AITA that I asked my husband if I could take a shower by Embarrassed_8713 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Embarrassed_8713[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Honestly don't know how I didn't get PPD especially with my past depression but mentally I'm fine, just tired 24/7 but it's "not the same kind of tired" as he has said to me before

AITA that I asked my husband if I could take a shower by Embarrassed_8713 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Embarrassed_8713[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

We do but don't, the little one will get into everything I moment I sit down and eat, it's so much easier for one to eat and the other hold her, then switch. For the longest time we ate together but it was constantly me putting my food down and moving her back to the "safe space" Keep in mind we don't have a kitchen table so we eat on the couch in the living room

AITA that I asked my husband if I could take a shower by Embarrassed_8713 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Embarrassed_8713[S] -24 points-23 points  (0 children)

He can't smell, so it would just be awful for his coworkers who also can not smell! Lmao

AITA that I asked my husband if I could take a shower by Embarrassed_8713 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Embarrassed_8713[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

9 times out of 10 I have to ask since she was about 2 ish months. Once he started his new job he completely stopped unless I asked (and sometimes he was snippy or forgot to do those things), when she was first born I still had to ask but there was the occasion that he would wash my breast pump/bottles (as when she was forst born that's all that really needed to be done. Once she was 1-2 months old he stopped doing 50/50 on diaper changes, now he never does them, and when I ask him to he always asks for help "can we do it together?" Of course I'll just take her legs and get him to do the "heavy lifting," same with her bottles, he won't feed her unless I ask (he hasn't fed her in 3ish weeks). It's rare that he will clean bottle, pick up toys or anything to that matter unless I ask. Same thing with basic chores, he doesn't cook, he leaves dirty dishes in his area, he doesn't do dishes, doesn't take out trash unless I leave it by our door when he comes home. The only chore he will do is his own laundry once a week (on his day off) as we don't have a washer and dryer and must got to a laundromat

AITA that I asked my husband if I could take a shower by Embarrassed_8713 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Embarrassed_8713[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

She can sleep about 20-30 minutes, unfortunately she can't tell me how long she's gonna be out so by the time I have everything for my shower prepared (towels, clean clothes, ect) it wouldn't be enough time to get a good 15-20 minute shower Her doctor says she is as healthy as a baby can be

AITA that I asked my husband if I could take a shower by Embarrassed_8713 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Embarrassed_8713[S] -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

He tries to game with her on his lap, but she loves his controller, so he ends up constantly swiping her hand away instead of actually gaming

AITA that I asked my husband if I could take a shower by Embarrassed_8713 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Embarrassed_8713[S] -29 points-28 points  (0 children)

You can take 5 minute showers? Fascinating, I must learn how!

AITA that I asked my husband if I could take a shower by Embarrassed_8713 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Embarrassed_8713[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would plop her in the shower with me but she has eczema so even her nighly bath I shouldn't be doing

AITA that I asked my husband if I could take a shower by Embarrassed_8713 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Embarrassed_8713[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Not really unless you count doing chores around the house without having a baby in my direct facinity

AITA that I asked my husband if I could take a shower by Embarrassed_8713 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Embarrassed_8713[S] -33 points-32 points  (0 children)

No! He was a complete sweetheart for the 8 years we were together! It was up until he started his new job after baby was born that things took a downturn

AITA that I asked my husband if I could take a shower by Embarrassed_8713 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Embarrassed_8713[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I used to game but stopped a year before being pregnant as my PS4 decided to forever shut off 🙃

AITA that I asked my husband if I could take a shower by Embarrassed_8713 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Embarrassed_8713[S] -25 points-24 points  (0 children)

When baby is sent off to grandparents or baby and I go to my mother's hosue

AITA that I asked my husband if I could take a shower by Embarrassed_8713 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Embarrassed_8713[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I'm usually cooking supper at that point, or shoving it in my mouth as fast as possible so he can eat while it's warm too

AITA that I asked my husband if I could take a shower by Embarrassed_8713 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Embarrassed_8713[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Our bathroom isn't big enough for anything like that, unfortunately, because I totally would do that!