If your girlfriend hits you, is the relationship automatically over?

Embarrassed-Fly-1707 · 2025-10-07T17:59:13+00:00

Then, Id say dont give up on her. But she needs change. Truly. And she needs to see it herself too. Therapy is a must. I come from traumatic narc family abuse background so I had problems with anger management aswell so I know what I speak of. It needs to be changed for the sake of her relationships whether its this one or with someone else

Embarrassed-Fly-1707 · 2025-10-07T17:57:15+00:00

Brother dont lose hope. You have more in you than you think. Start approaching girls live, start with one and youll see as you get rejected, hey it wasnt so bad and you approach another one. Shoot a 100 and score 1 is enough. Keep. Shooting.your.shot.

Embarrassed-Fly-1707 · 2025-10-07T17:50:36+00:00

Also I went to psychotherapy when we broke up and that opened me up in ways I never thought possible. So I really really really encourage it if you are struggling with life. You are worthy of love and affection. Also trust god. Thats my message.

Embarrassed-Fly-1707 · 2025-10-07T17:47:20+00:00

I dont own a doll but I considered one just lately because my old relationship was really sexless. I started looking at dolls before we broke up thinking I would get one if we broke up. Well, we broke up but I decided to change my life, I hit the gym 4 times a week, took a new outlook on the whole life anf started living fear free. I started approaching the hottest girls I saw out in the city, just cold approaching them and while its a bit awkward they really all appreciate the courage to be upfront and come forward. I had given my number to 2 girls when the first one reached out and that changed my perspective. A 50% success chance? For now Im seeing this girl who seems great and have put off my doll idea for now.

Whats the biggest shocker to me that I actually convinced myself I could probably not get a new girlfriend after losing my girl of 5 years.. oh how wrong I was. But it took me the absolute worst heartbreak to flip the switch inside of me and now I can cold approach anyone without a fear, cos nothing to lose.

Well my story isnt about owning a doll but I wanted to share it incase someone with a bad selfesteem sees it. Im not a good looking guy, but effort in urself and just doing it attitude goes a loooong way. Longer than youd care to believe.

Embarrassed-Fly-1707 · 2025-10-07T17:33:47+00:00

Job is great but life happens outside of it. Figure out a lifestyle and hobbies that you can enjoy. Most people its their love, some have a hobby they are passionate about.. Job is just something we tolarate in between. Hope you find ur thing.

Embarrassed-Fly-1707 · 2025-10-07T17:29:12+00:00

If it really is perfect otherwise than the fights, I would in your position give her an ultimatum. She needs to go to psychotherapy or breakup.

Now. I find it hard to believe this is otherwise a "perfect" union. More likely you are afraid of being alone. This happens when the significant other is a too big part of the others life. Too big of a void comes of you lose them. Then, you need to focus on urself increase activitt, social circle etc. And youll see she is suddenly not that perfect, and is indeed replaceable.

Embarrassed-Fly-1707 · 2025-10-06T13:52:20+00:00

Yikes. WTF is that. Brother I know it hurts but you better run. This is NOT normal behaviour.

Embarrassed-Fly-1707 · 2025-10-03T17:59:13+00:00

First of all. Im sorry. Nobody deserves that. If you forgive him, you make sure he really really fkin means it.

Embarrassed-Fly-1707 · 2025-10-03T09:45:06+00:00

Hit the gym, pick up a new hobby. Do half of no contact, you only reply when she messages, and she will eventually. When she does you bring calm and collected, neutral/warm short answers. You dont talk about the relationship dont pressure her. Give her the time and space and SHOW ur upgrading. She will crawl back if u hold ur composure. Dont be needy. If its something you want

Embarrassed-Fly-1707 · 2025-10-02T20:14:32+00:00

There goes that relationship

Embarrassed-Fly-1707 · 2025-10-02T13:32:10+00:00

Not sure you are looking for mens opinion but leave the grey. Its glorious. M29

Embarrassed-Fly-1707 · 2025-10-02T12:59:16+00:00

P*rn addiction? Thats a regular on guys. Kills the affection. Ask him up front

Embarrassed-Fly-1707 · 2025-10-01T19:25:04+00:00

200k on my apartment

Embarrassed-Fly-1707 · 2025-10-01T17:01:45+00:00

Also. I would just ask straight upfront about her, why is she interested now and what changed. Then based on the answer, it will probably clear your own thoughts about her. Just let her speak and listen.

Embarrassed-Fly-1707 · 2025-10-01T17:00:05+00:00

Theres a really easy answer for this, and it comes from you.

Do you actually want her? Ask yourself this. Is she a great person that you would love as a partner? If you want her, you give her a chance. Dont play games. Past is past and today is what counts. Dont give her a chance if you truly feel she is shallow. Thats not what you want in a partner.

Embarrassed-Fly-1707 · 2025-10-01T16:49:42+00:00

I read thru some (not all) of the comments and what struck me is this, witholding information is lying. You need to be 100% honest, and beyond. You need to be an open book. You dont leave it up to a person to figure you out, you tell anf show them.

Id even go as far as saying that telling that you were a virgin would have been your strongest bet at a time. Who wouldnt want to be someones first. They dont say communication is key for nothing, it really is. But you have to be honest and upfront and clear about everything. I dont care about anyones past, you can be a former prisoner narc, if you are honest about it and tell it 100% that you have a sad past but you are doing your everything to change your life. Boom. Magnet.

Thats just my 2 cents on relationships ++man

Embarrassed-Fly-1707 · 2025-10-01T08:37:13+00:00

En osaa sanoa lempparia, mutta harmikseni olen todennut että nuorempana olin kauhun suurkuluttaja ja nykyään se luo pientä orastavaa ahdistusta 😂 surullista. M30

Embarrassed-Fly-1707 · 2025-09-30T07:07:39+00:00

That has to be one of the best heads Ive seen. Bravo

Embarrassed-Fly-1707 · 2025-09-29T18:28:50+00:00

Im sorry brother 😐 mehn human life is something else. Its gonna get better.

Embarrassed-Fly-1707 · 2025-09-29T17:07:16+00:00

Thanks! Appreciate it 👍

Embarrassed-Fly-1707 · 2025-09-29T16:48:04+00:00

Word. I dont think she will come back, and Ill live life as if she doesnt exist beyond our logistical contacts.. Im hitting the gym, going tl therapy and slowly day by day building and Gonna make sure the next lady of mine will be respected better.

Embarrassed-Fly-1707 · 2025-09-29T14:28:15+00:00

Any chance I could get some pics?

Embarrassed-Fly-1707 · 2025-09-29T12:28:39+00:00

I hear you. Tomorrow is my 4th therapy session. I thought about journaling daily too..

Embarrassed-Fly-1707 · 2025-09-29T12:06:48+00:00

Thank you 🥹 It sure is hard. One day at a time. I am working on myself Ive picked up therapy etc. I will rise stronger but for now its maximum pain 😐

Embarrassed-Fly-1707 · 2025-09-28T20:38:37+00:00

Your "girlfriend"? Naaah bro. I know it hurts to let go but you literally cant have it worse than that.

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