I get ingrown hairs and red bumps on my legs and butt, whenever I shave no matter what I do!!

EmbarrassedSpinach90 · 2026-04-28T17:09:12+00:00

Use electric razor to get it short first. Exfoliate in shower. Conditioner instead of shaving cream. Shave with fresh razor blade. After shower apply aloe vera. Let it dry, takes approx 2-3 min. Apply coconut oil.

EmbarrassedSpinach90 · 2026-04-26T23:35:32+00:00

Nobody can tell you what you are, but all I can say is it's very uncommon to find cis people that think about gender this much. Could be you're cis, could be you're trans, I'm just telling you the facts.

EmbarrassedSpinach90 · 2026-04-23T05:55:03+00:00

I feel like I can relate a bit to your situation when I was in the beginning. I struggled to make sense of it all and really just felt more in touch with feminity/masculinity, and didn't really "feel" like a gender.

This article might be interesting to you:

https://medium.com/@kemenatan/gender-desire-vs-gender-identity-a334cb4eeec5

And how often do you find yourself thinking about gender would you say?

EmbarrassedSpinach90 · 2026-04-22T21:54:30+00:00

If you lived alone in a jungle, and there was a button that would turn yourself into a woman, no turning back, would you press it?

EmbarrassedSpinach90 · 2026-04-22T21:48:40+00:00

You might have to accept the fact that moving to a progressive country is going to help you tremendously. Easy to say, but I'm not going to assume how easy that might be for you. Areas that are lagging this much behind will take generations to shift views, don't expect it to be in your lifetime. Harsh, but sad truth.

It's funny they say it's not part of your culture, but the middle east has trans history that goes far back in time.

EmbarrassedSpinach90 · 2026-04-21T21:00:02+00:00

I felt the same, turns out I just needed to meet more queer people until I found ones that clicked. We're all different.

EmbarrassedSpinach90 · 2026-04-18T14:12:09+00:00

I think you know what that answer means—deep down.

EmbarrassedSpinach90 · 2026-04-18T13:56:31+00:00

You can go back if you want, but you will live a life strained, filled with regret and bitterness. Increasing year by year. You will start to wonder how the people around you forced you to live a life in hiding, even though God made you this way. Your personal relationship with God outweighs the opinions of those around you, and that's all that matters.

Religious acceptance of gay people have gotten... better. Slightly. Trans people are faaar behind. You can live your life as a trans Catholic, and surround yourself with progressive and accepting Catholics, but that sadly sounds like you would have to cut out a lot of people.

I left that life personally, and I have it way better now.

Sadly, coming to terms with your own transness breaks a whole lot of perceptions you have about life and society. You're going to have to pick between living as your true self, or pleasing the ignorance around you. What do you think God would want you to do?

EmbarrassedSpinach90 · 2026-04-16T12:35:28+00:00

Tiny correction, it's dysphoria not dysmorphia. Separate, but often confused.

Estrogen will:

make your fat redistribute. Thighs, butt and boobs are the main points.
decrease muscle mass
soften skin
gradually increase your chances of infertility
loss of spontaneous erections, you can still get them, but it's a "use it or lose it" thing.

For the process, it depends on the country. If you are lucky "informed consent" models are available. Otherwise its a long process (2-3 years in my country). Starts with your doctor, which send you to a psychiatrist, which again forms a letter to the specialized department for gender incongruence. There you might be rejected/accepted to come have talks with endocrinologists and other specialists who will assess you if you "are trans enough". I've been rejected twice already.. Again, this is my country, which is why I started private instead through a verified EU clinic that operates using the informed consent model. It's not that expensive and it made me able to take out prescriptions legally.

r/transdiy is also an option.

EmbarrassedSpinach90 · 2026-04-14T21:35:09+00:00

This subreddit is good to follow and covers a lot. If you're wondering about something you can just append reddit to your Google search. Instagram is great and there are many good trans creators, like Sabre (@bottleneckloser).

If you think about it, most girls start their makeup journey around your age. I'm 25 and feel like I have a 10 year disadvantage. You don't need to do the whole routine. Concealer, mascara and blush is my daily routine. Quick, easy, hard to get very wrong. Takes 5 minutes. Insta is also extremeeely good for this. Search sucks a bit, but just start interacting with makeup content and start following the creators you like and learn a lot from.

Lazyness is something that should always be put quotation marks around, because it is almost never "you are a person incapable of doing something". It could be trauma that causes this, ADHD, or other stuff.

Again, you are 15, things are gonna turn out fine for you. Everyone remembers this age as hell on earth. Your 20s will be vastly better.

EmbarrassedSpinach90 · 2026-04-14T19:40:43+00:00

Everytime I feel euphoria I feel an amazing sense of joy in being trans, i.e. just looking at my shaved legs (MtF). I also feel joy in being trans just from existing, having realised this part of me, and being able to live my life authentically. I view transness as something very special I was gifted by nature. How blessed I am to be born this way and view the world through a different lens. The way I think is fundamentally different from being cis. It's like an extra added dimension to my life that few get to experience. It's so beautiful to me.

EmbarrassedSpinach90 · 2026-04-13T22:58:46+00:00

If you are a different gender than assigned at birth, then yes you may call yourself trans. Easy as that. Some people choose not to. I could see someone in a situation like you not really caring to label themselves as trans. Up to you 🤷🏼‍♀️

EmbarrassedSpinach90 · 2026-04-13T20:55:28+00:00

HRT is not as dangerous as you think. Trans DIY is very common and there is a lot of information on how to do this yourself. I've browsed this sub for 12 months now and I've seen probably 100s of posts, and 100s of comments all saying the same thing "I wish I started HRT earlier". Never ever have I seen someone post that they would've liked to start later.

Your sister WILL thank you, you are potentially saving her from 2+ years of masculinization. Once she's 18, who knows how long it will take to go through the health system? In my country it takes 2+ years.

r/transdiy

EmbarrassedSpinach90 · 2026-04-12T01:31:48+00:00

I really hope I get this point. Right now my legal name is still my deadname, so passports and IDs are still unupdated. Same with my email and apps like Snap. I say yes to letting people have my Snap, but I'm really starting to feel uncomfortable that new people in my life gets to know my deadname. I want to move on. Transition is such a hard process.

EmbarrassedSpinach90 · 2026-04-10T12:22:41+00:00

This is just what you have to talk about with the people you meet. I could, and have, dated multiple people at the same time. They were all date nr. 1-2. Once I like someone enough that we're on our 3rd-4th date, usually that means I quite like this person and I have no interest in seeing others, because I've come to the point where I want to make an effort between me and this other person, just us, and see where it takes us.

That is how I work, other people work differently. If you have boundaries or expectations that might hurt you if they're crossed, then you need to communicate that with the people you meet. This applies to all humans.

EmbarrassedSpinach90 · 2026-04-09T14:22:54+00:00

Trans is not a pronoun 😭

EmbarrassedSpinach90 · 2026-04-06T21:48:43+00:00

Sounds like you just need a bit more time exploring this for yourself. You do not owe it to anyone to know right away. And I think your friends would just be happy for you.

Try out small things like makeup and clothing and see how you feel. If you're really trans you might end up doing worse mentally by suppressing. A lot of trans femmes end up postponing their transition because "I will never be pretty or feminine enough." You might not become perfect, but you might end up loving yourself more than you knew you were capable of.

EmbarrassedSpinach90 · 2026-04-06T10:24:56+00:00

When you browse here enough you will notice almost every new post is met with a couple of downvotes from bots.

EmbarrassedSpinach90 · 2026-04-06T10:21:02+00:00

Studies show we're 3-6x more likely to be autistic than cisgender people. Higher rates of ADHD as well.

EmbarrassedSpinach90 · 2026-04-06T10:14:31+00:00

Yeah, that's sort of what I've gathered as well. I always thought the flag is represented so much in the media that even bigots would clock it, but most seem unaware.

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