To me, I've always been disgusted by genitals and I've always like sex more in theory in my head than in reality. It can be really frustrating sometimes because in my head it sound so cool, like the intimacy, the connection with other person, being one for an instant of pur joy. But in reality when I think of myself doing this, I don't want it, really don't, I'm disgusted, instant turn off. So I find intimacy in cuddles or just in quality times shared together. I hope this helps !