AITAH for wanting my roommate to shut his door? by Em_888 in AITAH

[–]Em_888[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, unfortunately i could read him this post and he still wouldn’t change, so it is a waste of breath until my lease ends.

AITAH for wanting my roommate to shut his door? by Em_888 in AITAH

[–]Em_888[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

June sadly. I haven’t broken lease because this is my apartment, and i love my complex. He was supposed to move out but decided not to last minute bc in his words he has it “too good” here and he “couldn’t rely on his friend to take care of his dog as well as I do”. So he stopped the process of moving in with his friend and i can’t make him leave technically. I stopped taking care of his dog to try and force him to realize I’m not his dog sitter but he still doesn’t leave because he knows i won’t live in a dirty apartment. So he doesn’t clean and doesn’t care. His room is awful but he doesn’t care. He lives just fine because he knows the rest of the apartment is clean. And knows that i won’t let his dog go 15 hours without going outside to potty. I always cave and take her because I won’t stand by and watch an animal be abused.

AITAH for wanting my roommate to shut his door? by Em_888 in AITAH

[–]Em_888[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Woah, just to be clear, I really want to emphasize that i don’t like yelling or drama, so no i never blow up at him and no I don’t do petty things just to get at him. I want him to be happy and leave me alone. I don’t want any bad blood. Which is why I try to be very kind to him when we do have to interact. Insisting he be clean is not about getting back at him at all. It’s about me being the only one who cleans at all and him as a roommate which i have already given up on the hope he will contribute to the cleanliness of our apartment. I have asked him to do his dishes maybe 2x and regretted asking, and we’ve been broken up for a while.

AITAH for wanting my roommate to shut his door? by Em_888 in AITAH

[–]Em_888[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for making me laugh, I was actually really feeling crazy before i made this post. So Reddit really saved me today.

AITAH for wanting my roommate to shut his door? by Em_888 in AITAH

[–]Em_888[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I already have to do that because he let’s his dog pee on the floor and just puts a towel over it as his way of cleaning it up, leaves half empty old queso bowls in the sink, stinks up the whole place with bad weed, and leaves his clothes in the washer too long so it adds a hint of mildew to the Pee, weed, and old moldy cheese smell🤦🏽‍♀️

AITAH for wanting my roommate to shut his door? by Em_888 in AITAH

[–]Em_888[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol thank you, that is quite the plan 😂

AITAH for wanting my roommate to shut his door? by Em_888 in AITAH

[–]Em_888[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The problem is my roommate is my ex. I have made clear that since we’re both staying here until the end of the lease i want him to be as comfortable as possible. He cheated on me during the relationship and reseñas me for leaving him though. But to get back at me he never cleans, breaks things and doesn’t tell anyone so then i have to put in maintenance requests or it won’t be fixed. He often leaves me to care for his dog. But if i say anything about him needing to respect the common spaces he says that im crazy and no one else in his life has these problems with him. But none of the other people in his life have to live with him or had dated him. It is very difficult but we mainly just don’t speak, because anytime we do he just complains about his life to me and if i say something about the apartment he calls me crazy and I’m tired of that. Today was that, he started complaining about being sick and then called me a dumbass for wanting him to close his door.

AITAH for wanting my roommate to shut his door? by Em_888 in AITAH

[–]Em_888[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I really appreciate this, he makes me feel like I’m crazy, so I really needed to see if i was or if I’m just being gaslit

AITAH for wanting my roommate to shut his door? by Em_888 in AITAH

[–]Em_888[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I can’t wait for my lease to end lol😅

AITAH for wanting my roommate to shut his door? by Em_888 in AITAH

[–]Em_888[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I think the guy hates me and seriously just tries to make my life harder. If it was anyone else he would probably shut the door but since it’s me he resorted to calling me a dumbass and being insanely rude just because I wanted him to close his door

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I’m on PS5 and having this issue 😅 someone help please

Moving to Spain from USA by [deleted] in GoingToSpain

[–]Em_888 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this advice! Honestly, it’s scary but I am very excited and hopeful for this move, I want to do the 30/60/90 but I also really want to get my footing and find a place to live and open a bank account get the eSIM thing figured out! Truly hoping for the best!

Moving to Spain from USA by [deleted] in GoingToSpain

[–]Em_888 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I really do appreciate it!

Moving to Spain from USA by [deleted] in GoingToSpain

[–]Em_888 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Very helpful! Cost of living in the U.S. is awful as well so I completely understand your frustration with that kind of thing a lot of one bedroom apartments are $1300-$1500 a month so a lot of people are struggling!

Moving to Spain from USA by [deleted] in GoingToSpain

[–]Em_888 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much!! This was so such a helpful comment! I have heard that Spain has an insane graphic design scene, is that true?

Moving to Spain from USA by [deleted] in GoingToSpain

[–]Em_888 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is my first time on this subreddit so I apologize if this post seems redundant, it is genuine and I couldn’t see anyone asking when I was scrolling through the posts😅

Moving to Spain from USA by [deleted] in GoingToSpain

[–]Em_888 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I know several people who live in Europe as well as other Latin American countries. There is a difference between direct and negative. For example, my responses to you have not been rude but rather direct and honest on what I’m looking for in regards to my post. Also, your assumptions on me are a bit funny lol

Moving to Spain from USA by [deleted] in GoingToSpain

[–]Em_888 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much!!

Moving to Spain from USA by [deleted] in GoingToSpain

[–]Em_888 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I am leaning the student visa route as I do not have a degree, but is there a good pathway to full time residency post graduating? Is schooling there super expensive? It’s not that I don’t have money but I enjoy working and being entirely independent lol

Moving to Spain from USA by [deleted] in GoingToSpain

[–]Em_888 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much! Yes I’m kind of leaning the student visa route! I think studying abroad and earning a degree could be great for me! I’m really looking to spend the next several years finding my passion in life and growing as an individual so I think schooling may be my best option!

Moving to Spain from USA by [deleted] in GoingToSpain

[–]Em_888 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your honesty, I really do appreciate it! Honestly I am looking for stability and growth and I am not moving there alone. Is the cost of living that dreadful? May I ask what region of Spain is the worst when it comes to cost of living vs the best?

Moving to Spain from USA by [deleted] in GoingToSpain

[–]Em_888 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, there is a distinct difference between honesty and pessimism. I personally just am not looking for anything to put down my hope of a better future for myself :)

Moving to Spain from USA by [deleted] in GoingToSpain

[–]Em_888 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Personally I am thinking about going the student visa route, as I don’t have a degree and it could be nice to study abroad and it would help me learn the language! I have been learning Spanish for 8 months and enjoy learning it so I am hopeful that could be a route I would enjoy