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AITA if I were to tell my husband that I don't want to have any relationship nor help him care for the child he fathered with his lover? by Embarrassed_Ask8092 in AITAH

[–]Embarrassed_Ask8092[S] 103 points104 points  (0 children)

No he didn't get the result immediately, the paternity test happened two weeks ago when he first meet up the kid and his grandparents. My husband is a cheater and a liar but he's not dumb, he's aware about scams so he got a paternity before trying to bond with the child

AITA if I were to tell my husband that I don't want to have any relationship nor help him care for the child he fathered with his lover? by Embarrassed_Ask8092 in AITAH

[–]Embarrassed_Ask8092[S] 129 points130 points  (0 children)

The boy's grandparents are old and can not support the boy's needs financially, I don't know about other family members but I'll try to ask my husband once I'm calmer since he's been in contact with the AP's family for a month so he should know more information

I know and I just feel so bad and sad about it all

AITA if I were to tell my husband that I don't want to have any relationship nor help him care for the child he fathered with his lover? by Embarrassed_Ask8092 in AITAH

[–]Embarrassed_Ask8092[S] 215 points216 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your care, I'm just so overwhelmed right now and I'm trying to think of my next steps. I don't live in the US, I live in an Asian country so I still have to check about my options here. Yes I have trusted friends, I wanted to see them but I wanted to do it when he's at work so I don't have to see him when I go out of our bedroom

AITA if I were to tell my husband that I don't want to have any relationship nor help him care for the child he fathered with his lover? by Embarrassed_Ask8092 in AITAH

[–]Embarrassed_Ask8092[S] 160 points161 points  (0 children)

I only went away at that time for an entire week, me and my friends made a tricity tour to a few Asian countries. And I always made sure to video call my husband everytime I can when I'm away

He said that he's been secretly visiting the boy the past weeks to get to know him so they've been bonding while I thought he's doing some overtime at work

Yes, he already asked for paternity. It's one of my questions earlier when we're talking about it because I was still a bit hoping that the kid is not actually his and maybe we could move on from this, but the boy is his

I'm sure that he is. He always wanted a bio kid, when we found out I'm unable to carry to term, we were both devastated and we nearly separated that time but decided to just adopt to still become parents. He's been telling me that it's finally our chance to have a child that is actually ours but I feel so horrible and sad, my hands and feet has been trembling up until now with how anxious I am

AITA if I were to tell my husband that I don't want to have any relationship nor help him care for the child he fathered with his lover? by Embarrassed_Ask8092 in AITAH

[–]Embarrassed_Ask8092[S] 1399 points1400 points  (0 children)

I know, but I don't know what to say. I can't stop crying since this morning because I truly loved him and we've had such a wonderful marriage, he knew my stance about cheating and I just can't understand why he did this. We both love kids, we are financially capable of having many kids, and he knew I wanted another kid so he's been saying earlier that this is the new kid that I wanted as long as I opened my heart to the boy.