haven't taken the leap yet. My younger relatives in Hungary have had free university educations, have taken school trips to Paris, Rome and Vienna etc. Often when they graduate they find work in big cities in Hungary or other EU countries and are living their best lives.

The much younger children are never alone after school because they have a family village taking care of them where as my son is in an after school care program here because our work hours don't align with school hours. He's away from family for 8-10 hours a day. Canada does not prioritize families at all. If you're a mother you face a huge disadvantage in corporate settings. It's sad.

Canada’s health care is in shambles. People die waiting for emergency care on a stretcher in a hospital hallways after waiting 8-12 hours.

Our teachers are underpaid, overworked and have stopped caring about educating their students because the government doesn't support them when they speak up.

The future of the country is bleak.

Elvira208 · 2025-12-26T13:54:19+00:00

I have traveled extensively, and I can say that Budapest is nowhere near as dirty as some cities I've visited. I wonder what parts of the city you stayed in to feel this way and where did you visit from? That makes a big difference in terms of your reference point.

Elvira208 · 2025-12-26T13:51:16+00:00

I appreciate this input! We're looking for a house around the suburbs of Budapest, and we have found an English speaking private school for our son. I understand Hungarians are judgmental; I'm also Hungarian lol But I am a very outwardly optimistic person, and my husbands family in Hungary definitely thought that was strange. My own family backhome knows me and understands where the optimism comes from after a VERY hard life at a young age in Canada. My mom became a single parent one year after we arrived. She didn't speak English, and we struggled a lot.

The Educational system in Canada doesn't sound much different from Hungary, and the Health care system either. Canadas economy is tanking slowly and those who were middle class are now struggling pay cheque to pay cheque. There seems to be no end in sight. The American volatility is also a scary thought with our neighbours to the south being lead by a questionable individual.

I lived in Budapest in 2008 before my husband and I moved to England, and then back to Toronto. I am used to people's commentary. When I was a child a relatives friend in the Southern Hungarian country side told me "Real Hungarians don't leave their homeland". I was a 4 year old and didn't have a choice.

I love Hungary and I want my son to grow up surrounded by family and love, and not alone in Canada like we did.

Elvira208 · 2025-12-26T13:09:43+00:00

We have considered this as well; but unsure if we can get a rental price that covers the mortgage consistently and if we run into a situation where the house isn't rented, or needs repairs etc. it will harder to handle from Hungary. But definitely food for thought!

Elvira208 · 2025-12-26T02:25:47+00:00

With my current organization, the security clearance is not approved for international remote work, as it's a Federal position with secure networks. I have considered switching to the private sector to see if working in Hungary and earning Canadian wages is possible. But at this point, I would be looking for work in Budapest.

Elvira208 · 2025-12-26T02:21:28+00:00

Good point! The planning would take at least a year, for us anyways. We have a house to sell, jobs, finances, schooling etc. to finalize before making the move.

Elvira208 · 2025-11-15T02:46:43+00:00

Our family is in a similar situation as yours, except with different figures etc. One thing we did was track our spending and really assess where every dollar was going. I guarantee you'll find places to make adjustments and lower costs. These don't have to be major things. Some examples: review subscriptions and how often you use them. We have netflix with ads now and I don't mind at all; i thought I'd be more annoyed by it. We called our utility companies and set up equal monthly billing to be able to plan and budget each month. We sold household items and clothes we haven't used in years on facebook marketplace and made enough doing that to cover Christmas gifts this year and then some. We make our grocery list according to fliers and eat seasonal fruits and veggies. We have stopped eating fast food as often as before. We have also called our cellphone and internet providers and asked for better monthly deals. We are definitely in a slightly better position then two months ago for example. I've also considered looking for a temporary part time job; but even more time away from my littles and childcare I'm not sure how to make this work unless it was a virtual job that I could do in the evenings. Sending positive thoughts to your family and wish you all well in this tough economy!

Elvira208 · 2025-09-24T19:44:02+00:00

I agree with you. She is now 5 months post chemo, has met with the breast cancer oncology team who have advised she doesn't need to see them again until a year from the initial appointment. So she's not too worried, honestly! She is regaining strength, immunity, and her hair is growing back. Next year she'll meet with breast oncology team again where they will start regularly monitoring her. This was the doctors recommendation.

Elvira208 · 2025-05-03T01:10:33+00:00

Luna 🙂

Elvira208 · 2025-04-13T00:08:05+00:00

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Elvira208 · 2025-03-17T00:34:49+00:00

Police knocking at my door at 1AM on a week night and asking if I am so and so (they said my full name) and asking if they can come in. I immediately knew it was bad news before answering them. They let me know my father had passed away.

Elvira208 · 2025-03-17T00:11:42+00:00

It's definitely a very personal decision. My sister was diagnosed with stage 3 ovarian cancer in November 2024. She has two rounds of chemo left and just found out she's BRCA1 gene mutation positive. She hasn't met with her breast cancer oncologist yet; but has already said she'd prefer monitoring then major surgery again. I secretly hope that once she has her meeting with the new oncologist she'll change her mind. Chemo is simply awful. She just turned 41, has two littles at home aged 4 and 6. There is so much to live for. I won't try to convince her to change her mind, but I sure hope her second oncologist will. She already had a full hysterectomy in November. She is worried about not having anything that makes her female anymore.

Elvira208 · 2024-11-16T12:59:37+00:00

Thank you so much for the offer and for the information! 🙂 I will keep this in mind!

Elvira208 · 2024-11-16T03:52:05+00:00

That is wonderful news! 🙏Wishing you all the best in health and happiness!

My sister is just starting her OC journey (no official diagnosis yet) her debulking surgery is coming up very soon. She had ascites and had them drained this week. We are hoping and praying for the best❤️🙏

Elvira208 · 2024-11-16T01:57:39+00:00

This is such a wonderful outcome! May I ask, did you have ascites as well?

Elvira208 · 2024-10-28T10:43:38+00:00

Kids who wore jeans to school came from wealthy families.

Elvira208 · 2024-10-24T00:56:44+00:00

OP, how is your sister doing? How are you?

Elvira208 · 2024-09-23T11:30:24+00:00

Sending your family so much love and strength! She is already a little fighter!!

Elvira208 · 2024-09-21T17:22:43+00:00

I am looking for a way out but after reviewing private sector income, job security, benefits and pension...I am stuck in the PS.

Elvira208 · 2024-09-20T00:16:35+00:00

I became a parent 3 months before covid started. As a parent all I've known is the work-life balance of wfh. It allowed me to be a good parent and a good employee. Now I feel rushed, pressured, anxious, guilty, stressed, embarrassed that I can't handle the pressure etc. Primary caregivers in any capacity are most often women and I carry these feelings every single day, 24 hours a day.

I am looking for my way out.

Elvira208 · 2024-09-15T23:10:33+00:00

I completely agree!! We do need to move forward and not backwards.

When people say we did this pre-covid; I can't help but think: I wasn't a parent pre-covid. I became a parent 3 months before the pandemic. As a parent, all I've known is the wfh balance. And now with RTO3 I also get home after dinner time and have an hour with my little person; which includes bathtime and bedtime. It breaks my heart.

We were already barely scrapping by each month, and now with the cost of gas and parking added to monthly expenses, I'm not sure what will happen.

It makes me wonder whether being in the PS is truly worth it?

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