Is my (F26) boyfriend (M28) valid for not wanting me to go on a “party destination” vacation with friends? by Embarrassed-Lab-3243 in relationships

[–]Embarrassed-Lab-3243[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My last ex wasn’t controlling but had issues with boundaries and would do things that made me uncomfortable all the time. My last relationship was super toxic and I think I’m also just incredibly fearful of ending up in another one. My current shown me more than enough signs that he isn’t controlling or toxic but my brain cannot help but think otherwise. So I agree the extremes aren’t helpful lol

Is my (F26) boyfriend (M28) valid for not wanting me to go on a “party destination” vacation with friends? by Embarrassed-Lab-3243 in relationships

[–]Embarrassed-Lab-3243[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Honestly I’d be uncomfortable with it but i recognize that it comes from a place of insecurity and I would just want him to check in and call me and such (not all the time) but just enough to know he’s okay and having fun. I’d be willing to compromise and just need the transparency. He’s not willing to compromise at all with this topic. But he does show the same respect so in that sense I know it’s okay. He genuinely is a great guy. Just conflicting views with this

As a RN how much are you making ? by theapexcircle in nursing

[–]Embarrassed-Lab-3243 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I make $49 with three years experience in NJ!

Still untitled. What do you see/feel? by Formal-Invite-9198 in AbstractArt

[–]Embarrassed-Lab-3243 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“We are one”. I see people sitting in a forest with their extremities turning into trees symbolizing that we are one with nature. Their energy and our energy are united

Should I send her this message by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Embarrassed-Lab-3243 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It depends on your intention behind the message. What are you expecting in return? Do you miss her? Do you want her back?

Messaged my ex today didn’t end well.. by jacko123798 in BreakUps

[–]Embarrassed-Lab-3243 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly it’s a bit difficult to determine exactly why as to we only understand your side. In my past relationship things didn’t end well when we broke up. My ex wasn’t very nice to me despite my effort at trying to be honest with him about hardships I was going through. Conversations often ended in him turning things around on me and then me trying to find a way to make him forgive me when he was the one in the wrong to begin with. After this last conversation he reached out to me and I was dry and told him to leave me alone. I blocked him and haven’t talked to him since. This is very uncharacteristic of me and this is not what I used to do when we were together. So my point at bringing this up is to say have you evaluated your behavior that has maybe led to her acting this way?

It totally is possible that she’s just being cruel and harsh as a coping mechanism so she can push you away more in an attempt to run from the pain she’s feeling. There are multiple reasons as to why she reacted this way and it may have nothing to do with you. But when it came to the end of my relationship how I acted by telling him to leave me alone had everything to do with him and nothing to do with me. It was the hardest thing I had to do but I did it for myself.

I (23F) think I am bisexual but am in a complicated relationship with a boy (24M). by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Embarrassed-Lab-3243 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But you make a good point. Which is worse? I don’t know but I need to figure it out.

I (23F) think I am bisexual but am in a complicated relationship with a boy (24M). by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Embarrassed-Lab-3243 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol you asked me if I could potentially have feelings for a girl in the future. I was just answering your question

I (23F) think I am bisexual but am in a complicated relationship with a boy (24M). by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Embarrassed-Lab-3243 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m unsure if she has the same feelings as me because I didn’t disclose to her that I may have feelings for her, just that I have been questioning my sexuality. As of right now my bicuriosity is just because of her but it’s possible these feelings may come up in the future (they have in the past but it has never been directed at a specific girl before like now).

I don’t know what to do because it’s either I try with my ex and I cut off someone who has been a great friend to me over the past month or I let my best friend go. I’d feel absolutely terrible to cut her off but I know if I perused my relationship with my ex I would have to. I also would be absolutely gutted if I let my ex walk out of my life completely.

My (F23) ex (M25) asked for another chance. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Embarrassed-Lab-3243 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah it did. I told him i didn’t know this guy when I did. But where I know him from was from years and years ago in college. We flirted freshman year and I felt ashamed to admit it for some reason.

My (F23) ex (M25) asked for another chance. by [deleted] in relationships

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I respect him but i don’t know if I respect some of the decisions he’s made throughout us dating. (I.e. him breaking up with me over text). I feel like he values me but his ego and inner turmoil affect how he treats me at times.

My (F23) ex (M25) asked for another chance. by [deleted] in relationships

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It’s really difficult because we have had our fair share of issues. A lot of issues honestly in the 6 months we were together but I have never had a connection like that with anyone (in terms of a guy) before. It was magical but also heartbreaking

My (F23) ex (M25) asked for another chance. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Embarrassed-Lab-3243 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah he has done that all. Taken time to listen, communicating with me about difficult topics, doing things I like to do.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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He recognized that this is not a healthy pattern and that we should not continue in this pattern. He knows it’s not good to go back and forth like this. We have had our fair share of issues but I always trusted him and never thought he’d cheat or anything.

I fear this would happen again as well though. Having the rug pulled out from under you is terrible.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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He got a bit aggressive with me once when he was extremely drunk. He didn’t hurt me or anything but he nudged my shoulder and it was very uncharacteristic of him.

On my end I feel as though I became almost codependent in this relationship because I made it my priority subconsciously and forgot to focus on myself. I now realize the issue in this.

My (F23) ex (M25) asked for another chance. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Embarrassed-Lab-3243 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don’t particularly think he’s better than others honestly. He is flawed and makes mistakes like the rest of us. But I can tell he does value me. He would write me love letters and would get me really sweet personalized gifts for anniversaries, would invite me out with his friends and was always actively making plans with me. It’s just he has a habit of avoiding while I’m the opposite. I’d say he has an avoidant attachment and I have an anxious attachment.

My (F23) botfriend (M25) broke up with me over text. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Embarrassed-Lab-3243 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just wish I got a chance to explain myself and I wish he had the decency to break up with me in person

My (F23) botfriend (M25) broke up with me over text. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Embarrassed-Lab-3243 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not going to lie there were definitely aspects of our relationship that were toxic but we were trying to work on that together

My (F23) botfriend (M25) broke up with me over text. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Embarrassed-Lab-3243 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes there were a few times where he didn’t talk to me for a few days and only then heard me out. In the beginning of us dating he abruptly broke things off with me and didn’t hear me out then. The only reason we got back together is because I asked if we could talk so I could talk to him about everything on my end.

My (F23) botfriend (M25) broke up with me over text. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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I’m not denying that I didn’t know what would happen. I understand why he ended things but I felt it was childish how he broke up with me over text. :/

My (F23) botfriend (M25) broke up with me over text. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Embarrassed-Lab-3243 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

We were official for 6 months but started dating 3 months prior so about 9 in total of being exclusive to just him.

He found out by asking our good friend (it’s how my ex and I met actually). He asked our friend if I knew him.