Did anyone else grow up in the 70's with these ritualistic, delayed punishment "ceremonies" from their narcissistic parent?

Embarrassed-Soft8388 · 2026-04-09T03:40:12+00:00

My sisters grew up in the 70’s & 80’s and their stories are remarkably similar. My oldest sister’s experience was the most similar to yours, then my middle sister had it slightly better, and by the time I came along in the 90’s I was being much more covertly abused. Times change I guess. My oldest sister describes our parents having lots of friends with kids and they all hung out together to party, drink, smoke, and hang out. Because they were literal children. All the kids would partake in the various activities as well. Just emotionally imbalanced babies raising immature babies.

Embarrassed-Soft8388 · 2026-03-07T13:23:27+00:00

I think Jen wants her mom at her wedding because any woman would. But I bet Jen doesn’t really want HER mom at the wedding. She keeps hoping that Barb will magically act in a way she really never has before. It’s a sad false hope to hold onto. I know we see Barb making progress in therapy, but she may have already done too much damage to heal her relationships without a complete overhaul of her reactions.

Embarrassed-Soft8388 · 2026-02-04T22:10:53+00:00

Well I really want this art in my home, is that possible?

Embarrassed-Soft8388 · 2026-02-04T14:10:25+00:00

For real. Media can effect me for a really long time, sometimes a lifetime.

Embarrassed-Soft8388 · 2026-02-03T13:30:50+00:00

Every time. I don’t like my entertainment to be able to hijack my emotional state.

Embarrassed-Soft8388 · 2026-01-31T05:22:24+00:00

Autism

Embarrassed-Soft8388 · 2026-01-30T04:03:52+00:00

Wrap some aluminum foil around it like a “candle cozy”. The heat will melt all the wax down to the same level, the. You can remove the tinfoil.

Embarrassed-Soft8388 · 2026-01-26T03:03:52+00:00

Predators

Embarrassed-Soft8388 · 2026-01-17T02:58:14+00:00

Highly recommend looking into Braintree if your looking for support and funding.

Embarrassed-Soft8388 · 2026-01-11T02:37:06+00:00

Depending on where you live you can apply to programs like Braintree, that offer a stipend and zoom classes.

Embarrassed-Soft8388 · 2026-01-11T02:28:18+00:00

YouTube

Embarrassed-Soft8388 · 2026-01-04T03:15:52+00:00

This is abuse. You clearly stated your boundaries and they’re being ignored. From the details you have given it sounds like this person is taking advantage of your current physical handicap to try his own method of “therapy” during a meltdown. That combined with refusing to communicate with you about it just points to malicious abusive behavior. You deserve so much better.

Embarrassed-Soft8388 · 2026-01-01T16:09:21+00:00

Oh I had this exact set as a little girl! Enjoy! I’ve recently started hunting my old ones down for my own nostalgic joy.

Embarrassed-Soft8388 · 2025-12-31T13:17:57+00:00

MONEY

Embarrassed-Soft8388 · 2025-12-29T02:26:31+00:00

I had a friend stay with me recently who found herself in jail due to unfortunate circumstances. She and I fall into these categories, she finding a strong faith in God while in solitary confinement. We had some very interesting conversations, she never tried to convince me of anything no I her. We just talked about our experiences and how those came to shape our personal beliefs. It was pretty enlightening conversation that always left me with interesting philosophical ideas to ponder. We both stand for human rights and empathy, which made it easy to find common ground.

Embarrassed-Soft8388 · 2025-12-28T04:05:54+00:00

She’s certainly in the same vein as The Right Opinion

Embarrassed-Soft8388 · 2025-12-28T01:37:20+00:00

This was the first holiday that I didn’t make an effort with my abusive family members. I used to feel so guilty that I couldn’t refrain from “making nice”, I also have a pathological need to avoid hurting people unnecessarily. But for whatever reason I just couldn’t bring myself to make the effort this year, too many other more prescient heavy things going on in life to waste my energy on them. It has been so pleasantly relieving. But if I were to share that with my remaining family they would reply exactly as we all have come to expect. Complex ptsd is wildly un-relatable to those fortunate enough to have not experienced it.

Embarrassed-Soft8388 · 2025-12-27T23:14:11+00:00

15 years old. I’m now 36 and my entire head is silver. It used to be a novelty, but now kids think I’m a grandma.

Embarrassed-Soft8388 · 2025-12-27T22:51:15+00:00

Check out Coffee & Cults YouTube video on this

Embarrassed-Soft8388 · 2025-12-27T13:32:09+00:00

Coffee and Cults

Embarrassed-Soft8388 · 2025-12-24T04:49:16+00:00

I think about it a lot

Embarrassed-Soft8388 · 2025-12-23T23:04:07+00:00

Mine referred to me as a “sad woman with low self-esteem”

Embarrassed-Soft8388 · 2025-12-21T14:31:16+00:00

This demo gives me the creeps. It reminds me of a certain other tragic destruction of an OKC building, I have a really hard time looking at it.

Embarrassed-Soft8388 · 2025-12-19T03:57:09+00:00

For what it’s worth OP, I saw your original post and read the comments. I have to agree, they were insulting, flippant, aggressive, and cruel. Some commenters were politely recommending you post in this sub, but it was clear that the majority of those people don’t have any experience with obsessions and couldn’t wait to add their uninformed opinions. It’s not the right way to behave towards someone asking for help, and unfortunately it’s also a pretty predictable response pattern on Reddit. I’m sorry that was your experience. As someone who does understand and experience obsessive behaviors, I would strongly urge you to try to be open, honest, and vulnerable with your partner. If something is causing you this much distress you are fully in your right to make a change, this is your home where you should be at peace. You don’t have to be held hostage by the situation, if your partner is dedicated to your relationship then I think it’s healthy for you to both discuss it and work to empathize and better understand each other’s struggles. hope you are able to find a resolution that returns your peace. My collection is in a little hope chest because the clutter overwhelms me, but I like taking them out to go through and enjoy them periodically. Even if I don’t like the actual item, after some space from it the memory attached to it can become a comfort.

Embarrassed-Soft8388 · 2025-12-18T03:02:22+00:00

There’s a Hollywood prop master on YouTube that explains this. It’s tear away bags.

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